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by Sam W
Tue Sep 21, 2021 10:15 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 40
Views: 728

Re: So there's a guy...

That certainly sounds ridiculous (and like it's probably stressful for both of you)! Since this such a long-running habit of your parent's, I think it would work best to start small. You two are already sort of doing this, by asserting that when one of you goes to hang out with friends, it doesn't m...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 21, 2021 6:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Size
Replies: 9
Views: 89

Re: Penis Size

Honestly, it's sort of a wait and see situation. If you end up needing more information about how to deal with and care for your foreskin, that link Urna gave you will be really helpful.
by Sam W
Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:45 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 40
Views: 728

Re: So there's a guy...

That does sound stressful for him! I do think that his lack of (it sounds like) any free time might take him out of the running as a potential date, at least for the time being. When it comes to transitioning into a more active dating or social life, some starting places would be to find things you ...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 20, 2021 11:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Size
Replies: 9
Views: 89

Re: Penis Size

Not forcing it is a sound call. If it's not causing you any pain, then it's likely that you're just experiencing one of the many ways a penis can be.
by Sam W
Mon Sep 20, 2021 10:56 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Flashbacks during examinations
Replies: 13
Views: 272

Re: Flashbacks during examinations

You're so welcome! And I'm so, so glad your support system during pregnancy is as robust as it is.
by Sam W
Sun Sep 19, 2021 7:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman
Replies: 28
Views: 496

Re: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman

I'm so glad you were able to get the care you needed, and that masturbation is now something pleasurable you get to explore!
by Sam W
Sat Sep 18, 2021 9:07 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: my mum won't stop victim blaming me
Replies: 3
Views: 81

Re: my mum won't stop victim blaming me

Saving up to move out sounds like an excellent plan! And I'm glad the article was helpful; the "I won't take sides" argument is often framed as the "reasonable" one, so I appreciate Captain Awkward for laying out so clearly why it's nonsense in cases of abuse. I think working on ...
by Sam W
Sat Sep 18, 2021 8:08 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: my mum won't stop victim blaming me
Replies: 3
Views: 81

Re: my mum won't stop victim blaming me

Hi Firefly, I'm so sorry that your mom is not only blaming you, but is now not respecting your boundaries around not discussing this topic. I can only imagine how stressful that is on top of feeling on edge around your brother (it sounds like you're being really proactive about speaking up or gettin...
by Sam W
Fri Sep 17, 2021 6:55 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is this normal, or even right?
Replies: 9
Views: 343

Re: Is this normal, or even right?

Honestly, if you think trying to masturbate would create that level of anxiety about controlling it for you, then holding off on it is a sound choice. Too, choosing not to masturbate because the negatives outweigh the positives for you isn't really repression, no more than not wanting to engage in a...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 16, 2021 10:02 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Flashbacks during examinations
Replies: 13
Views: 272

Re: Flashbacks during examinations

Okay! These ones can act as starting points, and may also be ones that you and your midwife can use or reference together: https://rise.articulate.com/share/8Oo2-UGd5Jc5AyjV6rs5iyc4cf5tF88S#/, https://www.pennysimkin.com/shop/when-survivors-give-birth/ (this book came up in multiple recommendations)...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 14, 2021 8:06 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Masturbation
Replies: 3
Views: 127

Re: Masturbation

Hi Brennan8833,

To make sure I'm understanding right, is it that when you try masturbating it doesn't feel pleasurable? And when you've tried masturbating in the past, do you tend to approach it the same way every time?
by Sam W
Mon Sep 13, 2021 9:49 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 40
Views: 728

Re: So there's a guy...

The very late (or very early, depending on how you look at it) certainly makes sense given what you've shared about his schedule. In addition to reconnecting with him, have you been taking other steps to connect or reconnect with other friends you fell out of touch with (or people you're hoping will...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 13, 2021 7:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman
Replies: 28
Views: 496

Re: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman

Most healthcare providers have heard people report all sorts of causes for their injuries, so if this doesn't go away it wouldn't be strange to be truthful with your healthcare provider.
by Sam W
Mon Sep 13, 2021 7:08 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is my vagina too tight?
Replies: 3
Views: 174

Re: Is my vagina too tight?

Hi cyanolove,

I'm glad talking here was helpful! And it sounds like you and your boyfriend have really been communicating around all this, which is great to hear.
by Sam W
Mon Sep 13, 2021 7:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman
Replies: 28
Views: 496

Re: Masturbating as a pre-op trans woman

Hi Rubix, So, the perineum is home to the pudendal nerve, which means it can generate a lot of sensation when stimulated. However, that also means that it can become too sensitive when stimulated; similar to how someone may find touching the clitoris goes from pleasurable to painful because of how s...
by Sam W
Sat Sep 11, 2021 7:54 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Flashbacks during examinations
Replies: 13
Views: 272

Re: Flashbacks during examinations

It sounds like you're already doing an awesome job of setting boundaries around medical care when you need to (something that can be really hard to do, since most of us are taught just to do whatever the healthcare provider says), and like you're working with your midwife to try and lessen the flash...
by Sam W
Fri Sep 10, 2021 6:57 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 40
Views: 728

Re: So there's a guy...

Those are all awesome things to be proud of! I also feel like comparing you to your sister is extra-strange given the age difference; you two of growing up in wildly different social circumstances, on top of, you know, being unique people with different needs and wants. I agree that response suggest...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 07, 2021 7:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can I get pregnant from this?
Replies: 1
Views: 135

Re: Can I get pregnant from this?

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 07, 2021 7:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: question
Replies: 1
Views: 115

Re: question

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 07, 2021 7:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Underlying fears
Replies: 0
Views: 140

Underlying fears

Hi aaru257,

Before you do anything else,I want you to read this article: You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You think You Are?.

Looking at that article, do any of the reasons offered feel like they apply to you?
by Sam W
Mon Sep 06, 2021 12:07 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is this normal, or even right?
Replies: 9
Views: 343

Re: Is this normal, or even right?

Thank you for all those details, and no need to apologize; we want users to be able to respond at whatever pace works for them. If you're thinking about easing back into masturbation, I wonder if it would help to treat it as you would any other enjoyable activity and set limits around it. For instan...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 06, 2021 11:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is it internalised homophobia?
Replies: 3
Views: 76

Re: Is it internalised homophobia?

This is all really helpful background, thank you! Can you give me a sense of what kind of messages you grew up with around queerness, or what kinds of ones you tend to encounter now? For instance, are there lots of other LGBTQ folks in your social circles? I wonder if it would help to ask yourself s...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 06, 2021 11:08 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I need some boyfriend advice
Replies: 5
Views: 95

Re: I need some boyfriend advice

Hi Knightness, I'm glad the article was helpful! I think sticking with the double method is a sound choice (and, honestly, the one we recommend to people for both safety and peace of mind). With condoms, it really depends on the brand (you'll see ones that market themselves a thinner that may also h...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 06, 2021 9:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is it internalised homophobia?
Replies: 3
Views: 76

Re: Is it internalised homophobia?

Hi Helena, Ooof, it sounds like you have a lot of big feelings you're trying to sort through around this. One thing that may help is to separate your worries about being sexual with your friend from your more general feelings about your orientation. If it helps, what you're describing doesn't sound ...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 06, 2021 7:04 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I unlovable?
Replies: 3
Views: 176

Re: Am I unlovable?

Hi swimmingdino7, I'm so glad what Siân said was helpful! I do want to touch on what you said about friendships; it can really suck to have to say goodbye to friendships because they're no longer positive relationships for us. Do you have many opportunities in our life to meet new potential friends?...

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