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by Sam W
Fri Jun 24, 2022 6:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: question regarding female ejaculation
Replies: 3
Views: 65

Re: question regarding female ejaculation

Hi bingus!!!, Part of what might be causing the confusion is that female ejaculation and squirting are actually synonyms, not different things. So what you're noticing when you orgasm may in fact be ejaculation. If you haven't seen it yet, this article does a good job breaking down what squirting is...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 24, 2022 6:48 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Help, pregnancy anxiety
Replies: 1
Views: 116

Re: Help, pregnancy anxiety

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Thu Jun 23, 2022 8:20 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: recommendations for books with trans guy protagonists?
Replies: 2
Views: 63

Re: recommendations for books with trans guy protagonists?

Hi oliver-kittycat,

I'm a little behind in my own reading list, but a resource I really like is LGBTQ Reads, because in their gender identity section they have a big list of books featuring trans guys as main characters!
https://lgbtqreads.com/representation/gender-identity/
by Sam W
Tue Jun 21, 2022 7:18 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Anatomy
Replies: 1
Views: 58

Re: Anatomy

Hi hazmat, It's absolutely okay to ask questions here! With what you're feeling at the top of your genitals, does the description of the mons in this article sound like what you're feeling? It sits in front of the pubic bone: Innies & Outies: The Vagina, Clitoris, Uterus and More . Likewise, do ...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 21, 2022 7:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fat Fetish at 14
Replies: 5
Views: 1018

Re: Fat Fetish at 14

You're very welcome!
by Sam W
Tue Jun 21, 2022 7:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trying to orgasm consistently
Replies: 3
Views: 116

Re: Trying to orgasm consistently

Hi Dagame99, So, this sounds a little bit like part of what's going on is that you two are still learning what activities result in orgasm for her. That means that continuing to experiment and communicate is going to go a long way towards her orgasming more. Is this something that's frustrating you ...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 20, 2022 9:01 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: I need help
Replies: 5
Views: 76

Re: I need help

Unfortunately, a lull of a few weeks (especially when it's not applying to the verbal abuse and their attempts to control and isolate you) doesn't mean the risk is past, and from everything you've told me I think the reality is that until you're out of that house, you'll be at risk from physical vio...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 20, 2022 8:10 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Sexual identity
Replies: 5
Views: 233

Re: Sexual identity

Hi Jq2022, It's okay if you're not ready or comfortable sharing your feelings and thoughts about your sexuality with her yet. It may be worth considering sharing them later on, once you've established more of a rapport with her, especially if they seem to be interacting with your mental health overa...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 20, 2022 7:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fat Fetish at 14
Replies: 5
Views: 1018

Re: Fat Fetish at 14

Hi AnonymousTeen20, I'm glad to hear the boundaries you've set with yourself about what content to follow seem to be helping with the overall anxiety. With needing an age appropriate outlet for these desires, what if you tried your hand at creating your own art or writing about these topics? That wo...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 20, 2022 7:22 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i dont know how to cum and at this point ive almost given up
Replies: 1
Views: 85

Re: i dont know how to cum and at this point ive almost given up

Hi kittymeowsical, So, as you probably saw looking at other posts, struggles with masturbation and orgasm are actually common. In your case, can you tell me a little about how things feel when you masturbate? Is it that you're feeling a lot of pleasure but aren't sure if it's reaching the point of o...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 20, 2022 7:18 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: I need help
Replies: 5
Views: 76

Re: I need help

Hi Onyx, From everything you've told us both here and in chat, I think leaving home is absolutely an option you should consider. What you're describing from your dad is absolutely physical abuse, and that's on top of the emotional and verbal abuse that's clearly a pattern for both him and your mom. ...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 20, 2022 6:57 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Needing help to process something my friend told me.
Replies: 1
Views: 82

Re: Needing help to process something my friend told me.

Hi Rave, I'm with you that I am extraordinarily glad your friend didn't follow-through with this; it does sound like there were red flags everywhere. The tricky thing is, only he can really answer those questions you have, since only he knows what was going through his mind and what was driving thos...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 17, 2022 7:01 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: coming out struggles
Replies: 29
Views: 627

Re: coming out struggles

Hi Harry, Do you have a way to schedule the visit with the social worker ahead of time? That way, you're already on their schedule when they get back. I'd really encourage you to make a visit to the counselor today or early next week if you can. They're their to be a resource for you, and honestly a...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 14, 2022 10:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Losing virginity
Replies: 15
Views: 397

Re: Losing virginity

Hi Emm5, The tricky thing is, we can't give a scientific answer to whether you lost your virginity, because virginity isn't a physical, scientific thing. It's just an idea. Too, if what you're worried about is something like your hymen being "broken," know that isn't a thing that can happe...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 14, 2022 10:05 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Male Validation & Cognitive Dissonance
Replies: 5
Views: 113

Re: Male Validation & Cognitive Dissonance

Hi Rocko, The gender expectations and messages we're raised with can for sure influence us even when we no longer align with that gender, and it for sure sucks that these feelings are contributing to your gender dysphoria. To make sure I'm understanding you right, is it that you wish the guys you we...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 13, 2022 7:08 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: I think I need to leave home and I'm kinda terrified
Replies: 2
Views: 132

Re: I think I need to leave home and I'm kinda terrified

Hi KC, I'm so sorry your mom and stepdad have created such an unsafe space for you to live. When someone is in an abusive situation, getting out is ultimately the best call, and if for you that means moving out and living on your own, that's something we can help you figure out how to do. If you hav...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 10, 2022 8:34 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: coming out struggles
Replies: 29
Views: 627

Re: coming out struggles

I'm glad they were able to help! And now that you know you can ask for help around this, hopefully it will get a little easier each time. I would still check-in with your counselor, since they've been working with you and this is the kind of situation they need to know about in order to offer proper...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 10, 2022 8:00 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: coming out struggles
Replies: 29
Views: 627

Re: coming out struggles

Then let's plan on you going then, okay? And it's okay if you're afraid; this is scary, intense stuff to be dealing with, and honestly fear is a completely reasonable reaction. But sometimes taking care of ourselves means doing stuff that scares us, because that's the step that's going to make life ...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 10, 2022 7:49 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: coming out struggles
Replies: 29
Views: 627

Re: coming out struggles

I'd actually show those notes to the counselor to give her context, I think that will be more helpful and give some needed context. Even if the self harm and suicidal thoughts feel infrequent, the fact is you're still in a crisis right now and we need to treat that as such. Too, since we're coming u...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 10, 2022 7:40 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: coming out struggles
Replies: 29
Views: 627

Re: coming out struggles

Okay, let's get you to the counselor ASAP, then. I totally get that it's uncomfortable to talk about, and the fact that you even opened up and asked for help here is a huge, huge step in taking care of yourself, one that I'm really proud of you for. How about saying something like this to them, &quo...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 10, 2022 7:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Never orgasmed
Replies: 11
Views: 394

Re: Never orgasmed

Masturbation struggles really are common (honestly I'd say they're one of the most frequent questions we see here), so I agree with Mo that this is likely a matter of still learning what you like and what works for your brain and body than you not being able to orgasm at all, especially if you don't...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 10, 2022 7:31 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: coming out struggles
Replies: 29
Views: 627

Re: coming out struggles

So, when I mean hospital I mean something like an emergency room, since that's where someone might go to say they're suicidal and need help here in the U.S. But either the hotlines or your counselor will better be able to walk you through the steps of that for your area. The reason I'm recommending ...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 10, 2022 7:26 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Questions about pronouns
Replies: 5
Views: 241

Re: Questions about pronouns

Got it. So, I might stick to a simpler explanation to start and then see what his questions are. You could explain that other languages have pronouns that, among other things, indicate the gender of a person. In other words, the pronouns help us know whether someone is man, woman, non-binary person,...
by Sam W
Fri Jun 10, 2022 7:15 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: coming out struggles
Replies: 29
Views: 627

Re: coming out struggles

You are absolutely worth the help, okay? Self-harm and suicidal thoughts are serious stuff, which is why I'm focusing on getting you to someone who can help you with them. You deserve to be in a safe space, including when it comes to your own head, and it may be right now that going to a hospital is...

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