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by Sam W
Tue Nov 30, 2021 11:18 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming
Replies: 5
Views: 60

Re: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming

Got it, that detail is helpful! I was trying to work out if part of what was causing the over-sensitivity was actually an orgasm that was mild enough to not be immediately obvious, but that doesn't sound like it's the case. And you're very welcome! If you need help with those conversations about sex...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 30, 2021 9:14 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming
Replies: 5
Views: 60

Re: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming

You're very welcome! With the clitoral stimulation feeling good and then suddenly feeling not good, have you noticed that tends to align with other bodily reactions like your legs spasming? So, there are a few different things you could explore with your boyfriend. When it comes to clitoral stimulat...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 30, 2021 8:10 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: What am I?
Replies: 3
Views: 45

Re: What am I?

Those both sound like great starting places! If you want some more ideas, including ones that you can do fairly privately, check out these pieces of our Trans Summer School: Trans Summer School: So I Think I Might Be Trans. Now What? , Trans Summer School: Gender Expression Gear . You may also find ...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 30, 2021 8:01 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Vagina doesn't look like anything I've seen! I cant find the labia minora
Replies: 1
Views: 42

Re: Vagina doesn't look like anything I've seen! I cant find the labia minora

Hi stormweather, What you're describing sounds within the average variation folks experience with their genitals, and like it's just part of how your body is shaped, but that doesn't mean it can't also be kind of frustrating. Have you ever tried a self-exam with a mirror? If so, how did that go? If ...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 12:50 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Teen sexually attracted to predatory adults
Replies: 3
Views: 115

Re: Teen sexually attracted to predatory adults

Hi mondilebel, I'm glad the resources Urna provided are proving helpful! I hope you continue exploring them and, if you haven't already done so, look into working with a counselor or support group that specializes in working survivors of sexual abuse. I also want to pass on this resource, which is a...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 12:40 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Caught Masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 50

Re: Caught Masturbating

You're welcome! And it really depends on your mom; if you think she'll at worst be embarrassed or awkward, then telling the truth might be the less stressful way to go. But you could also say something fairly non-specific, like you were adjusting your swimsuit and she walked in at a weird moment.
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 12:24 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness
Replies: 19
Views: 719

Re: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness

Those are definitely fears I've heard people have, and sometimes had myself, around taking time for self care or for simply enjoying myself. There are a few different approaches to those thoughts, and you might find some or all of them helpful. One is to remind yourself that we're all deserving of c...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 12:10 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: GF is ace, unsure of what to do
Replies: 17
Views: 307

Re: GF is ace, unsure of what to do

Hi Spider_Queen, Everything you're describing makes a lot of sense. I will say that, even for folks who do stay friends with their exes, there's usually a break period between ending the romantic relationship and re-starting the friendship; as you're discovering, when the break-up is still fresh and...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 11:51 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming
Replies: 5
Views: 60

Re: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming

Hi foottaps, It sounds like you and your boyfriend are doing a great job communicating about all this when you're together, which is awesome! While some folks find they really enjoy clitoral stimulation, others find it's too intense or painful, or that they can only enjoy it for short stretches befo...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 8:36 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Caught Masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 50

Re: Caught Masturbating

Hi kokoPeg, Oof, that can be such an embarrassing feeling although, as you point out, there's a chance she didn't even notice what was going on. I think, in this instance, it's okay to pretend like nothing happened for now, especially since she isn't bringing it up, and figure that you've learned th...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 8:18 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness
Replies: 19
Views: 719

Re: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness

Hi kokopeg, Thanks for those details, that's all really helpful! I'm so sorry you ran across such a hateful thread; if it helps to hear, every word of that description of trans women was utter trash and can go straight in the garbage. I know there are folks out there who like to claim trans women's ...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 8:03 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: What am I?
Replies: 3
Views: 45

Re: What am I?

Hi CryptidLoser24 , Feeling unsure about your sexual orientation and gender identity can be stressful, so let's see if we can untangle some of what you're feeling so that it's less so! With your sexual orientation, it may help to know that lot's of bi folks experience attraction to different genders...
by Sam W
Thu Nov 25, 2021 9:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Books on reproduction
Replies: 7
Views: 166

Re: Books on reproduction

I hope you find the book helpful and informative! Since you're prioritizing your mental health, I do want to point you towards some of the resources here: Anxiety and Other Mental Health Resources . The helpline would give you a place to find interim support while you look for more formal mental hea...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 23, 2021 1:13 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: boyfriend issue?
Replies: 13
Views: 298

Re: boyfriend issue?

You're right that shock could certainly be playing a role; when people find out someone the like or trust is capable of abuse, it can be really jarring. But at a certain point, her feelings about it need to be something she manages on her own, rather than making you deal with. Just in the same way h...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 23, 2021 12:52 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: reliving old problems
Replies: 7
Views: 156

Re: reliving old problems

You're very welcome! And I would definitely talk to your dad to see if the two of you can use the fact you're in not just an unwanted, but unsafe, living space to expedite the process. Custody agreements can be tricky, but in most cases their are ways to get young people out of unsafe situations soo...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 22, 2021 11:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: reliving old problems
Replies: 7
Views: 156

Re: reliving old problems

Those are some serious safety protocols, and I'm glad they're in place. Do you have a sense of how soon you'll be able to get out of the house permanently? All those emotions you're describing make total sense; feeling unsafe or limited in your home, and having those intense fear reactions to someon...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 22, 2021 9:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: reliving old problems
Replies: 7
Views: 156

Re: reliving old problems

I'm glad your dad is taking this seriously and taking the steps to get you out of there as soon as possible. You and he may also want to look into the laws about what age a child starts having the ability to choose which parent to stay with; it may be that you're old enough to have a say in this, an...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 22, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Was it my fault and am i being punished too harshly
Replies: 9
Views: 193

Re: Was it my fault and am i being punished too harshly

I hope the other links are helpful!

You mentioned the hotline calling in the police previously; did they ever tell you why that happened or what policy was behind it?
by Sam W
Mon Nov 22, 2021 8:19 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Plan B while on the pill
Replies: 3
Views: 103

Re: Plan B while on the pill

Hi JuliaGallo,

That depends on the specific test you buy and its directions for when and how to test. You can read more about that here: Peeing on a Stick: All About Pregnancy Tests
by Sam W
Mon Nov 22, 2021 8:13 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: reliving old problems
Replies: 7
Views: 156

Re: reliving old problems

Hi ceciliaxe, I'm glad you feel safe and supported posting here! Those feelings you're describing make a lot of sense, and I'm so sorry that your step brother made that choice to hurt you. One thing that can happen is, if one abusive person tries to groom us into seeing certain behaviors as normal o...
by Sam W
Sat Nov 20, 2021 10:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I am mentally deteriorating
Replies: 5
Views: 116

Re: I am mentally deteriorating

You're very welcome! And I hope the visit to the GP goes well!
by Sam W
Sat Nov 20, 2021 10:06 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I am mentally deteriorating
Replies: 5
Views: 116

Re: I am mentally deteriorating

I'm glad that's helpful to hear! I'm a firm believer in keeping going, even when things are awful, and I genuinely believe things do get better. But I also think it helps to acknowledge just how much suckiness we sometimes have to deal with on the way to being okay, and to admit than when you're in ...
by Sam W
Sat Nov 20, 2021 9:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I not sure what happened
Replies: 9
Views: 193

Re: I not sure what happened

I can absolutely understand why that approach to therapy didn't do much, especially if it wasn't coupled with more concrete tools for addressing feelings of depression or treated the fact your were groomed as something about you that needed fixing. I mentioned in my other post some resources that mi...
by Sam W
Sat Nov 20, 2021 9:22 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I am mentally deteriorating
Replies: 5
Views: 116

Re: I am mentally deteriorating

miskosou, It sounds like you're dealing with some pretty serious depression, which is only being compounded by the fact your parents either don't take your struggles seriously or dismiss and blame you when you try to get help. I'm so sorry you're dealing with that on top of everything else. So, what...

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