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by Sam W
Thu Oct 21, 2021 10:36 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: not sure what to do now
Replies: 4
Views: 79

Re: not sure what to do now

Hi Firefly, I wonder, do you think you could explain things to him similarly to how you explained them to us here? Including the fact that part of your reaction was to reinforce the boundary you need to keep yourself safe from Justine (and in general) and that you don't want to lose the closeness yo...
by Sam W
Thu Oct 21, 2021 10:23 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Am I Being Obsessive?
Replies: 1
Views: 24

Re: Am I Being Obsessive?

Hi soursammy, When we develop strong feelings for someone, it can sometimes take awhile for those feelings to fade all the way away, even when we know we can't act on them or when we don't even want to anymore. And lots of people experience a relationship loss (even if it's just the loss of a romant...
by Sam W
Sat Oct 16, 2021 9:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: attracted to gay guys?
Replies: 3
Views: 104

Re: attracted to gay guys?

Hi mossypebble, Let's actually dig into that desire to be one half a male/male couple a bit. When you think about what makes it seem special to you, does it feel like that's about the dynamic between the two people? About the expectations that might exist in that kind of couple? Just the experience ...
by Sam W
Sat Oct 16, 2021 8:19 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: discovering past assault
Replies: 3
Views: 106

Re: discovering past assault

Hi Elias, The first thing I want to say is that it sounds like you're doing a really good job building a support network for yourself when it comes to dealing with trauma and with the effects of mental illness. That can be a really hard process at times, but going through it can be an incredibly wor...
by Sam W
Thu Oct 14, 2021 8:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I have a question
Replies: 1
Views: 87

Re: I have a question

Hi Liam,

Semen can sometimes be temporarily clear and watery, even though it's usually thicker and white-is. It may also be that some of what you're seeing is pre-ejaculate, since that is thinner in consistency than ejaculate is. So, this is unlikely to be cause for concern.
by Sam W
Thu Oct 14, 2021 7:40 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 91
Views: 1890

Re: So there's a guy...

Hi Jenny, That all sounds incredibly frustrating! Since it sounds like you've never found ways of approaching conversations that get them to change their perspectives, have you ever noticed your siblings, or family friends, who've been able to get them to change their minds? If so, did you notice an...
by Sam W
Tue Oct 12, 2021 7:50 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Help with anal
Replies: 3
Views: 237

Re: Help with anal

Hi cherrycrab, So, something like fisting is the kind of sexual activity someone needs to proceed really, really carefully with, because you're trying to fit something into the anus that's much larger than what it's meant to accommodate. It's less likely that you're feeling bones and more that you'r...
by Sam W
Sun Oct 03, 2021 9:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vaginas
Replies: 3
Views: 114

Re: Vaginas

Hi Ryan,

Can you say a little more about the issues you're experiencing and why they're causing you concern?
by Sam W
Sun Oct 03, 2021 8:09 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Imbalance in friendships
Replies: 13
Views: 475

Re: Imbalance in friendships

One of the great things about boundaries is that you get to decide them for yourself, so if your friend texting you in the future when you're in a crisis is something you're okay with and ready to help with, even with those feelings it creates, that's a choice you get to make, even if it's not the c...
by Sam W
Sun Oct 03, 2021 7:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I think my partner is emotionally abusive
Replies: 9
Views: 308

Re: I think my partner is emotionally abusive

You're so very welcome, and I'm glad talking here has been helpful for you.

If you want to update about this situation or ask more questions about it down the road, you're welcome to keep posting in this thread.
by Sam W
Sun Oct 03, 2021 7:49 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How to eliminate the smell of masturbation?
Replies: 1
Views: 122

Re: How to eliminate the smell of masturbation?

Hi thathsme3467,

Can you be a little more specific? For instance, are you referring to the smell fluids might leave when they stain, or something else?
by Sam W
Sat Oct 02, 2021 8:04 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Imbalance in friendships
Replies: 13
Views: 475

Re: Imbalance in friendships

Hi Raffles, It sounds like this friendship has relied on you putting a lot of effort into supporting them for quite awhile. That's not always a bad thing, especially in the short term, but as you've discovered it can be really draining over time. When you think about graduating and this friend, what...
by Sam W
Fri Oct 01, 2021 9:59 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 91
Views: 1890

Re: So there's a guy...

Okay, when you're not busy I would definitely make time to contact them; they may also be able to help you with some employment stuff down the line. Can you say a little more about how your other older brother tries to help you out? I think working on your resume this weekend is an excellent plan! I...
by Sam W
Fri Oct 01, 2021 9:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Porn addiction
Replies: 14
Views: 297

Re: Porn addiction

I'm glad you're finding our conversations here helpful! If you haven't already read this article, you might find some of the advice on not acting on the urge to masturbate when you don't really want to: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/i_feel_no_pleasure_with_orgasm_but_i_dont_really_want_t...
by Sam W
Fri Oct 01, 2021 7:28 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 91
Views: 1890

Re: So there's a guy...

Do your parents do anything or say anything to your brother when he barges in (or in the instance where he triggered a seizure)? If they're really apathetic towards the fact that your sibling is putting you at risk, I think you might want to call either the helpline listed here: https://www.epilepsy...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 30, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I think my partner is emotionally abusive
Replies: 9
Views: 308

Re: I think my partner is emotionally abusive

I think having that three month timeline, even if it's just something in your head and not something you communicate to anyone else, would be helpful. If nothing else, you're giving yourself a set point to check in on how you're feeling as a result of the break and what next steps feel safe for you ...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 28, 2021 10:06 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is it worth trying?
Replies: 10
Views: 413

Re: Is it worth trying?

I'm glad to hear these are all partners you feel safe and comfortable with. When you say you're worried about how you're going to react to it, can you say a little more about that? Too, if you think part of this may be coming from a lot of desire and an interest in trying something new, it might hel...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 28, 2021 9:44 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 91
Views: 1890

Re: So there's a guy...

Would you feel comfortable locking your door? From what you're describing it sounds like you're way more likely to have a seizure thanks to someone triggering it by barging in than when it's locked for a little while, but obviously you'll have the best sense of what the safer option is. Too, have yo...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 28, 2021 7:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I think my partner is emotionally abusive
Replies: 9
Views: 308

Re: I think my partner is emotionally abusive

The tricky thing is that continuing the relationship, him making genuine attempts to change, and your own wellbeing may not be compatible goals at a certain point. The level of no contact you'd have to go with him--and the level a therapist working with him would recommend--would basically be the sa...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 27, 2021 9:29 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is it worth trying?
Replies: 10
Views: 413

Re: Is it worth trying?

Hi Astia, In addition to what Coral said, I think it would help to focus less on what the actresses or hypothetical who engage in this kind of sex feel about it and how you feel about. What about it appeals to you? Are there things that worry you about it? Do you feel capable of actively communicati...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 27, 2021 9:12 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How to get stains out of your pillow after humping?
Replies: 1
Views: 110

Re: How to get stains out of your pillow after humping?

Hi mlebrantxo,

The simplest solution is to wash the load of laundry along with your pillow case, or you could wash it by hand. Too, it's very unlikely that--if someone else is doing the laundry--they'll give much notice to the kind of stain left by discharge.
by Sam W
Mon Sep 27, 2021 7:35 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 91
Views: 1890

Re: So there's a guy...

So, with the caveat that you know your parents and their likely reactions to things better than we do, I feel like I should point out that what you describe them doing if you set boundaries or assert independence is more or less what they do already; taking electronics, restricting movement, and dem...

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