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by Sam W
Tue Dec 07, 2021 10:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: question
Replies: 1
Views: 33

Re: question

Hi aaru257,

It looks like we answered this for you back when it first happened, and our answers have not changed since then. So, I'm going to go ahead and close this thread and you can go back and read our previous answers as needed.
by Sam W
Tue Dec 07, 2021 8:44 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 22
Views: 150

Re: no sensation when masturbating

That's okay, we can keep looking! For starters, do you have any techniques or tools that help you with sensory processing issues more generally? Because it's very possible that apply those to masturbation may help you some. I also want to give you this piece. It's technically about partnered sex, bu...
by Sam W
Tue Dec 07, 2021 8:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fat Fetish at 14
Replies: 1
Views: 35

Re: Fat Fetish at 14

Hi JohanHusky, I think stepping back from looking at those accounts was a sound call, given that it was making you feel anxious and guilty. When you say you're looking for help managing "these thoughts" in a healthy way, can you say a little more about what those thoughts are and what your...
by Sam W
Tue Dec 07, 2021 8:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Idk I'm scatterbrained right now(sorry if it's all spaghetti and doesn't make sense)
Replies: 5
Views: 47

Re: Idk I'm scatterbrained right now(sorry if it's all spaghetti and doesn't make sense)

Hi AZbb, It's absolutely okay to vent or give long answers here! This sounds like an incredibly stressful relationship to be in, and like one where you haven't had a chance to tell people what's going on. Speaking of which, are there any people in your life who you would feel comfortable talking to ...
by Sam W
Mon Dec 06, 2021 1:39 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 22
Views: 150

Re: no sensation when masturbating

Okay! I give you these to start, though we may have to start broad to find what you need. For instance, some of the books in the "teen" section here could have the information you need: https://www.actcommunity.ca/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/Resources-Puberty-Video-Joy-Becker.pdf. Some of t...
by Sam W
Mon Dec 06, 2021 8:28 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 22
Views: 150

Re: no sensation when masturbating

Do you think, in the interim, it'd be helpful to find advice on masturbation that's aimed more specifically at autistic folks or folks with ADHD?
by Sam W
Mon Dec 06, 2021 8:21 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 10
Views: 257

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

Hi MusicNerd,

Hooray, I'm so glad it went well!
by Sam W
Mon Dec 06, 2021 8:19 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Gender Euphoria and Dysphoria Lately
Replies: 1
Views: 33

Re: Gender Euphoria and Dysphoria Lately

Hi transfemandgay, I'm so glad you've had so many sources of gender euphoria lately; I know how big a leap it was to get out of your old living situation and it's great to see you benefiting so much from it! Let's dig into those worries about starting HRT now. I think it's sensible to be looking at ...
by Sam W
Sat Dec 04, 2021 9:03 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 22
Views: 150

Re: no sensation when masturbating

Ooof, that kind of remoteness can make things so trick sometimes. Do you have friends with more access to shops or to money who would be willing to help you out with this (and who you'd be comfortable asking)? Or an extended family member who you feel comfortable asking for help accessing a vibrator...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 11:24 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 22
Views: 150

Re: no sensation when masturbating

Have you ever tried introducing a vibrator into the mix when masturbating? It could be that introducing a sensation that's both very intense and novel might introduce new, pleasurable sensations. Got it, I was asking because sometimes getting really excited mentally can be a path to other kinds of p...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 10:47 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 22
Views: 150

Re: no sensation when masturbating

Ah, okay, thank you for clarifying! With those fantasies, have you ever tried giving yourself time to get deep into them without trying to masturbate, just to see what happens? If there aren't physical sensations that jump out at you, are there mental ones that do? Things that you find really exciti...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 10:15 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 22
Views: 150

Re: no sensation when masturbating

Those details are helpful, thanks! So, there are a few different things you could try. One is to find some fantasies that you get really into; the more engaged your brain is, the more likely you are to feel pleasure from the experience. This article offers some great starting points for that: How to...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 8:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: birth control change t_t
Replies: 1
Views: 54

Re: birth control change t_t

Hi Lycheefan, The mini pill and combination pill are within one percent of each other when it comes to effectiveness. You can read more about them, and the differences between them, in these two pieces: Combined Oral Contraceptives (The Pill) , Progesterone-Only Oral Contraceptives (Minipills)
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Vagina doesn't look like anything I've seen! I cant find the labia minora
Replies: 4
Views: 133

Re: Vagina doesn't look like anything I've seen! I cant find the labia minora

Hi Stormweather, Hooray for finding the right mirror! And you're right, even with a rise in representation of genital diversity, fat bodies are still under-represented. Hopefully the more you explore, the easier it'll become to find things down there. With those conversations with your lover and ins...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 8:17 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 22
Views: 150

Re: no sensation when masturbating

Hi Crow, It does sound like you're already doing a lot of the recommendations, which is awesome but also, understandably, frustrating. Can you give me a sense of whether there are other parts of your body, genitals or not, that you do feel pleasure when touching? And when you try masturbating, are y...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 8:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't know where to turn :/
Replies: 1
Views: 73

Re: I don't know where to turn :/

Hi ChaiStitch, I want to start by saying I'm so sorry that your family is so unsupportive and that you're in an environment where there isn't much, if any, room to safely grow into your gender identity. You deserve as much support as you can get (M sounds like a wonderful friend), and you'll certain...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 7:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I dont feel anything in my vagina
Replies: 1
Views: 39

Re: I dont feel anything in my vagina

Hi doodlesdoo, Let's start with the lack of intense sensation first. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you, and if you take a peek around the rest of the boards you'll see there are lots of people dealing with similar issues. When you've tried to masturbate in the past, were you focusing on a ce...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 30, 2021 11:18 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming
Replies: 5
Views: 72

Re: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming

Got it, that detail is helpful! I was trying to work out if part of what was causing the over-sensitivity was actually an orgasm that was mild enough to not be immediately obvious, but that doesn't sound like it's the case. And you're very welcome! If you need help with those conversations about sex...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 30, 2021 9:14 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming
Replies: 5
Views: 72

Re: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming

You're very welcome! With the clitoral stimulation feeling good and then suddenly feeling not good, have you noticed that tends to align with other bodily reactions like your legs spasming? So, there are a few different things you could explore with your boyfriend. When it comes to clitoral stimulat...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 30, 2021 8:10 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: What am I?
Replies: 3
Views: 45

Re: What am I?

Those both sound like great starting places! If you want some more ideas, including ones that you can do fairly privately, check out these pieces of our Trans Summer School: Trans Summer School: So I Think I Might Be Trans. Now What? , Trans Summer School: Gender Expression Gear . You may also find ...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 30, 2021 8:01 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Vagina doesn't look like anything I've seen! I cant find the labia minora
Replies: 4
Views: 133

Re: Vagina doesn't look like anything I've seen! I cant find the labia minora

Hi stormweather, What you're describing sounds within the average variation folks experience with their genitals, and like it's just part of how your body is shaped, but that doesn't mean it can't also be kind of frustrating. Have you ever tried a self-exam with a mirror? If so, how did that go? If ...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 12:50 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Teen sexually attracted to predatory adults
Replies: 5
Views: 151

Re: Teen sexually attracted to predatory adults

Hi mondilebel, I'm glad the resources Urna provided are proving helpful! I hope you continue exploring them and, if you haven't already done so, look into working with a counselor or support group that specializes in working survivors of sexual abuse. I also want to pass on this resource, which is a...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 12:40 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Caught Masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 82

Re: Caught Masturbating

You're welcome! And it really depends on your mom; if you think she'll at worst be embarrassed or awkward, then telling the truth might be the less stressful way to go. But you could also say something fairly non-specific, like you were adjusting your swimsuit and she walked in at a weird moment.
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 12:24 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness
Replies: 19
Views: 748

Re: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness

Those are definitely fears I've heard people have, and sometimes had myself, around taking time for self care or for simply enjoying myself. There are a few different approaches to those thoughts, and you might find some or all of them helpful. One is to remind yourself that we're all deserving of c...

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