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by Sam W
Tue Apr 13, 2021 7:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Casual sex as a virgin
Replies: 8
Views: 132

Re: Casual sex as a virgin

That's totally okay! And I'm glad you feel like you can take your time (especially since the pandemic means that casual sex or dating can be extra tricky). If you're interested, these articles can also be really helpful when it comes to navigating partnered sex and figuring what you (and are not) re...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 13, 2021 7:05 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Casual sex as a virgin
Replies: 8
Views: 132

Re: Casual sex as a virgin

Hi Kt15, This article is a really good starting point, as it goes over how to navigate casual: Casual...Cool? Making Choices About Casual Sex . It can also help to think about what you're hoping will happen as a result of casual sex; is it that you feel ready and excited to start exploring your sexu...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 13, 2021 6:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I cumming or peeing?
Replies: 19
Views: 1462

Re: Am I cumming or peeing?

Hi kaisedinuma,

We've already answered that to the best of our abilities in this thread, since there's no way for us to guarantee how someone will feel in a given sexual situation. Is there anything else we can help you with or that you want to talk about?
by Sam W
Mon Apr 12, 2021 11:35 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: First breakup, and don’t know how to deal
Replies: 7
Views: 77

Re: First breakup, and don’t know how to deal

Being at home can certainly limit your options for activities, but I think there may still be some ways that you can direct your energy that will help you feel better. For starters, before you were dating your ex, how did you fill those gaps in time? And, if you could snap your fingers, what kinds o...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 12, 2021 11:10 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Supports For Trans Youth (And a Few Words for Everybody Else)
Replies: 0
Views: 44

Supports For Trans Youth (And a Few Words for Everybody Else)

Some resources for trans folks who might need them right now and for cis people who want to be allies against the wave of anti-trans legislation sweeping the U.S: https://www.scarleteen.com/blog/sam_w/s ... ybody_else.
by Sam W
Mon Apr 12, 2021 11:08 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 18
Views: 158

Re: Exclusivity?

I think it might help to treat his interest in you as genuine, just to avoid psyching yourself out. Is it possible he's just killing time with you? Technically, yes. But if he's acting excited to talk with you and is excited at the prospect of seeing you, I'm inclined to treat that as genuine unless...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 12, 2021 11:03 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: First breakup, and don’t know how to deal
Replies: 7
Views: 77

Re: First breakup, and don’t know how to deal

Hi Susan, That sounds like a tough situation to be in, both around mental health access and being able to talk with your parents about what's going on. In terms of mental health resources you might be able to access, we have a good starter list of them here: Anxiety and Other Mental Health Resources...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 12, 2021 10:49 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 18
Views: 158

Re: Exclusivity?

Hi MusicNerd, Doing about as well as I can over in the desert! And I'm glad to hear you're in a relationship that's making you happy. In terms of talking about exclusivity, would you feel more comfortable telling him in person? And what if you came at it from a very direct, open angle? So, saying yo...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 12, 2021 7:24 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 142

Re: Higher sex drive causes?

Hi Hel, This is one of those situations where the more direct you are, the easier it'll be to actually have the conversation. You could even start out with something really basic, like "hey, are you in headspace where you're up for talking about a sex thing?" That way, you're giving a chan...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 12, 2021 7:18 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Squirting During Sex
Replies: 3
Views: 99

Re: Squirting During Sex

You're very welcome!
by Sam W
Mon Apr 12, 2021 7:15 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Question about transphobia
Replies: 5
Views: 912

Re: Question about transphobia

Hi AStranger, That's okay, we want users to reply here when they're comfortable doing so! Before we get into discussions of how to address that potential discomfort, I think it might be most helpful for you to take some time and read up on trans subjects and see how other people break down the fact ...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 12, 2021 6:49 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: i um don't know how to masturbate
Replies: 3
Views: 137

Re: i um don't know how to masturbate

If you're having privacy concerns, this article can help you out: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality_etc/deep_cover_tips_for_managing_anxiety_or_privacy_worries_when_masturbating_at. And as far as how to masturbate, you can read about the common techniques people use here: Going Solo: The ...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 09, 2021 7:30 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Asking for intimacy with a friend
Replies: 1
Views: 67

Re: Asking for intimacy with a friend

Hi BishoneninBloom You're right that there's a big difference between touching on your terms and having someone demand or force contact with you. With that in mind, what if you opted for being direct with your friend about what you want, while also making it clear that this is something they can say...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 09, 2021 7:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: New to Sex Toys
Replies: 3
Views: 212

Re: New to Sex Toys

Hi smallowo79, While testosterone can cause certain changes, like an increase in vaginal dryness, that may make certain kinds of masturbation tricky, that doesn't mean your body is broken. It just means that it has certain things you need to be mindful of or work with. I find it can sometimes help t...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 09, 2021 6:45 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Squirting During Sex
Replies: 3
Views: 99

Re: Squirting During Sex

Hi GS_6, The short answer is no, it wouldn't. The main reason for that is that squirting in and of itself does not create an STI risk. It may help to read up on what squirting is and is not: Squirt: On Ejaculation . Too, if a condom is being used for all instances of sex, that in and of itself is do...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 06, 2021 6:55 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I don't really get crushes anymore?
Replies: 6
Views: 201

Re: I don't really get crushes anymore?

Hi Skylar7593, Given that you've had crushes in the past and that you want to have romantic relationships in the future, I suspect this may be less an indication of you being aromantic and more an indicator that there just hasn't been anyone "crush worthy" in your life lately. Even for peo...
by Sam W
Sun Apr 04, 2021 7:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Only Aroused by Fetish
Replies: 1
Views: 245

Re: Only Aroused by Fetish

Hi roygbiv,

It's sounds like this is causing you a lot of stress, so hopefully we can come up with some ways to address that.

To start, have you spoken about any of this with your partner? And are the fetishes you're describing things you could work into your sex life with her?
by Sam W
Sun Apr 04, 2021 7:28 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: How do I stop masturbating?
Replies: 5
Views: 373

Re: How do I stop masturbating?

You're welcome!
by Sam W
Sat Apr 03, 2021 8:24 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years
Replies: 5
Views: 203

Re: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years

Booking an appointment sounds like a great plan! If you know the exam was painful last time, I would let them know that ahead of time so they can take whatever steps possible to make it more comfortable.
by Sam W
Sat Apr 03, 2021 7:57 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Worried about masturbation
Replies: 3
Views: 92

Re: Worried about masturbation

That's totally understandable! No one ever really tells us how to have those kinds of conversations with a healthcare provider, which can make them feel awkward and intimidating. The simplest way to approach it may be to accept that it's going to feel awkward, but that awkwardness is likely to be wo...
by Sam W
Sat Apr 03, 2021 7:49 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: How do I stop masturbating?
Replies: 5
Views: 373

Re: How do I stop masturbating?

Hi Skylar7593, In terms of putting a pause on masturbation, I really like the advice Mo gives in this column about treating the desire to masturbate like hunger: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/i_feel_no_pleasure_with_orgasm_but_i_dont_really_want_to_masturbate_in_the_first. Do the suggest...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 02, 2021 7:15 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Peeing and Orgasm
Replies: 1
Views: 124

Re: Peeing and Orgasm

Hi Bmcc94, I moved your post to be it's on thread since it sounded like there were additional questions to talk about. With the worries about mess, are you able to set down a towel or something else on the bed, or masturbate in the shower or tub? That can make clean up way easier. Since you original...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 02, 2021 6:54 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Worried about masturbation
Replies: 3
Views: 92

Re: Worried about masturbation

Hi kindofannoying, It's quite possible that some or most of this is to do with he SSRIs you're taking, especially if you know sexual side effects are common. Have you ever spoken to a healthcare provider about your concerns, or your worries about the potential side effects of stopping this medicatio...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 01, 2021 7:26 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Emotional Stessors Related with My Abusive Ex
Replies: 10
Views: 486

Re: Emotional Stessors Related with My Abusive Ex

I think exploring options to find one that's right for you is a really good approach! Since it sounds like books (and workbooks) have been helpful to you, would it be helpful for us to recommend a few others you could look into?

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