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by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 8:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand
Replies: 5
Views: 42

Re: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand

You're welcome, I'm glad it was helpful! And I think those are all good steps to take in terms of looking after yourself and being in a place where you're ready to be sexual with someone, even if it doesn't turn out to be this guy. It's not inherently bad to not have seen each other, and some people...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 8:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand
Replies: 5
Views: 42

Re: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand

What do you think about feeling this guy out a bit more first? That way you're being careful with your safety (both physical and emotional) and you're getting the chance to learn if this guy is a good partner. After all, even with casual sex, our experiences are better if we're with someone who mesh...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 7:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: sperm and water
Replies: 3
Views: 45

Re: sperm and water

Hi userSG1400, I'm going to ask that you not continue seeking reassurance around this topic; we've given you what information we have, and this topic has been covered many times on both the main site and these boards, so if you need to double check information or look for answers, you can search bot...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 7:27 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Guilt About Gender
Replies: 1
Views: 19

Re: Guilt About Gender

Hi PowerPup, I went ahead and made this it's own thread, since the other thread had sort of come to a close. I think you're right that the fact that many of the socially encouraged or rewarded versions of masculinity are ones that are toxic is a vicious combination that's really hard to navigate and...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 7:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trouble Masturbating/ feeling aroused
Replies: 3
Views: 44

Re: Trouble Masturbating/ feeling aroused

Hi fionaapplelover, Thank you for all those details, they're really helpful! Let's take a sec to focus on those worries about being able to feel pleasure. When you masturbate, is it that the physical sensation feels boring? Or can you literally not feel anything? And when you think about your body m...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 6:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Doctor question
Replies: 8
Views: 41

Re: Doctor question

Hi Sunland05, There's no single set of questions or instructions that come after you tell a healthcare provider you're sexually active. Instead, what they'll usually do is ask follow-up questions to determine how being sexually active is interlocking with your health needs. That often includes quest...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 6:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand
Replies: 5
Views: 42

Re: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand

Hi FestiveFestoon, Let's tackle some of those more general, ethical worries first. There's nothing inherently bad or wrong about having a one night stand or other kinds of casual sex; it's just one of the many ways people can choose to be sexual together. And a one night stand doesn't erase or negat...
by Sam W
Sun Jul 25, 2021 8:03 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I don't know if I should start a new relationship or not
Replies: 3
Views: 69

Re: I don't know if I should start a new relationship or not

Hi Sosnitskaya, Just so you know, this is separate from our reddit (but you still get to give only what identifying information or context you feel comfortable giving). The tricky thing is, only you can really know how you feel about him. If you like him and would be with him romantically if the sit...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 24, 2021 8:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clitoral Pain
Replies: 3
Views: 49

Re: Clitoral Pain

You're welcome! And yep, if you tend to focus on your clitoris, that can lead to it being a little sore right after you finish masturbating.
by Sam W
Sat Jul 24, 2021 8:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clitoral Pain
Replies: 3
Views: 49

Re: Clitoral Pain

Hi stellagraceied, I'm glad you asked your gynecologist about this issue, if only so she could confirm for you that this wasn't a sign of a deeper issue. From what you're describing, it's likely your clitoris is getting a little sore from the process of masturbating. That can happen if you masturbat...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 24, 2021 8:14 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Might already be dealing with fertility Issues
Replies: 5
Views: 173

Re: Might already be dealing with fertility Issues

I'd say I agree with your mom; that's a heck of a scary, rough situation to have already dealt with. And I'm glad that your healthcare provider is being vigilant around this.
by Sam W
Sat Jul 24, 2021 8:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Testing for Pregnancy
Replies: 15
Views: 229

Re: Testing for Pregnancy

Hi kourt1996, So, it can help to remember that typical and perfect use rates are figured over the course of a year of use, rather than a single instance. That being said, a pill is only considered "missed" if it is not taken within 24 hours of the last pill, so occasionally taking it late ...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 23, 2021 7:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: finding out my friend works at an abortion clinic
Replies: 12
Views: 190

Re: finding out my friend works at an abortion clinic

Hi OtherAngel, I'm glad you feel like you're learning things! Heather is not here today, so I'll do my best to answer those more technical questions you asked. In terms of how long things take, it depends on the specific procedure. Manual or Vacuum Aspiration takes about five minutes. Dilation and e...
by Sam W
Thu Jul 22, 2021 7:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Best Friend Drama
Replies: 1
Views: 61

Re: Best Friend Drama

Hi lovelylavender, This sounds like a really stressful situation, one where it sounds like everybody else's feelings are taking precedence over yours. I think a helpful starting place would be to ask yourself whether preserving this friendship or talking with this other girl about what happened is t...
by Sam W
Thu Jul 22, 2021 7:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: finding out my friend works at an abortion clinic
Replies: 12
Views: 190

Re: finding out my friend works at an abortion clinic

Hi OtherAngel, I think it was really kind of you to reach out to your friend when you learned what kind of reaction she's getting from other people about her job. Has she responded to you yet? I ask because the person who can tell you what would be most helpful for right now is, well, her. With your...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 20, 2021 6:57 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: How to know if you are being abused (repost)
Replies: 1
Views: 43

Re: How to know if you are being abused (repost)

Hi Storm, It looks like people cannot view the post unless they have an account. If you'd like the share the information that was helpful for you, maybe copy-pasting it would work better? Too, if you (or anyone else) ever needs resources on spotting red flags in a relationship, these articles are re...
by Sam W
Mon Jul 19, 2021 11:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't know what to do
Replies: 49
Views: 903

Re: I don't know what to do

Do you think your brother and sister-in-law would be willing to cover the cost of transportation to get you to them? If they know how things are at home, I could see them understanding that your ability to gather resources is pretty dang limited right now. I'm glad you have a friend who understands ...
by Sam W
Mon Jul 19, 2021 7:14 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Some Books and Balms for Nonbinary Folks
Replies: 0
Views: 31

Some Books and Balms for Nonbinary Folks

Some excellent words and book recommendations for nonbinary folks from Heather: https://www.scarleteen.com/blog/heather ... nary_folks
by Sam W
Mon Jul 19, 2021 7:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Until I meet someone …
Replies: 1
Views: 75

Re: Until I meet someone …

Hi ballerina99, It sounds like you've been using the fact you're single as a chance to do a ton of exploration and introspection, which is awesome! Buying a sex toy would certainly be one way to add new elements into masturbation. If you're shy about purchasing it in person, ordering online would be...
by Sam W
Mon Jul 19, 2021 6:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: this is what happened to me today. is it normal?
Replies: 1
Views: 45

Re: this is what happened to me today. is it normal?

Hi peach_stryde, I wouldn't say a burst of sexual fantasy is a sign you're over-sexual; it's a pretty common occurrence for folks who experience sexual attraction. Too, sometimes we fantasize about things that we'd never really do, or may not even want, in the real world because something about that...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 16, 2021 7:31 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Relationship Issues Compounded by Legal Issues
Replies: 1
Views: 132

Re: Relationship Issues Compounded by Legal Issues

Hi Valentin0, You're right that navigating when to bring up specific sexual wants with a partner (or potential partner) can be tricky, especially when you know there's the potential for those sexual wants to generate an instant "nope" from them. I don't think you need to be super worried t...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 16, 2021 7:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: can i use they/them pronouns even though im (quite sure) im cis??
Replies: 4
Views: 183

Re: can i use they/them pronouns even though im (quite sure) im cis??

Hi strawberrysyrup, It sounds like you've been doing a bit of introspection on this lately, which is actually pretty dang neat! In my experience, it's beneficial for cis people to engage in that kind of reflection, even if we end up concluding, "yep, the gender I was assigned at birth feels rig...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 16, 2021 6:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Im worried
Replies: 1
Views: 84

Re: Im worried

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Sam W
Thu Jul 15, 2021 10:16 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Finding Our Own Voices: Renée Yoxon and Gender-Affirming Vocal Therapy
Replies: 0
Views: 89

Finding Our Own Voices: Renée Yoxon and Gender-Affirming Vocal Therapy

Scarleteen volunteer Val J talks to queer, nonbinary and disabled musician and voice teacher Renee Yoxon about their exciting and radical work in gender-affirming vocal therapy: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodi ... raffirming

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