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Yes, it's considered irregularity even if the "irregular" months don't come one after the other. And as far as the pregnancy tests go, as long as you've been following the directions about when and how to test, there's no reason to assume the results would be wrong (and getting for false n...

Hi kiwious, Given that the condom did not break or come off, and that you used withdrawal on top of it, and that you've had four negative pregnancy tests, I don't think an additional, blood test is necessary. Since you know your cycle still has some irregularity, it's likely that, and not pregnancy,...

A new entry in our Pelvis Problems series! https://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodi ... continence

An awesome new piece from guest writer Artemis Weickert! https://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodi ... o_intersex

Hi Theansweris42, I'm going to start with that last, more practical question first. There's not a lot of predicting what each member of the group will think, but if there's no reason to assume they'll think you're making excuses, especially if any of them have a sense of how your parents are. I'm al...

Some beautiful, compassionate advice from guest writer Celia Bliss: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advi ... y_what_now

Hi OddEggplant859, It does sound like it's time for a bigger conversation with him about conflict and how the way he's acting during arguments now needs to stop. Not only is yelling and calling your partner names not a good way to actually resolve an issue, it's not a kind way to treat them, period....

Hi Han, I'll address your last point first: no, you're not a terrible person for enjoying and wanting sex but not feeling that same way about romance. I really, really like the advice given to someone in a similar situation in this article: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/is_it_bad_that_i_...

Would you say it's closer to a hard bump or does it feel softer or fleshier than that?

Hi tshlacog, This sounds like such a rough situation, both for your partner and for you. They're clearly in a bad dysphoria spike, and it can be so heartbreaking to watch someone you care about be in the midst of that and feel like there's nothing you can do to help. I wonder, do you think it would ...

Hi Mixxes, Honestly, that reel sounds like it's trying to collapse a lot of things into one, and it's sort of missing the part where there can be a lot of diversity within healthy relationships (also, a lack of a spark is generally about chemistry or attraction, not attachment styles). I actually wo...

Hi dollparties, I'm so glad to hear you're doing better and have found someone who cares about and respects you! And there's no need to apologize for how you sounded in earlier posts; one of the rough things about unhealthy or downright abusive relationship dynamics is that people come up with all s...

Hi Cocopops,

Is what you're feeling on the sides of the vaginal canal, or is it at the back, top, or bottom?

Yeah, I think that distance might be the best call, especially if she's doing physical things that are only adding to that feeling of confusion or hurt. As far as staying friends with her goes, that's entirely up to you. For some people, saying things like "I can't get past your gender identity...

You're very welcome, I hope they help! And I'm glad to hear you already have some tools you use when you're feeling anxious; those can also be things to talk with your therapist about so the two of you can incorporate them into your strategies for managing your anxiety.

Hi Mixxes, Oof, I absolutely see why that left you feeling confused and crummy. It seems like she made a lot of big statements about her attraction patterns and desire not to have any kind of romantic or physical relationship and then threw in those comments about it not being definitive right after...

Hi Rubie, You know, something I've noticed is that plenty of people do have instances of sex that stick with them the way you're describing. What tends to vary is whether or not it was what they consider their first time (for a lot of people, their first time can be pretty underwhelming, so it's gre...

Hi Digdawg, Ooof, yeah, the process of trying to adjust dosages can lead to some seriously stressful moments while you figure out where the threshold is. I'm glad one upshot of the whole thing has been you taking steps to find some extra mental health support! As far as broaching the pregnancy anxie...

Hi Anonymous275,

If you were feeling a lot of sexual desire during that time, that could have led to actual arousal, which has all kinds of physical feelings that can go along with it. So it's likely that's what was causing those sensations you were noticing.

No worries! Since it's only happened today, I wouldn't say it's cause for concern. If you notice it's not stopping, or it matches with the warning signs in this article, then it might be time to check in with a healthcare provider: Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions

Ah, okay, thank you for that, I misunderstood! It's possible this is a side effect of plan B, but it's also totally normal to have instances where your discharge is a little odd without anything bigger being wrong. Did it only happen once? And has it been accompanied by any discomfort or pain of any...

Hi juliapf,

One of the common side effects of emergency contraception like Plan B is that it can cause some irregularity in your cycle. If you're on the pill, that can include when your withdrawal bleed comes. So that's likely why you haven't got a withdrawal bleed so far.

Got it. Do you think it's worth reaching out to your ex and talking about how you're feeling and what's changed and seeing how he's feeling in turn?

All those feelings you're describing are really common things people deal with after their first time having vaginal sex! If it helps to know, unless you tell them or they somehow saw you do it, people can't really tell you're sexually active, even if it feels like you're walking around with a flash...

You know, something we know about the first, or first few, times people have vaginal sex is that it can be kind of underwhelming. I really like how this piece dives into those feelings: Is THAT All There Is? . I also think recognizing that having a colored or more noticeable condom helps you feel mo...