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by Sam W
Tue May 04, 2021 7:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: missing period/how to get it back
Replies: 1
Views: 35

Re: missing period/how to get it back

Hi theaprilwitch, The tricky thing is, there's not really a way to induce a period; your cycle will get to it when it gets to it. Too, what you're describing isn't that unusual, since you're still at an age where some cycle irregularity is to be expected. And there are lots of reasons periods can go...
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 9:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex toys
Replies: 7
Views: 100

Re: Sex toys

You're very welcome, and I'm glad we could help!
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 9:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex toys
Replies: 7
Views: 100

Re: Sex toys

Do you have something like an underwear drawer? That's somewhere that, in theory, she'd have absolutely no reason to dig through.

And that sounds like a great reason to by a sex toy! There's nothing wrong with being curious about new way of masturbating.
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 8:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex toys
Replies: 7
Views: 100

Re: Sex toys

Got it. So, with those privacy concerns, are there places in your room that other people never look t or use? Places like the back of a dresser drawer, under a bed, or another spot no one but you is going to be in can all be good options for storing sex toys. For those other doubts, when you first s...
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 8:41 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Clothing and Tucking
Replies: 3
Views: 196

Re: Clothing and Tucking

Hi Spider_Queen, If you buy an item with a super-specific way it needs to be worn, it will usually include directions. More generally, I like this article as a starting place for how to fit and wear a gaffe (it also includes links to more detailed directions for tucking): https://pointofpride.org/ga...
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex toys
Replies: 7
Views: 100

Re: Sex toys

Hi Krys, You're absolutely right that exploring different ways of masturbating, including using sex toys, is nothing to be ashamed of and is a part of our sexual development. Would it help to talk a little more about those self-questioning thoughts or doubts are? Sometimes, if we identify what, spec...
by Sam W
Sun May 02, 2021 8:00 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 465

Re: Exclusivity?

I think that's an excellent thing to bring up with your therapist! Especially because you've identified it as a factor in the anxiety you feel around relationships.
by Sam W
Sat May 01, 2021 8:27 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 465

Re: Exclusivity?

Hi MusicNerd, Since it sounds like the two of you are otherwise communicating pretty well, it might help to assume that his interest in you, and his desire to stay in a relationship with you are genuine. If he were showing a lot of signs of disinterest or detachment, that might indicate something el...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 29, 2021 8:05 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: My breasts hurt in the middle of the pill chart
Replies: 3
Views: 150

Re: My breasts hurt in the middle of the pill chart

I'm glad the response was helpful, and that you're working with your psychologist to address these fears. That's a great step in taking care of yourself!
by Sam W
Thu Apr 29, 2021 7:55 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Changed my mind
Replies: 5
Views: 122

Re: Changed my mind

Hi Hel, I think this is one of those situations where a direct ask is totally okay! Or, if the two of you regularly check in about what kinds of touch you do and don't want, that could be a good time to bring it up as well. With the pet name, does he generally call you things like that, or are pet n...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 29, 2021 7:47 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Seriously, what is wrong with my vulva?
Replies: 2
Views: 173

Re: Seriously, what is wrong with my vulva?

Hi litha_gorse, It sounds like this situation has been causing you a lot of stress, so hopefully we can find some ways to approach it. For starters, have you told an OB-GYN recently about the itchiness and the fact it seems to be causing issues with sensitivity? Your gynecologist was right that labi...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 29, 2021 7:41 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: My breasts hurt in the middle of the pill chart
Replies: 3
Views: 150

Re: My breasts hurt in the middle of the pill chart

Hi JuliaGallo, Nope, sore breasts do not indicate the pill has stopped working. Breast tenderness can have all sorts of causes, including things like where you are in your cycle and the side effects of certain medications. And, given everything else you've said, there's no reason to assume they're a...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 27, 2021 9:04 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Feeling guilty
Replies: 5
Views: 198

Re: Feeling guilty

You're welcome, and I'm so glad we were able to help!
by Sam W
Tue Apr 27, 2021 8:12 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Feeling guilty
Replies: 5
Views: 198

Re: Feeling guilty

Hi flores2231, I'm glad the links were helpful! In addition to what Elise said, I want to mention that another thing that often differentiates normal exploration and curiosity from sexual abuse is the instigator being much older and bigger (and usually at a different developmental level) than the su...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 27, 2021 7:43 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Usernamesake
Replies: 5
Views: 187

Re: Usernamesake

Hi idk anymore, Finding relationships of any kind in small towns can definitely be challenging. From what you're describing, I can think of two different approaches that might lessen at least some of those feelings of loneliness. One is to really focus your energy on fostering those online friendshi...
by Sam W
Tue Apr 27, 2021 6:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I just victimizing myself?
Replies: 10
Views: 177

Re: Am I just victimizing myself?

Hi FestiveFestoon, I'm glad the article was helpful! I think practicing setting smaller boundaries as you work up to tackling this is a great plan. Given how you've described her, is this friend someone you want to stay friends with at all? In other words, are there things about the friendship that ...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 26, 2021 8:11 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Replies: 26
Views: 619

Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions

It's tricky, because gauging whether a person is interested in friendship rather than sex usually involves explicit communication at some point. That being said, if you haven't already read it, this article offers some general advice for spotting signs that someone is interested in you romantically ...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 26, 2021 7:59 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???
Replies: 4
Views: 144

Re: Actual relationship issues or is it in my head???

Hi Hel, I think it's very sound to recognize that a lot of this anxiety is tied to a past relationship, and that talking about that with a therapist will probably be helpful. I do want to add that something that can be helpful to remember when it comes to texts or other messages is that it's very co...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 26, 2021 7:19 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Replies: 26
Views: 619

Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions

I think continuing to read and work with your therapist when possible around unlearning the thought patterns that contribute to you feeling like you won't ever find a partner is a sound idea.

Is there anything else we can help you with around this right now?
by Sam W
Mon Apr 26, 2021 7:05 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I just victimizing myself?
Replies: 10
Views: 177

Re: Am I just victimizing myself?

Hi FestiveFestoon, I wouldn't say you're victimizing yourself; it sounds like you're having an understandable reaction to some super-generalized and ultra-unhelpful messages about gender. Before I dive into the rest of your question, since you mention you've been self-harming lately, do you have men...
by Sam W
Sat Apr 24, 2021 8:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Replies: 26
Views: 619

Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions

Hi BuddyBoi21, I'm glad you and your therapist have touched on this, even though it sounds like scheduling sessions with her has been tricky. That's a great step in taking care of yourself. I'm a pretty firm believer in the idea that lust isn't just the less complex, less important cousin of love; s...
by Sam W
Sat Apr 24, 2021 7:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Need some comfort
Replies: 34
Views: 608

Re: Need some comfort

Hi flores2231,

I'm glad talking here has been helpful, and I hope that time of self-reflection helps you out. Is there anything else we can help you with around this (or anything else) right now?
by Sam W
Fri Apr 23, 2021 6:54 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: How to make my breasts bigger? Please help!
Replies: 11
Views: 701

Re: How to make my breasts bigger? Please help!

Hi Jenny01, I'm sorry that this is making you feel that way, so let's see if we can brainstorm some ways to help with that. For starters, are there things you can do to help you feel more feminine or attractive that don't have to do with your breasts? I ask because when you're feeling down about a c...

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