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by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 10:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Knowing that this is a safe space
Replies: 10
Views: 117

Re: Knowing that this is a safe space

I'm glad the reading and the boards are helpful! It may help to take at least some of that sexual pressure out of your system, whether that's by masturbating or by doing something that burns off some of that pent up energy. I suggest this because when we're in a super sex-craving brainspace, it can ...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 10:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Knowing that this is a safe space
Replies: 10
Views: 117

Re: Knowing that this is a safe space

It can certainly be nerve-wracking to have those kinds of conversations. I will say that if you don't feel ready to be that kind of up-front or direct with him, then that's a sign to keep holding off for a bit. Casual sex often has the best outcomes when people are able to communicate about their ne...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 9:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Knowing that this is a safe space
Replies: 10
Views: 117

Re: Knowing that this is a safe space

Hi OtherAngel, Curiosity is a totally valid reason to explore different sexual dynamics or activities provided that, as Val mentioned above, you're not charging into them with lots of assumptions about how they will or won't go. I think taking time to think about this is also a sound call! It sounds...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 8:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity
Replies: 5
Views: 60

Re: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity

You're so very welcome, and I hope those conversations all go well!
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 7:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity
Replies: 5
Views: 60

Re: Issue with parents feelings about sibling sexual identity

Hi iloveeveryone, I'm glad to hear your parents tend towards the supportive end of things, if only because that will (hopefully) make things easier for your sister when she talks to them. It sounds like you know the next step is to talk with your sibling and if/how they want to approach your parents...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 30, 2021 7:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Dealing with burnout
Replies: 2
Views: 42

Re: Dealing with burnout

Hi MusicNerd,

Okay! We treat this like a venting/processing post, and figure that if you want to ask for support around this topic in the future, you're welcome to pick this conversation back up.
by Sam W
Thu Jul 29, 2021 9:04 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Well, it's happening.
Replies: 6
Views: 152

Re: Well, it's happening.

Hi transfemandgay, I'm so sorry that you had to call off your plan. I can think of few things more frustrating than psyching yourself up to do something big and scary only to have something beyond your control throw it all off. I do want to say that, while this probably feels like it's all for nothi...
by Sam W
Thu Jul 29, 2021 7:43 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: An Autistic's Guide to Being Ghosted
Replies: 0
Views: 18

An Autistic's Guide to Being Ghosted

A new entry in our series on dating while autistic from the wonderful Douglas Laman: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/disa ... ng_ghosted
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 8:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand
Replies: 5
Views: 79

Re: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand

You're welcome, I'm glad it was helpful! And I think those are all good steps to take in terms of looking after yourself and being in a place where you're ready to be sexual with someone, even if it doesn't turn out to be this guy. It's not inherently bad to not have seen each other, and some people...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 8:04 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand
Replies: 5
Views: 79

Re: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand

What do you think about feeling this guy out a bit more first? That way you're being careful with your safety (both physical and emotional) and you're getting the chance to learn if this guy is a good partner. After all, even with casual sex, our experiences are better if we're with someone who mesh...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 7:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: sperm and water
Replies: 3
Views: 72

Re: sperm and water

Hi userSG1400, I'm going to ask that you not continue seeking reassurance around this topic; we've given you what information we have, and this topic has been covered many times on both the main site and these boards, so if you need to double check information or look for answers, you can search bot...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 7:27 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Guilt About Gender
Replies: 1
Views: 48

Re: Guilt About Gender

Hi PowerPup, I went ahead and made this it's own thread, since the other thread had sort of come to a close. I think you're right that the fact that many of the socially encouraged or rewarded versions of masculinity are ones that are toxic is a vicious combination that's really hard to navigate and...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 7:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Trouble Masturbating/ feeling aroused
Replies: 3
Views: 64

Re: Trouble Masturbating/ feeling aroused

Hi fionaapplelover, Thank you for all those details, they're really helpful! Let's take a sec to focus on those worries about being able to feel pleasure. When you masturbate, is it that the physical sensation feels boring? Or can you literally not feel anything? And when you think about your body m...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 6:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Doctor question
Replies: 8
Views: 72

Re: Doctor question

Hi Sunland05, There's no single set of questions or instructions that come after you tell a healthcare provider you're sexually active. Instead, what they'll usually do is ask follow-up questions to determine how being sexually active is interlocking with your health needs. That often includes quest...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 27, 2021 6:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand
Replies: 5
Views: 79

Re: Friend of a friend asked me for a one night stand

Hi FestiveFestoon, Let's tackle some of those more general, ethical worries first. There's nothing inherently bad or wrong about having a one night stand or other kinds of casual sex; it's just one of the many ways people can choose to be sexual together. And a one night stand doesn't erase or negat...
by Sam W
Sun Jul 25, 2021 8:03 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I don't know if I should start a new relationship or not
Replies: 3
Views: 91

Re: I don't know if I should start a new relationship or not

Hi Sosnitskaya, Just so you know, this is separate from our reddit (but you still get to give only what identifying information or context you feel comfortable giving). The tricky thing is, only you can really know how you feel about him. If you like him and would be with him romantically if the sit...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 24, 2021 8:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clitoral Pain
Replies: 3
Views: 81

Re: Clitoral Pain

You're welcome! And yep, if you tend to focus on your clitoris, that can lead to it being a little sore right after you finish masturbating.
by Sam W
Sat Jul 24, 2021 8:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clitoral Pain
Replies: 3
Views: 81

Re: Clitoral Pain

Hi stellagraceied, I'm glad you asked your gynecologist about this issue, if only so she could confirm for you that this wasn't a sign of a deeper issue. From what you're describing, it's likely your clitoris is getting a little sore from the process of masturbating. That can happen if you masturbat...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 24, 2021 8:14 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Might already be dealing with fertility Issues
Replies: 5
Views: 206

Re: Might already be dealing with fertility Issues

I'd say I agree with your mom; that's a heck of a scary, rough situation to have already dealt with. And I'm glad that your healthcare provider is being vigilant around this.
by Sam W
Sat Jul 24, 2021 8:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Testing for Pregnancy
Replies: 15
Views: 256

Re: Testing for Pregnancy

Hi kourt1996, So, it can help to remember that typical and perfect use rates are figured over the course of a year of use, rather than a single instance. That being said, a pill is only considered "missed" if it is not taken within 24 hours of the last pill, so occasionally taking it late ...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 23, 2021 7:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: finding out my friend works at an abortion clinic
Replies: 12
Views: 266

Re: finding out my friend works at an abortion clinic

Hi OtherAngel, I'm glad you feel like you're learning things! Heather is not here today, so I'll do my best to answer those more technical questions you asked. In terms of how long things take, it depends on the specific procedure. Manual or Vacuum Aspiration takes about five minutes. Dilation and e...
by Sam W
Thu Jul 22, 2021 7:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Best Friend Drama
Replies: 1
Views: 87

Re: Best Friend Drama

Hi lovelylavender, This sounds like a really stressful situation, one where it sounds like everybody else's feelings are taking precedence over yours. I think a helpful starting place would be to ask yourself whether preserving this friendship or talking with this other girl about what happened is t...
by Sam W
Thu Jul 22, 2021 7:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: finding out my friend works at an abortion clinic
Replies: 12
Views: 266

Re: finding out my friend works at an abortion clinic

Hi OtherAngel, I think it was really kind of you to reach out to your friend when you learned what kind of reaction she's getting from other people about her job. Has she responded to you yet? I ask because the person who can tell you what would be most helpful for right now is, well, her. With your...
by Sam W
Tue Jul 20, 2021 6:57 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: How to know if you are being abused (repost)
Replies: 1
Views: 60

Re: How to know if you are being abused (repost)

Hi Storm, It looks like people cannot view the post unless they have an account. If you'd like the share the information that was helpful for you, maybe copy-pasting it would work better? Too, if you (or anyone else) ever needs resources on spotting red flags in a relationship, these articles are re...

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