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by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 10:12 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?
Replies: 9
Views: 91

Re: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?

The information I'm finding doesn't suggest this is about genes. We can't determine the cause of it remotely, but things like infections and digestive conditions are just some of the possible ones, hence the suggestion to speak with a healthcare provider about this. I will say that if you do start n...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 9:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: age-appropriate erotica and sexual material?
Replies: 1
Views: 42

Re: age-appropriate erotica and sexual material?

Hi waffles100, It's great that you're looking for ways to help her explore her curiosity around sexual media safely! The tricky thing is that any site or seller of sexual media isn't going to have things aimed at her age group because of all the laws around selling porn to minors. But, I think there...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 9:27 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?
Replies: 9
Views: 91

Re: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?

I totally get not wanting to speak to your parents about your masturbation habits. Do you have any ability to see a healthcare provider on your own? Or is your only option for them to arrange it for you?
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 9:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Replies: 91
Views: 20687

Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever

Hi Sandpiper, I think it's really sound to recognize where that urge to keep score was coming from, and how it was tied into your bigger feelings about sex. It also seems like it's a useful contrast to that period of time in June; you weren't keeping score, you didn't feel the need to get out ahead ...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 8:50 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?
Replies: 9
Views: 91

Re: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?

Did you mention this during your last healthcare checks? If not, then it's unlikely the things they looked at were specific enough to catch or eliminate any underlying causes of this.
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 8:33 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Dealing with burnout
Replies: 4
Views: 91

Re: Dealing with burnout

Hi MusicNerd, It sounds like you've been doing lots of work to unpack and sort through these feelings, which is great! And you're right, it can be so strange and yet revelatory to realize that you just being is enough; that's one of those concepts that feels so basic but, because of how many people ...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 8:24 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?
Replies: 9
Views: 91

Re: Mucus(?) discharges every time I finger myself?

Hi subjekt,

Thank you for clarifying that! So, having anal mucus in such quantities that it's easily visible and helping in lubrication is something you should see a healthcare provider about, as it can be a symptom of a number of different things. Are you able to access that kind of care?
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 8:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity
Replies: 8
Views: 138

Re: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity

Good on you for respecting their decisions! Honestly, only they can know their reasons for not wanting to raise the issue again, but I know just from the people in m own life that if the people came out to treated them lovingly they decided not to bring up the less than perfect coming out conversati...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 31, 2021 8:02 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I had some guy grab me this morning
Replies: 5
Views: 60

Re: I had some guy grab me this morning

Hi TnGirl, I'm so sorry that happened to you! I ran cross country in high school and I vividly remember all the times someone decided that my minding my own business while running while was somehow a sign to harass me; it sucked, big time. It sounds like you're mostly venting, which is totally fine!...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 10:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Knowing that this is a safe space
Replies: 13
Views: 206

Re: Knowing that this is a safe space

I'm glad the reading and the boards are helpful! It may help to take at least some of that sexual pressure out of your system, whether that's by masturbating or by doing something that burns off some of that pent up energy. I suggest this because when we're in a super sex-craving brainspace, it can ...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 10:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Knowing that this is a safe space
Replies: 13
Views: 206

Re: Knowing that this is a safe space

It can certainly be nerve-wracking to have those kinds of conversations. I will say that if you don't feel ready to be that kind of up-front or direct with him, then that's a sign to keep holding off for a bit. Casual sex often has the best outcomes when people are able to communicate about their ne...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 9:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Knowing that this is a safe space
Replies: 13
Views: 206

Re: Knowing that this is a safe space

Hi OtherAngel, Curiosity is a totally valid reason to explore different sexual dynamics or activities provided that, as Val mentioned above, you're not charging into them with lots of assumptions about how they will or won't go. I think taking time to think about this is also a sound call! It sounds...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 8:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity
Replies: 8
Views: 138

Re: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity

You're so very welcome, and I hope those conversations all go well!
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 7:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity
Replies: 8
Views: 138

Re: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity

Hi iloveeveryone, I'm glad to hear your parents tend towards the supportive end of things, if only because that will (hopefully) make things easier for your sister when she talks to them. It sounds like you know the next step is to talk with your sibling and if/how they want to approach your parents...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 7:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Dealing with burnout
Replies: 4
Views: 91

Re: Dealing with burnout

Hi MusicNerd,

Okay! We treat this like a venting/processing post, and figure that if you want to ask for support around this topic in the future, you're welcome to pick this conversation back up.
by Sam W
Thu Jul 29, 2021 9:04 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Well, it's happening.
Replies: 6
Views: 177

Re: Well, it's happening.

Hi transfemandgay, I'm so sorry that you had to call off your plan. I can think of few things more frustrating than psyching yourself up to do something big and scary only to have something beyond your control throw it all off. I do want to say that, while this probably feels like it's all for nothi...
by Sam W
Thu Jul 29, 2021 7:43 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: An Autistic's Guide to Being Ghosted
Replies: 0
Views: 25

An Autistic's Guide to Being Ghosted

A new entry in our series on dating while autistic from the wonderful Douglas Laman: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/disa ... ng_ghosted
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 8:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand
Replies: 5
Views: 103

Re: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand

You're welcome, I'm glad it was helpful! And I think those are all good steps to take in terms of looking after yourself and being in a place where you're ready to be sexual with someone, even if it doesn't turn out to be this guy. It's not inherently bad to not have seen each other, and some people...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 8:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand
Replies: 5
Views: 103

Re: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand

What do you think about feeling this guy out a bit more first? That way you're being careful with your safety (both physical and emotional) and you're getting the chance to learn if this guy is a good partner. After all, even with casual sex, our experiences are better if we're with someone who mesh...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 7:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: sperm and water
Replies: 3
Views: 82

Re: sperm and water

Hi userSG1400, I'm going to ask that you not continue seeking reassurance around this topic; we've given you what information we have, and this topic has been covered many times on both the main site and these boards, so if you need to double check information or look for answers, you can search bot...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 7:27 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Guilt About Gender
Replies: 2
Views: 71

Re: Guilt About Gender

Hi PowerPup, I went ahead and made this it's own thread, since the other thread had sort of come to a close. I think you're right that the fact that many of the socially encouraged or rewarded versions of masculinity are ones that are toxic is a vicious combination that's really hard to navigate and...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 7:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trouble Masturbating/ feeling aroused
Replies: 3
Views: 76

Re: Trouble Masturbating/ feeling aroused

Hi fionaapplelover, Thank you for all those details, they're really helpful! Let's take a sec to focus on those worries about being able to feel pleasure. When you masturbate, is it that the physical sensation feels boring? Or can you literally not feel anything? And when you think about your body m...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 6:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Doctor question
Replies: 8
Views: 96

Re: Doctor question

Hi Sunland05, There's no single set of questions or instructions that come after you tell a healthcare provider you're sexually active. Instead, what they'll usually do is ask follow-up questions to determine how being sexually active is interlocking with your health needs. That often includes quest...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 6:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand
Replies: 5
Views: 103

Re: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand

Hi FestiveFestoon, Let's tackle some of those more general, ethical worries first. There's nothing inherently bad or wrong about having a one night stand or other kinds of casual sex; it's just one of the many ways people can choose to be sexual together. And a one night stand doesn't erase or negat...
by Sam W
Sun Jul 25, 2021 8:03 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I don't know if I should start a new relationship or not
Replies: 3
Views: 103

Re: I don't know if I should start a new relationship or not

Hi Sosnitskaya, Just so you know, this is separate from our reddit (but you still get to give only what identifying information or context you feel comfortable giving). The tricky thing is, only you can really know how you feel about him. If you like him and would be with him romantically if the sit...

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