Search found 6659 matches

by Sam W
Tue Oct 26, 2021 7:02 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Imbalance in friendships
Replies: 15
Views: 549

Re: Imbalance in friendships

Hi Raffles, I'm glad to hear there's been a break in the using you as a hotline, since that was causing you quite a bit of frustration and stress! I think the way you've phrased that boundary around discussions of substance use is good. It doesn't come across like you're judging this friend for subs...
by Sam W
Mon Oct 25, 2021 11:31 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 105
Views: 2343

Re: So there's a guy...

Setting up a PayPal is a great step! Do you have a plan for how to get the bank account set up so it's something only you can access?
by Sam W
Mon Oct 25, 2021 11:05 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 105
Views: 2343

Re: So there's a guy...

It sounds like you're getting more confident in asking them to explain their reasoning and advocating for yourself. I'd add that a parent helping you pay for school doesn't give them the right to control the rest of your finances (I say this as someone who both received parental help paying for scho...
by Sam W
Mon Oct 25, 2021 10:41 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 105
Views: 2343

Re: So there's a guy...

Hi Jenny, I'm sorry that it sounds like your parents are continuing, and perhaps escalating, their attempts to control you. It makes a lot of sense that the argument was a blur, since when we're stressed things can sometimes bleed together. That being said, can you fill me in a little on the gist of...
by Sam W
Mon Oct 25, 2021 9:43 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: am I too young to think that I am ambiamorous?
Replies: 2
Views: 68

Re: am I too young to think that I am ambiamorous?

Hi sugarcrash, I want to second everything Coral said, and also add that, since it sounds like you're still working out what you want from relationships, you might find this article super helpful: Supermodel: Creating & Nurturing Your Own Best Relationship Models . If you haven't already seen it...
by Sam W
Thu Oct 21, 2021 10:36 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: not sure what to do now
Replies: 4
Views: 171

Re: not sure what to do now

Hi Firefly, I wonder, do you think you could explain things to him similarly to how you explained them to us here? Including the fact that part of your reaction was to reinforce the boundary you need to keep yourself safe from Justine (and in general) and that you don't want to lose the closeness yo...
by Sam W
Thu Oct 21, 2021 10:23 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Am I Being Obsessive?
Replies: 1
Views: 57

Re: Am I Being Obsessive?

Hi soursammy, When we develop strong feelings for someone, it can sometimes take awhile for those feelings to fade all the way away, even when we know we can't act on them or when we don't even want to anymore. And lots of people experience a relationship loss (even if it's just the loss of a romant...
by Sam W
Sat Oct 16, 2021 9:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: attracted to gay guys?
Replies: 3
Views: 138

Re: attracted to gay guys?

Hi mossypebble, Let's actually dig into that desire to be one half a male/male couple a bit. When you think about what makes it seem special to you, does it feel like that's about the dynamic between the two people? About the expectations that might exist in that kind of couple? Just the experience ...
by Sam W
Sat Oct 16, 2021 8:19 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: discovering past assault
Replies: 3
Views: 145

Re: discovering past assault

Hi Elias, The first thing I want to say is that it sounds like you're doing a really good job building a support network for yourself when it comes to dealing with trauma and with the effects of mental illness. That can be a really hard process at times, but going through it can be an incredibly wor...
by Sam W
Thu Oct 14, 2021 8:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I have a question
Replies: 1
Views: 115

Re: I have a question

Hi Liam,

Semen can sometimes be temporarily clear and watery, even though it's usually thicker and white-is. It may also be that some of what you're seeing is pre-ejaculate, since that is thinner in consistency than ejaculate is. So, this is unlikely to be cause for concern.
by Sam W
Thu Oct 14, 2021 7:40 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 105
Views: 2343

Re: So there's a guy...

Hi Jenny, That all sounds incredibly frustrating! Since it sounds like you've never found ways of approaching conversations that get them to change their perspectives, have you ever noticed your siblings, or family friends, who've been able to get them to change their minds? If so, did you notice an...
by Sam W
Tue Oct 12, 2021 7:50 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Help with anal
Replies: 3
Views: 336

Re: Help with anal

Hi cherrycrab, So, something like fisting is the kind of sexual activity someone needs to proceed really, really carefully with, because you're trying to fit something into the anus that's much larger than what it's meant to accommodate. It's less likely that you're feeling bones and more that you'r...
by Sam W
Sun Oct 03, 2021 9:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vaginas
Replies: 3
Views: 134

Re: Vaginas

Hi Ryan,

Can you say a little more about the issues you're experiencing and why they're causing you concern?
by Sam W
Sun Oct 03, 2021 8:09 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Imbalance in friendships
Replies: 15
Views: 549

Re: Imbalance in friendships

One of the great things about boundaries is that you get to decide them for yourself, so if your friend texting you in the future when you're in a crisis is something you're okay with and ready to help with, even with those feelings it creates, that's a choice you get to make, even if it's not the c...
by Sam W
Sun Oct 03, 2021 7:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I think my partner is emotionally abusive
Replies: 9
Views: 337

Re: I think my partner is emotionally abusive

You're so very welcome, and I'm glad talking here has been helpful for you.

If you want to update about this situation or ask more questions about it down the road, you're welcome to keep posting in this thread.
by Sam W
Sun Oct 03, 2021 7:49 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How to eliminate the smell of masturbation?
Replies: 1
Views: 170

Re: How to eliminate the smell of masturbation?

Hi thathsme3467,

Can you be a little more specific? For instance, are you referring to the smell fluids might leave when they stain, or something else?
by Sam W
Sat Oct 02, 2021 8:04 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Imbalance in friendships
Replies: 15
Views: 549

Re: Imbalance in friendships

Hi Raffles, It sounds like this friendship has relied on you putting a lot of effort into supporting them for quite awhile. That's not always a bad thing, especially in the short term, but as you've discovered it can be really draining over time. When you think about graduating and this friend, what...
by Sam W
Fri Oct 01, 2021 9:59 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 105
Views: 2343

Re: So there's a guy...

Okay, when you're not busy I would definitely make time to contact them; they may also be able to help you with some employment stuff down the line. Can you say a little more about how your other older brother tries to help you out? I think working on your resume this weekend is an excellent plan! I...
by Sam W
Fri Oct 01, 2021 9:51 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Porn addiction
Replies: 14
Views: 340

Re: Porn addiction

I'm glad you're finding our conversations here helpful! If you haven't already read this article, you might find some of the advice on not acting on the urge to masturbate when you don't really want to: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/i_feel_no_pleasure_with_orgasm_but_i_dont_really_want_t...
by Sam W
Fri Oct 01, 2021 7:28 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 105
Views: 2343

Re: So there's a guy...

Do your parents do anything or say anything to your brother when he barges in (or in the instance where he triggered a seizure)? If they're really apathetic towards the fact that your sibling is putting you at risk, I think you might want to call either the helpline listed here: https://www.epilepsy...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 30, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I think my partner is emotionally abusive
Replies: 9
Views: 337

Re: I think my partner is emotionally abusive

I think having that three month timeline, even if it's just something in your head and not something you communicate to anyone else, would be helpful. If nothing else, you're giving yourself a set point to check in on how you're feeling as a result of the break and what next steps feel safe for you ...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 28, 2021 10:06 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is it worth trying?
Replies: 10
Views: 466

Re: Is it worth trying?

I'm glad to hear these are all partners you feel safe and comfortable with. When you say you're worried about how you're going to react to it, can you say a little more about that? Too, if you think part of this may be coming from a lot of desire and an interest in trying something new, it might hel...

Can't find what you're looking for? Try searching our main site.