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by Sam W
Mon Sep 27, 2021 9:29 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is it worth trying?
Replies: 2
Views: 27

Re: Is it worth trying?

Hi Astia, In addition to what Coral said, I think it would help to focus less on what the actresses or hypothetical who engage in this kind of sex feel about it and how you feel about. What about it appeals to you? Are there things that worry you about it? Do you feel capable of actively communicati...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 27, 2021 9:12 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How to get stains out of your pillow after humping?
Replies: 1
Views: 15

Re: How to get stains out of your pillow after humping?

Hi mlebrantxo,

The simplest solution is to wash the load of laundry along with your pillow case, or you could wash it by hand. Too, it's very unlikely that--if someone else is doing the laundry--they'll give much notice to the kind of stain left by discharge.
by Sam W
Mon Sep 27, 2021 7:35 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 46
Views: 841

Re: So there's a guy...

So, with the caveat that you know your parents and their likely reactions to things better than we do, I feel like I should point out that what you describe them doing if you set boundaries or assert independence is more or less what they do already; taking electronics, restricting movement, and dem...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 27, 2021 7:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I think my partner is emotionally abusive
Replies: 4
Views: 43

Re: I think my partner is emotionally abusive

Hi milkybarlife, I want to start by saying you deserve a tremendous amount of kudos for taking all the steps you have; leaving a partner we care for but who is unsafe for us (emotionally or physically) is often incredibly difficult. You've not only put distance between him and yourself, you've also ...
by Sam W
Sat Sep 25, 2021 7:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: discharge question
Replies: 2
Views: 51

Re: discharge question

Hi lycheefan,

Nope, there being discharge on the outside of the condom isn't cause for concern, even if it's a very noticeable patch of it. And yes, sometimes discharge will look a little different after sex, especially if there was lube involved.
by Sam W
Sat Sep 25, 2021 7:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: unable to deal with ocd
Replies: 1
Views: 29

Re: unable to deal with ocd

Hi aaru257, I'm so sorry that you're still struggling with anxiety around this. My first recommendation is to take a break (at least 24 hours, if not more) from googling or otherwise reading about anything related to pregnancy. Sometimes that all by itself is enough to sort of break the anxiety loop...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 23, 2021 10:30 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 46
Views: 841

Re: So there's a guy...

Hi Jenny, I think the answer is, if you're parents have control of everything, to start finding ways to take some of that control for yourself. That can be extra tricky when you're navigating things like lack finances or a disability, but it's still possible. Sometimes it's long term things, like ge...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 23, 2021 10:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Size
Replies: 24
Views: 227

Re: Penis Size

Is there a particular reason you're feeling that way? It may help to know that you're still right in the middle of puberty, so your (and all of your friends) body is still in the process of growing and changing. So, in addition to the fact there's a ton of diversity in how bodies and genitals look, ...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 21, 2021 10:15 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 46
Views: 841

Re: So there's a guy...

That certainly sounds ridiculous (and like it's probably stressful for both of you)! Since this such a long-running habit of your parent's, I think it would work best to start small. You two are already sort of doing this, by asserting that when one of you goes to hang out with friends, it doesn't m...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 21, 2021 6:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Size
Replies: 24
Views: 227

Re: Penis Size

Honestly, it's sort of a wait and see situation. If you end up needing more information about how to deal with and care for your foreskin, that link Urna gave you will be really helpful.
by Sam W
Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:45 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 46
Views: 841

Re: So there's a guy...

That does sound stressful for him! I do think that his lack of (it sounds like) any free time might take him out of the running as a potential date, at least for the time being. When it comes to transitioning into a more active dating or social life, some starting places would be to find things you ...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Size
Replies: 24
Views: 227

Re: Penis Size

Not forcing it is a sound call. If it's not causing you any pain, then it's likely that you're just experiencing one of the many ways a penis can be.
by Sam W
Mon Sep 20, 2021 10:56 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Flashbacks during examinations
Replies: 13
Views: 323

Re: Flashbacks during examinations

You're so welcome! And I'm so, so glad your support system during pregnancy is as robust as it is.
by Sam W
Sun Sep 19, 2021 7:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman
Replies: 28
Views: 553

Re: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman

I'm so glad you were able to get the care you needed, and that masturbation is now something pleasurable you get to explore!
by Sam W
Sat Sep 18, 2021 9:07 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: my mum won't stop victim blaming me
Replies: 3
Views: 124

Re: my mum won't stop victim blaming me

Saving up to move out sounds like an excellent plan! And I'm glad the article was helpful; the "I won't take sides" argument is often framed as the "reasonable" one, so I appreciate Captain Awkward for laying out so clearly why it's nonsense in cases of abuse. I think working on ...
by Sam W
Sat Sep 18, 2021 8:08 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: my mum won't stop victim blaming me
Replies: 3
Views: 124

Re: my mum won't stop victim blaming me

Hi Firefly, I'm so sorry that your mom is not only blaming you, but is now not respecting your boundaries around not discussing this topic. I can only imagine how stressful that is on top of feeling on edge around your brother (it sounds like you're being really proactive about speaking up or gettin...
by Sam W
Fri Sep 17, 2021 6:55 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is this normal, or even right?
Replies: 9
Views: 434

Re: Is this normal, or even right?

Honestly, if you think trying to masturbate would create that level of anxiety about controlling it for you, then holding off on it is a sound choice. Too, choosing not to masturbate because the negatives outweigh the positives for you isn't really repression, no more than not wanting to engage in a...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 16, 2021 10:02 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Flashbacks during examinations
Replies: 13
Views: 323

Re: Flashbacks during examinations

Okay! These ones can act as starting points, and may also be ones that you and your midwife can use or reference together: https://rise.articulate.com/share/8Oo2-UGd5Jc5AyjV6rs5iyc4cf5tF88S#/, https://www.pennysimkin.com/shop/when-survivors-give-birth/ (this book came up in multiple recommendations)...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 14, 2021 8:06 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 3
Views: 188

Re: Masturbation

Hi Brennan8833,

To make sure I'm understanding right, is it that when you try masturbating it doesn't feel pleasurable? And when you've tried masturbating in the past, do you tend to approach it the same way every time?
by Sam W
Mon Sep 13, 2021 9:49 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 46
Views: 841

Re: So there's a guy...

The very late (or very early, depending on how you look at it) certainly makes sense given what you've shared about his schedule. In addition to reconnecting with him, have you been taking other steps to connect or reconnect with other friends you fell out of touch with (or people you're hoping will...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 13, 2021 7:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman
Replies: 28
Views: 553

Re: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman

Most healthcare providers have heard people report all sorts of causes for their injuries, so if this doesn't go away it wouldn't be strange to be truthful with your healthcare provider.
by Sam W
Mon Sep 13, 2021 7:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is my vagina too tight?
Replies: 3
Views: 202

Re: Is my vagina too tight?

Hi cyanolove,

I'm glad talking here was helpful! And it sounds like you and your boyfriend have really been communicating around all this, which is great to hear.
by Sam W
Mon Sep 13, 2021 7:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman
Replies: 28
Views: 553

Re: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman

Hi Rubix, So, the perineum is home to the pudendal nerve, which means it can generate a lot of sensation when stimulated. However, that also means that it can become too sensitive when stimulated; similar to how someone may find touching the clitoris goes from pleasurable to painful because of how s...
by Sam W
Sat Sep 11, 2021 7:54 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Flashbacks during examinations
Replies: 13
Views: 323

Re: Flashbacks during examinations

It sounds like you're already doing an awesome job of setting boundaries around medical care when you need to (something that can be really hard to do, since most of us are taught just to do whatever the healthcare provider says), and like you're working with your midwife to try and lessen the flash...

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