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Hi Skippy, If your clitoral hood is on the smaller side, then it's likely the portion of it beneath the hood is on the smaller side as well. Too, the clitoris will generally look smaller when someone isn't aroused, because arousal causes the clitoris to become erect. As far as the whole you're seein...

I would say additional precautions aren't necessary since your last instance of sex was before the late pill, and if that significantly changed what needed to be done, the directions would say so.

Hi dependantdragon, In addition to the suggestion Raffles offered (and thank you, Raffles, for chiming in!), can I ask what your financial situation is currently like? Having an ability to pay for services yourself increases the chances of you being able to use them without your parent's knowing, wh...

Hi Whispermae, It absolutely sucks to be bounced around to so many therapists on top of trying to navigate complex trauma. I'm glad the psychiatrist is taking your need for a diagnosis seriously, even if it's taking her awhile to decide on one, and that it sounds like this has encouraged you to beco...

Hi Juliaho90, One slightly late pill is unlikely to decrease the effectiveness of the pill overall. However, the thing to do is consult the directions that come with the pill or the website for the pill to see what they say the protocol is for a late pill, and if you need to do anything other that j...

Hi Mixxes, This sounds like an absolutely maddening and unhealthy situation, and it's no wonder it's taking such a toll on your mental health (and, it sounds like, the health of at least one other person on the board). We can certainly brainstorm some ways to try and keep working there, but a lot of...

Hi kayla92, This isn't a situation that poses a pregnancy risk, as sperm need very specific conditions in order to help create a pregnancy, and they're fragile enough that they're not going to survive the trip from mouth to hand to genitals. You can read more about why that is here: Who's Afraid of ...

Hi _.jaasp._ , So, my biggest piece of advice here is to, if you haven't already done so, talk with your boyfriend about what you're each hoping for, interested in trying, and want to avoid during sex. That can help you both feel more prepared and informed going into the interaction, and communicati...

Hi Xee, So, since this as pretty hypothetical, I think a helpful place to start is with our series on polyamory: A First Polyamory Guide . I think it's also worth thinking about what elements of polyamory appeal to you and what you hope a poly relationship would involve. It does suck to share someth...

Hi Bubblegumkid, The firs thing I want to say is that you should be immensely proud of yourself for ending things. Ending relationships isn't always easy, and that's doubly true when you're dealing with someone who was manipulative to the degree he was. I hear you on the fact that someone being ther...

Hi Whispermae, I'm so glad being able to write here is offering you that sense of relief. I do want to add that, unfortunately, what you're experiencing with your family is a common thing for survivors; people tend to dismiss trauma that doesn't fit their personal conception of it, or the assumption...

Hi Xee, You're already doing a lot of the things we recommend, like continuing to experiment with different kinds of touch or sensations, which is great! I hear you that it can be frustrating to have your body not respond the way you want it to, but if you take a look around the boards you'll see yo...

A powerful, necessary piece from Grace Catan: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/abus ... _heres_why

You're welcome!

I think since we have context for it, including the post you made here, that'd be totally fine!

Hi SillyMcGoof_, The short answer is: yes. You get to refer to your body parts in the way that makes you feel most comfortable or euphoric. There's a long tradition of trans folks using words for their body parts that aren't "technically" accurate, but are affirming to them and their gende...

Got it. I think something that might be helpful to remember is that fantasies are ultimately harmless; they can't do anything to the person--or people--you're thinking them about because they only exist in your head. Issues only really arise if we start treating people like they're only their for th...

Hi SillyMcGoof_ , I will say finding those words is one of those things where it's usually a process of just trying them out and paying attention to your own reaction to them. If you have access to spaces with other trans masc folks, they may also be able to supply some ideas you haven't heard of. O...

Hi Newtothis, I'm actually going to answer your last question first. Ejaculation by someone with a vagina can happen, but there's no set of sexual activities that are guaranteed to make it happen, and even for people who do experience it, they often don't experience it every time they have sex or ma...

From what you're describing, it sounds like you may actually be orgasming some of the time: that build up, release, and then not feeling much, if any, arousal anymore matches one of the ways we think about the sexual response cycle. You can read more about it here, including some more detailed descr...

Hi Rm2882, I think an important starting place is that there really isn't a "normal" when it comes to fantasies. Like most things having to with sex, there are things that are more or less common, but because of how diverse human sexuality--including our fantasies--is, there's never going ...

Hi Mattt, Having some go-to coping mechanisms for managing that anxiety could help, but there are also things you can do specifically related to sex that might help as well. For instance, you mention that you want to do things the right way. What do you think would help you unlearn the idea that the...

You could try seeing if there's a position or way of moving that allows you to put some additional pressure on your genitals, but this may also be one of those instances where you'll be weighing whether an increase in potential mess is worth it for more intense sensation, of if you want to prioritiz...

Hi anonymousgirl,

Did this happen recently? And are you still experiencing bleeding that isn't related to your period?

Hi SillyMcGoof_ You can absolutely masturbate during your period! As you've pointed out, the main concern is really mess control. If you're using your hands at all, you'll want to have an easy way to clean them off right afterwards, like hand wipes (if you'd rather avoid a dash to the nearest bathro...

Not at all! I couldn't find any articles that actually addressed this, but what I did find was a lot of people in ADHD subreddits talking about similar issues and giving each other advice: https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/okbyaq/cant_focus_during_sexmasturbation_making_it/ As far as finding or...