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by Sam W
Sat Jan 15, 2022 11:35 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Light withdrawal bleed
Replies: 1
Views: 52

Re: Light withdrawal bleed

Hi Juliaho90, There isn't really a way to make a withdrawal bleed heavier. Like your period flow, your withdrawal bleed can be influenced by lots of things going on in your body. Too, it's not that strange that you're experiencing lighter withdrawal bleeds, because that's a possible side effect of b...
by Sam W
Sat Jan 15, 2022 11:32 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Guilty or not
Replies: 21
Views: 395

Re: Guilty or not

I totally get that feeling of being anxious for so much of your life that you kind of figure it's just a thing you'll always be able to handle. But I also know that a mindset like that means that anxiety can get to the point where it's messing with your ability to enjoy and go about your life withou...
by Sam W
Sat Jan 15, 2022 11:16 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Feeling Uncomfortable Post-Orgasm
Replies: 6
Views: 166

Re: Feeling Uncomfortable Post-Orgasm

It sounds like you've done quite a bit of introspection around this, which is great! I think it's really sound to recognize that a lot of the pressure you put on yourself and the things that make sex anxiety provoking are those feelings that you need to do it all "right." You may have seen...
by Sam W
Sat Jan 15, 2022 10:03 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Guilty or not
Replies: 21
Views: 395

Re: Guilty or not

I'm so sorry to hear that your family was dismissive about what happened, and I can absolutely see why that would make to hesitant to talk them, or anyone else, about what happened. We're happy to talk with you here, but I also think it would be worthwhile to seek out some resources specifically for...
by Sam W
Sat Jan 15, 2022 9:57 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: No Pleasure; Hear Me Out
Replies: 7
Views: 193

Re: No Pleasure; Hear Me Out

Hi Cassidy, That disconnect you're describing does make sense, and to me it's another thing that indicates some of this may be about depression and/or medication. That does sound really frustrating to have some arousal there but feel like your body is just not cooperating. Does it feel worth it to y...
by Sam W
Sat Jan 15, 2022 9:17 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Feeling Uncomfortable Post-Orgasm
Replies: 6
Views: 166

Re: Feeling Uncomfortable Post-Orgasm

Hi Bessie, It does sound like that night might have been a turning point for or an origin of those feelings. Do you feel like you have a sense of what made it so anxiety provoking? I ask because that could give you information on how to build spaces that feel right for you during sex or masturbation...
by Sam W
Sat Jan 15, 2022 9:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 17
Views: 640

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

The tough thing about grief, including grief around things like lost relationships, is that it doesn't happen on a predictable timeline. And it tends to be gradual, like you'll look back suddenly and realize that you're feeling considerably better than when this all first came back to you. In fact, ...
by Sam W
Sat Jan 15, 2022 8:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Extreme shallow vagina. Is there something wrong with me?
Replies: 7
Views: 212

Re: Extreme shallow vagina. Is there something wrong with me?

It is! I think a sound next step would be to check in with a sexual healthcare provider for an exam and talk with them about some of the issues this is causing. Do you know where to start for accessing that kind of care?
by Sam W
Sat Jan 15, 2022 8:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 133
Views: 3179

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hi Sky,

We can certainly chat about sexuality stuff! And I'm sorry to hear that money is making therapy trickier to access. Have you spoken to your therapist at all about that situation and asked if she has something like a sliding scale when it comes to fees?
by Sam W
Fri Jan 14, 2022 9:21 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 17
Views: 640

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

I think you're actually already in the process of figuring out what you want, which is awesome! Something I'd actually recommend is to check out this article: Supermodel: Creating & Nurturing Your Own Best Relationship Models . When you go through that, what things jump out at you, either as thi...
by Sam W
Fri Jan 14, 2022 9:13 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Why did I have a nightmare about sexual misconduct??
Replies: 3
Views: 83

Re: Why did I have a nightmare about sexual misconduct??

You're welcome, and I'm glad it helped!
by Sam W
Fri Jan 14, 2022 9:11 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Guilty or not
Replies: 21
Views: 395

Re: Guilty or not

No, I would not call what you saw in the store sexual abuse. It can absolutely be distressing to learn that you're capable of harm (everyone is), especially when you're an abuse survivor yourself. But just because we're capable of hurting someone, intentionally or accidentally, it doesn't mean we're...
by Sam W
Fri Jan 14, 2022 8:59 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 49
Views: 1014

Re: Unwanted crush

Hi Theansweris42, Heather may have additional suggestions, but as someone who often falls into the "oh no ignore thoughts and refuse to admit they exist" when presented with time to recharge, I thought I could toss some in as well. I'm a big fan of crossword puzzles (other puzzles work too...
by Sam W
Fri Jan 14, 2022 8:35 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Guilty or not
Replies: 21
Views: 395

Re: Guilty or not

I'm glad my advice was helpful! Do you generally struggle with letting go of guilty feelings, or with the feeling that you must have done something wrong, even if the other people you're worried about tell you they're fine? When we're talking about sexual abuse or assault, an important component is ...
by Sam W
Fri Jan 14, 2022 8:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating reminds me I’m not like other girls
Replies: 6
Views: 183

Re: Masturbating reminds me I’m not like other girls

When it comes to referring to your own body parts, obviously you get to be the boss of what terminology feels the most comfortable. If you're curious, this article by a seriously awesome trans woman lists some commonly used terms that you might find helpful: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodies...
by Sam W
Fri Jan 14, 2022 8:22 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Extreme shallow vagina. Is there something wrong with me?
Replies: 7
Views: 212

Re: Extreme shallow vagina. Is there something wrong with me?

Hi Irissy,

Thanks for those details! When you touch your cervix, what you would describe it(the cervix) as feeling like?
by Sam W
Fri Jan 14, 2022 8:18 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: No Pleasure; Hear Me Out
Replies: 7
Views: 193

Re: No Pleasure; Hear Me Out

Hi CassidyG, This sounds so frustrating, doubly so given that you've been doing a lot to try and work out why it's happening. I do think it's worth bringing up these issues with a psychiatrist; Prozac and other SSRIs are more likely to cause sexual side effects than some other categories of antidepr...
by Sam W
Fri Jan 14, 2022 8:09 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: BDSM
Replies: 1
Views: 52

Re: BDSM

Hi Phoenix_Bird, To answer your last question first, no, there are no BDSM sites where minors are allowed. This can be annoying if you're looking to learn more about the scene or look for partners, but it's ultimately about safety. There are lots of rules/laws around sexually explicit sites allowing...
by Sam W
Fri Jan 14, 2022 7:55 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Why did I have a nightmare about sexual misconduct??
Replies: 3
Views: 83

Re: Why did I have a nightmare about sexual misconduct??

Hi iloveeveryone, Oof, those instances where dreams kind of follow you when you wake up can be so rough. We can't say for certain why it happened, but one thing I will say is that, when you're stressed or when your brain slips into nightmare mode, your dreams can reflect that stress. But how they do...
by Sam W
Fri Jan 14, 2022 7:48 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Squirt cleanup
Replies: 3
Views: 79

Re: Squirt cleanup

Hi sunsatellite, Whether this is ejaculation or just the result of you producing a lot of natural lube when you're aroused, there isn't really anything you can do to prevent it; it's an involuntary bodily response. But, there are definitely some things you could try when it comes to clean-up or cont...
by Sam W
Fri Jan 14, 2022 7:43 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Guilty or not
Replies: 21
Views: 395

Re: Guilty or not

Hi Roseeejames5, First off, I'm so sorry that you went through that when you were fourteen, and that a video that was supposed to be informative has left you feeling like you're just as bad as the person who hurt you. To start off with, you know you're not because you asked her friend how she felt a...
by Sam W
Thu Jan 13, 2022 8:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating reminds me I’m not like other girls
Replies: 6
Views: 183

Re: Masturbating reminds me I’m not like other girls

Hi Delta, That's totally okay! I'm going to toss out a few ideas and we can from there, alright? To start, have you noticed that types of masturbation where you have to see or directly touch your genitals tend to be more dysphoria-inducing for you you? I also wonder, are there things that reduce you...
by Sam W
Tue Jan 11, 2022 8:11 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Medication
Replies: 4
Views: 215

Re: Medication

Hi aven1861, Thank you for the update and hooray for accessing the care you need! I will say, that guilt around needing meds is something I've seen people express before. There's still a stigma attached to taking mental health medication, with a lot of us internalizing the belief that meds are someh...
by Sam W
Tue Jan 11, 2022 7:56 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Teen sexually attracted to predatory adults
Replies: 15
Views: 500

Re: Teen sexually attracted to predatory adults

Okay, maybe let's start with the friends you already know and have drifted away from, since that's a less daunting first step then jumping into a totally new social situation. Are there one or two friends in particular who you were closest too, or who feel like they drifted the least far? Do you fee...
by Sam W
Mon Jan 10, 2022 12:58 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Teen sexually attracted to predatory adults
Replies: 15
Views: 500

Re: Teen sexually attracted to predatory adults

Okay! Let's start with this: do you want to try finding and cultivating new friendships, or do you want to try reconnecting with those friends who feel distant now? I think talking with your potential partner about all this is a great idea! If you need it, this kind of tool can be really helpful: Ye...

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