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by Sam W
Sat Oct 01, 2022 10:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Gender feelings
Replies: 3
Views: 34

Re: Gender feelings

I think both talking with that friend and looking for support groups is a great idea! If you need help locating those groups, that's something we could pitch in with if you'd like. Since this is all still so new and overwhelming for you, I think small steps at home are probably the safest starting p...
by Sam W
Sat Oct 01, 2022 8:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Some advice on how to deal with my feelings
Replies: 1
Views: 26

Re: Some advice on how to deal with my feelings

Hi BeepBoop, There are a few things I think could help you out with this, but a big one is to remind yourself that while it might feel like everyone around you at university has more sexual and dating experience, what we know statistically is that a LOT of people in your age group have a sexual and ...
by Sam W
Sat Oct 01, 2022 7:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Gender feelings
Replies: 3
Views: 34

Re: Gender feelings

Hi Berkeley2003, I'm happy to help you brainstorm some ways to test the waters! When it comes to doing things about expressing your gender, have you done anything at home or in private to do so? If so what has that looked like? Too, when you think about starting to make changes, are there ones that ...
by Sam W
Fri Sep 30, 2022 6:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Urethral opening & sex?
Replies: 3
Views: 82

Re: Urethral opening & sex?

Hi discoveringme, You may have already tried this, but is it worth asking the urologist if they can connect with the gynecologist or vice versa? Even if they're separate, they should have a way to exchange information about a patient they're both seeing. I'm glad to hear your partner is supportive! ...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 29, 2022 7:33 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Since I've started HRT, i struggle to orgasm, and current methods aren't working
Replies: 1
Views: 55

Re: Since I've started HRT, i struggle to orgasm, and current methods aren't working

Hi InfinitelyCute, I'm glad so many people in your life are supportive overall! But you're right, even when you have supportive and loving parents, you still have things you want to keep private, and that's okay. If you're curious about vibrators, one option is to D.I.Y one from things you either ha...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 27, 2022 7:32 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Women, Life, Liberty: Feminist Giant at Scarleteen
Replies: 0
Views: 58

Women, Life, Liberty: Feminist Giant at Scarleteen

We're excited to share this reprint of a Feminist Giant piece by the incredible Mona Eltahawy: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/poli ... scarleteen
by Sam W
Mon Sep 26, 2022 11:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Scheduling a time
Replies: 4
Views: 104

Re: Scheduling a time

I will ping the folks who do chat later in the day on Friday and find out!
by Sam W
Mon Sep 26, 2022 6:59 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Scheduling a time
Replies: 4
Views: 104

Re: Scheduling a time

Hi Raffles,

I'll be the one working chat from 10-12 today, so if you want to come in then I'm happy to talk with you about this!
by Sam W
Sun Sep 25, 2022 7:48 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Some questions about condoms/pregnancy scare
Replies: 1
Views: 41

Re: Some questions about condoms/pregnancy scare

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Sat Sep 24, 2022 7:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Problems with being genderfluid
Replies: 5
Views: 107

Re: Problems with being genderfluid

Hi GenderfluidDerg,

We can certainly brainstorm some ideas with you, including how to get a hold of lube if you need it. To start, can you tell me a little more about what you mean by masturbating to "satisfy your male side?"
by Sam W
Fri Sep 23, 2022 10:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Finding New Love
Replies: 5
Views: 188

Re: Finding New Love

I'm glad you're learning to recognize more of those red flags that your realize snuck up on you in that last relationship. One piece of ours that might be helpful is this one on intimacy; I like how it breaks down the difference between healthy intimacy and things like enmeshment or possessiveness: ...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 22, 2022 8:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vibrator & Partnered Sex
Replies: 10
Views: 274

Re: Vibrator & Partnered Sex

Hi MissConfused, It's okay! These kinds of topics can bring up a lot of thoughts and feelings for people. I want to touch a little bit on the role desire is playing here. You mentioned earlier that you feel like you haven't ever really experienced intense, sexual desire for another person. Does that...
by Sam W
Thu Sep 22, 2022 7:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Finding New Love
Replies: 5
Views: 188

Re: Finding New Love

Hi BumbleRex, It sounds like this relationship has a lot of elements that make you feel cared for and respected, which is great! When it comes to wanting to not have a repeat of what happened with your ex, do you feel like that experience with him gave you any insights into what red flags look like ...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 20, 2022 9:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Vibrator & Partnered Sex
Replies: 10
Views: 274

Re: Vibrator & Partnered Sex

Hi MissConfused, I want to add on a few questions to the advice Nicole offered you. Have you ever taken much time to explore or think about your sexual orientation that wasn't in the context of partnered sex? That could be things like reading about different identities, being in queer spaces, or eve...
by Sam W
Tue Sep 20, 2022 8:42 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: First Time Getting Chlamydia
Replies: 7
Views: 311

Re: First Time Getting Chlamydia

Hi Mixxes, I'm glad what Carly said is resonating with you. I will say there does still seem to, unfortunately, be a strain of ideas that a lot of cis guys in particular are exposed to where they see a partner who's very open about their testing history or their sexual health or history as an anomal...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 19, 2022 9:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Did I fall foul of misinformation?
Replies: 20
Views: 613

Re: Did I fall foul of misinformation?

I'm glad that article had some useful info! Looking back at this thread, I have a few other things I wanted to ask. For starters, prior to this incident, were you excited to be exploring your sexuality with a partner? Or was it something that was already anxiety inducing for you? I think it's also w...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 19, 2022 8:01 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much
Replies: 11
Views: 561

Re: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much

Hi YellowPamonha, You know, one thing that's really standing out to me in your description of all this is that he's not in a place were he's comfortable doing a lot of the work that goes into maintaining a relationship. For instance, he's not wrong that lots of things can happen in a month, but part...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 19, 2022 7:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Did I fall foul of misinformation?
Replies: 20
Views: 613

Re: Did I fall foul of misinformation?

Hi ManekiNeko, So, it may help to know that there are ways of being sexual with another person that pose low or no risk of STI transmission: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That? . That means that, if you're most comfortable with low to no risk activities, there are still ways of e...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 19, 2022 6:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Do I have low testosterone? (male)
Replies: 1
Views: 102

Re: Do I have low testosterone? (male)

Hi sir_barstool, So, while sex drive can be influenced by testosterone levels, it can also be influenced by a LOT of other things. For instance, some people (including people with otherwise standard testosterone levels for their gender) just have less interest in sex or experience less attraction ov...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 19, 2022 6:46 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Eating Disorders and Pregnancy
Replies: 0
Views: 74

Eating Disorders and Pregnancy

A new piece from awesome guest writer Leslie Massicotte, M.Ed: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/preg ... _pregnancy
by Sam W
Fri Sep 16, 2022 6:59 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Am I bisexual or just a lesbian struggling with comphet?
Replies: 6
Views: 429

Re: Am I bisexual or just a lesbian struggling with comphet?

Hi Belled, I think those are all very good insights to have about where certain fantasies came from for you or why crushing on this friend in particular may feel very safe to you. I feel you big time on trying to navigate the "boys and girls can't be friends" message and how that influence...
by Sam W
Mon Sep 12, 2022 6:53 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Anal Masturbation
Replies: 3
Views: 409

Re: Anal Masturbation

Hi Maximil,

This article goes over the types of lube that are safe to use, including things you can find at home: Lube 101: A Slick Little primer.
by Sam W
Sun Sep 11, 2022 8:16 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: First time
Replies: 2
Views: 340

Re: First time

Hi Learningthings, I want to toss in two other links to what Nicole gave you. This one specifically addresses the ways to prevent painful vaginal sex (which is what I'm assuming you're referring to): From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse . And this one can be a big help in terms of figur...
by Sam W
Sun Sep 11, 2022 8:08 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I feel a deep regret about my past actions
Replies: 2
Views: 404

Re: I feel a deep regret about my past actions

Hi Greenergrass, In addition to what Nicole said, I think it might also be helpful to think about why being or feeling different from your friends is creating feelings of distress for you. Too, it may also help to remember that you can't actually know the details of your friends sexual interests, an...
by Sam W
Sat Sep 10, 2022 7:58 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much
Replies: 11
Views: 561

Re: My boyfriend thinks I like him too much

Hi YellowPamonha, In addition to Nicole's excellent advice, I wanted to add some other things to consider. It sounds like there are a few different things going on here. One is that you two may simply have different communication wants/needs in a relationship; lots of people are like you, in that th...

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