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by Sam W
Tue Jun 28, 2022 7:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I’m hypersexual but the idea of actually having sex disgusts me.
Replies: 5
Views: 77

Re: I’m hypersexual but the idea of actually having sex disgusts me.

Hi intjtechno, Gender feelings, trauma, and desire can certainly create a bit of a tangle sometimes, and it's not all that strange to have conflicting feelings about wanting a partner. To start with, can I ask what being hypersexual means in this instance? And are you on T as part of your transition...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 28, 2022 7:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pain with Penatration
Replies: 3
Views: 49

Re: Pain with Penatration

Hi Lovergirl95, Part of what may be going on is that, past about the first third, the vaginal canal isn't all that sensitive. That's why a lot of people find clitoral stimulation does way more for them in terms of pleasure than inserting things into the vaginal canal does. If you're curious, you can...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 28, 2022 7:13 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Despising the feeling of masturbation; is this normal?
Replies: 5
Views: 132

Re: Despising the feeling of masturbation; is this normal?

You know, I wonder if introducing nonsexual touch that you enjoy into the times when you're fantasizing might be a way to bring a physical component into the mix that actually feels nice. Does that seem like something you could experiment with?
by Sam W
Tue Jun 28, 2022 7:03 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I hope I don't get pregnant because of this.
Replies: 7
Views: 140

Re: I hope I don't get pregnant because of this.

Okay! I would start by checking out this list of resources for the L.A area to see which ones might be the most accessible to you or offer services that you need: https://laccw.lacounty.gov/publications ... ing-hands/.

Have you been able to take the test yet?
by Sam W
Tue Jun 28, 2022 6:56 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: scared of detransition + my views on gender
Replies: 6
Views: 1218

Re: scared of detransition + my views on gender

Hi Mcjupiter,

Thank you for the update, and I'm so glad that you've found an identity that feels right to you!
by Sam W
Mon Jun 27, 2022 12:04 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Really Unsure
Replies: 1
Views: 50

Re: Really Unsure

Hi Wan, No, semen will not be able to get into the vagina. For starters, any semen that possibly made it to his mouth would likely be wiped away or washed away by things like eating, drinking, or just swallowing saliva. But more than that, even if did make it's way from the mouth to the vagina or vu...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 27, 2022 11:44 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I hope I don't get pregnant because of this.
Replies: 7
Views: 140

Re: I hope I don't get pregnant because of this.

I'm glad my response made you feel at least a little better! Since it sounds like you don't have a ton of supports, do you want to talk about reaching out to local organizations that might offer supports for survivors? That way you'd have people in addition to us who could be there for you. I'm sorr...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 27, 2022 10:31 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unsure if I’m ready for intimacy
Replies: 9
Views: 160

Re: Unsure if I’m ready for intimacy

I get that in a big way. Do you want to use this space here to brainstorm how to ask in a way that works for you?
by Sam W
Mon Jun 27, 2022 10:05 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unsure if I’m ready for intimacy
Replies: 9
Views: 160

Re: Unsure if I’m ready for intimacy

I think reminding him that this is about needing a step back instead of not having wanted sex at the time was a sound way to present it. I totally understand not wanting to add more stress to your parents lives, especially if it's been a rough year for your family. But it may help to remember that j...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 27, 2022 9:15 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I hope I don't get pregnant because of this.
Replies: 7
Views: 140

Re: I hope I don't get pregnant because of this.

Hi LanaChelya, This sounds like an incredibly stressful and alarming situation, and I'm so sorry you're dealing with it (though I'm glad to hear you've stayed away from the place since this incident; that's a great step in terms of protecting yourself). In terms of moving past this incident, can you...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 27, 2022 8:05 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Gyn appointment
Replies: 3
Views: 94

Re: Gyn appointment

Hi Raffles, Yep, the screening guidelines for Pap smears were changed up last year, so that may have been what she was referring to (I don't love the gendered language but the ACOG has a good overview of those new guidelines if you're every curious: https://www.acog.org/womens-health/faqs/cervical-c...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 27, 2022 7:58 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Despising the feeling of masturbation; is this normal?
Replies: 5
Views: 132

Re: Despising the feeling of masturbation; is this normal?

Hi Nonnie, Thank you for those details, they're really helpful! It sounds like overstimulation may be playing a role here, which makes sense given how you're describing your experiences with touch overall. When you think about non-sexual touches or physical sensations (like taking a bath, brushing y...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 27, 2022 7:48 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unsure if I’m ready for intimacy
Replies: 9
Views: 160

Re: Unsure if I’m ready for intimacy

Hi coppersof, I'm glad you're finding this space helpful! You know, something that's really helpful when we're learning how to be sexual (however that looks for us) is learning to let go of "should." Because, barring really basic things like consent, there's not one, specific way that sex ...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 27, 2022 7:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Weird adult in friend group
Replies: 7
Views: 257

Re: Weird adult in friend group

Hi waterhyacinth, I would push to stay in therapy a bit longer if you can; it's not an instantaneous process, and as you've probably noticed it can take a session or two to even start digging into stuff. Too, progress in therapy often looks like small changes from the outside, so if your mom is expe...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 27, 2022 7:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: don’t feel much masturbating
Replies: 1
Views: 56

Re: don’t feel much masturbating

Hi Umbreon, So, part of this may be about expectations; while masturbation can feel super intense for some people, for others it can feel pretty mild, and for most people how it feels will actually vary from instance to instance, because a lot of things can influence are experience of pleasure. When...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 27, 2022 7:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm 13, so I can't buy a sex toy. What are some makeshift masturbators? (AMAB)
Replies: 1
Views: 56

Re: I'm 13, so I can't buy a sex toy. What are some makeshift masturbators? (AMAB)

Hi Leastyto,

If you haven't seen it yet, this article offers a bunch of suggestions for how to safely D.I.Y sex toys from things you might have around the house or might be able to get a hold of yourself: D.I.Y. Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition
by Sam W
Fri Jun 24, 2022 6:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: question regarding female ejaculation
Replies: 3
Views: 121

Re: question regarding female ejaculation

Hi bingus!!!, Part of what might be causing the confusion is that female ejaculation and squirting are actually synonyms, not different things. So what you're noticing when you orgasm may in fact be ejaculation. If you haven't seen it yet, this article does a good job breaking down what squirting is...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 24, 2022 6:48 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Help, pregnancy anxiety
Replies: 1
Views: 206

Re: Help, pregnancy anxiety

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Thu Jun 23, 2022 8:20 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: recommendations for books with trans guy protagonists?
Replies: 2
Views: 97

Re: recommendations for books with trans guy protagonists?

Hi oliver-kittycat,

I'm a little behind in my own reading list, but a resource I really like is LGBTQ Reads, because in their gender identity section they have a big list of books featuring trans guys as main characters!
https://lgbtqreads.com/representation/gender-identity/
by Sam W
Tue Jun 21, 2022 7:18 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Anatomy
Replies: 1
Views: 103

Re: Anatomy

Hi hazmat, It's absolutely okay to ask questions here! With what you're feeling at the top of your genitals, does the description of the mons in this article sound like what you're feeling? It sits in front of the pubic bone: Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus and More . Likewise, do ...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 21, 2022 7:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fat Fetish at 14
Replies: 5
Views: 1071

Re: Fat Fetish at 14

You're very welcome!
by Sam W
Tue Jun 21, 2022 7:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trying to orgasm consistently
Replies: 3
Views: 165

Re: Trying to orgasm consistently

Hi Dagame99, So, this sounds a little bit like part of what's going on is that you two are still learning what activities result in orgasm for her. That means that continuing to experiment and communicate is going to go a long way towards her orgasming more. Is this something that's frustrating you ...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 20, 2022 9:01 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: I need help
Replies: 5
Views: 115

Re: I need help

Unfortunately, a lull of a few weeks (especially when it's not applying to the verbal abuse and their attempts to control and isolate you) doesn't mean the risk is past, and from everything you've told me I think the reality is that until you're out of that house, you'll be at risk from physical vio...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 20, 2022 8:10 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Sexual identity
Replies: 5
Views: 329

Re: Sexual identity

Hi Jq2022, It's okay if you're not ready or comfortable sharing your feelings and thoughts about your sexuality with her yet. It may be worth considering sharing them later on, once you've established more of a rapport with her, especially if they seem to be interacting with your mental health overa...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 20, 2022 7:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fat Fetish at 14
Replies: 5
Views: 1071

Re: Fat Fetish at 14

Hi AnonymousTeen20, I'm glad to hear the boundaries you've set with yourself about what content to follow seem to be helping with the overall anxiety. With needing an age appropriate outlet for these desires, what if you tried your hand at creating your own art or writing about these topics? That wo...

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