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by Sam W
Mon May 17, 2021 12:24 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Ok this is kinda embarrassing
Replies: 5
Views: 20

Re: Ok this is kinda embarrassing

Got it. So, like I said, ejaculating is not always something people can always voluntarily control. If you don't like how it feels, you can try not bearing down with sexual pleasure or orgasm, or "holding it" like you would urine when you have to pee but can't get to a bathroom. But that m...
by Sam W
Mon May 17, 2021 12:10 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Ok this is kinda embarrassing
Replies: 5
Views: 20

Re: Ok this is kinda embarrassing

Hi jenny01, To make sure I've got things straight, are you noticing a lot of ejaculate (which accompanies orgasm), or is it that you're noticing you have a lot of vaginal discharge? Either way, there isn't a ton you can do to limit how much vaginal discharge you get or if/how much you ejaculate. Tho...
by Sam W
Mon May 17, 2021 10:17 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Asking my crush about meeting in person, wanting to make some more friends, etc.
Replies: 3
Views: 20

Re: Asking my crush about meeting in person, wanting to make some more friends, etc.

Got it. It sounds like you're pretty aware that the pattern is a little bit of anxiety leading up to the meeting and then relaxing into spending time with your friend. To me, that's a pretty good indicator that meeting him in person is something worth pursuing. I would for sure bring this topic up w...
by Sam W
Mon May 17, 2021 9:29 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Asking my crush about meeting in person, wanting to make some more friends, etc.
Replies: 3
Views: 20

Re: Asking my crush about meeting in person, wanting to make some more friends, etc.

Hi Amthyst, I think there are a few things to do that might help you get some clarity around meeting him in person. The first is: when you think about getting to see him, what would you say is the dominant emotion you feel? Is it excitement or happiness? Does it feel like the fears you have are atta...
by Sam W
Mon May 17, 2021 7:12 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex Ed Books That Promote Inclusion of All Genders
Replies: 2
Views: 46

Re: Sex Ed Books That Promote Inclusion of All Genders

Jumping in to add one that's coming out in September of this year: "Own Your Period." It's super-accessible information on periods and bodies that's also inclusive.
by Sam W
Sat May 15, 2021 8:09 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexually (really , really) frustrated
Replies: 3
Views: 70

Re: Sexually (really , really) frustrated

Hi Hel, As counter intuitive as it might feel right now, it might help to think of him setting that week waiting period as a positive thing. Both because we want our partners to feel safe and able to set those kinds of boundaries with us but also because, since this is something you really hope you ...
by Sam W
Thu May 13, 2021 10:13 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Brutally Honest
Replies: 9
Views: 429

Re: Brutally Honest

Hi girlplayer34, I want to touch on something you said about rationality and love. In my experience, love and relationships aren't purely rational OR irrational; they're a mixture of things we make decisions about and things that feel outside of our control. For instance, things like chemistry or at...
by Sam W
Tue May 11, 2021 9:25 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Struggling to keep my weight gain fantasies under control
Replies: 11
Views: 587

Re: Struggling to keep my weight gain fantasies under control

Hi belled, I wanted to chime in about your last point: sometimes, when we have thoughts or ideas that just keep circling our heads, writing them out can actually be really helpful (even when they're not distressing us and are more making it harder for us to focus on other things we want/need to be f...
by Sam W
Tue May 11, 2021 6:55 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby
Replies: 13
Views: 662

Re: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby

Hi nerd. It's absolutely okay to vent about that stuff here. While I'm a pretty firm believer in normal being overrated, I also don't know anyone from a marginalized or "othered" identity who hasn't had moments of wishing they could just be like everyone else so the crummy things that were...
by Sam W
Thu May 06, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Semen on new condom
Replies: 1
Views: 356

Re: Semen on new condom

Hi martin021, So, the scenario you're describing doesn't pose a risk of pregnancy, because sperm cannot survive the trip from penis to hand to condom. Too, sperm need specific conditions in order to help create a pregnancy. You can read more about that in these two articles: Who's Afraid of Sperm Ce...
by Sam W
Thu May 06, 2021 8:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Problems masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 491

Re: Problems masturbating

Hi jenny01, There are a few different things that could be at play here. The first is, have you been feeling stressed or otherwise in a low or tense mood for parts of this week? Too, does part of that boredom seem to be coming from your brain being uninterested in the fantasies or sexual media you u...
by Sam W
Thu May 06, 2021 8:15 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: I still cant ejaculate.
Replies: 2
Views: 322

Re: I still cant ejaculate.

Hi Magicarp778, It sounds like this is really stressing you out! If it helps to know, people don't hit the exact same stage of puberty at the exact same age, so sometimes a certain part of it (like first ejaculation) comes a little later for you than it does for your peers. But there's no reason to ...
by Sam W
Thu May 06, 2021 7:54 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Minors & Sex
Replies: 8
Views: 391

Re: Minors & Sex

Hi MSW4Teens, So, I would prioritize the situation where she's sending images to far older men, because that's both a major safety issue and one that, to me, suggests there is something else going on that needs addressing. Have the two of you spoken about how she's getting in contact with these men ...
by Sam W
Thu May 06, 2021 7:39 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby
Replies: 13
Views: 662

Re: Genderflux, but my family is anti-enby

Hi nerd., That does sound incredibly frustrating and invalidating, and I'm sorry you're stuck dealing with it. With the clothing, can you say a little more about why you're not able to buy your own? Is it an issue of access or mobility? Something else? I ask because, if you at least have the money f...
by Sam W
Tue May 04, 2021 7:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: missing period/how to get it back
Replies: 1
Views: 369

Re: missing period/how to get it back

Hi theaprilwitch, The tricky thing is, there's not really a way to induce a period; your cycle will get to it when it gets to it. Too, what you're describing isn't that unusual, since you're still at an age where some cycle irregularity is to be expected. And there are lots of reasons periods can go...
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 9:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex toys
Replies: 7
Views: 217

Re: Sex toys

You're very welcome, and I'm glad we could help!
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 9:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex toys
Replies: 7
Views: 217

Re: Sex toys

Do you have something like an underwear drawer? That's somewhere that, in theory, she'd have absolutely no reason to dig through.

And that sounds like a great reason to by a sex toy! There's nothing wrong with being curious about new way of masturbating.
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 8:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex toys
Replies: 7
Views: 217

Re: Sex toys

Got it. So, with those privacy concerns, are there places in your room that other people never look t or use? Places like the back of a dresser drawer, under a bed, or another spot no one but you is going to be in can all be good options for storing sex toys. For those other doubts, when you first s...
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 8:41 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Clothing and Tucking
Replies: 3
Views: 313

Re: Clothing and Tucking

Hi Spider_Queen, If you buy an item with a super-specific way it needs to be worn, it will usually include directions. More generally, I like this article as a starting place for how to fit and wear a gaffe (it also includes links to more detailed directions for tucking): https://pointofpride.org/ga...
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex toys
Replies: 7
Views: 217

Re: Sex toys

Hi Krys, You're absolutely right that exploring different ways of masturbating, including using sex toys, is nothing to be ashamed of and is a part of our sexual development. Would it help to talk a little more about those self-questioning thoughts or doubts are? Sometimes, if we identify what, spec...
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 8:00 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 616

Re: Exclusivity?

I think that's an excellent thing to bring up with your therapist! Especially because you've identified it as a factor in the anxiety you feel around relationships.
by Sam W
Sat May 01, 2021 8:27 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 616

Re: Exclusivity?

Hi MusicNerd, Since it sounds like the two of you are otherwise communicating pretty well, it might help to assume that his interest in you, and his desire to stay in a relationship with you are genuine. If he were showing a lot of signs of disinterest or detachment, that might indicate something el...

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