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by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 11:24 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 12
Views: 55

Re: no sensation when masturbating

Have you ever tried introducing a vibrator into the mix when masturbating? It could be that introducing a sensation that's both very intense and novel might introduce new, pleasurable sensations. Got it, I was asking because sometimes getting really excited mentally can be a path to other kinds of p...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 10:47 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 12
Views: 55

Re: no sensation when masturbating

Ah, okay, thank you for clarifying! With those fantasies, have you ever tried giving yourself time to get deep into them without trying to masturbate, just to see what happens? If there aren't physical sensations that jump out at you, are there mental ones that do? Things that you find really exciti...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 10:15 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 12
Views: 55

Re: no sensation when masturbating

Those details are helpful, thanks! So, there are a few different things you could try. One is to find some fantasies that you get really into; the more engaged your brain is, the more likely you are to feel pleasure from the experience. This article offers some great starting points for that: How to...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 8:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: birth control change t_t
Replies: 1
Views: 25

Re: birth control change t_t

Hi Lycheefan, The mini pill and combination pill are within one percent of each other when it comes to effectiveness. You can read more about them, and the differences between them, in these two pieces: Combined Oral Contraceptives (The Pill) , Progesterone-Only Oral Contraceptives (Minipills)
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 8:30 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Vagina doesn't look like anything I've seen! I cant find the labia minora
Replies: 4
Views: 72

Re: Vagina doesn't look like anything I've seen! I cant find the labia minora

Hi Stormweather, Hooray for finding the right mirror! And you're right, even with a rise in representation of genital diversity, fat bodies are still under-represented. Hopefully the more you explore, the easier it'll become to find things down there. With those conversations with your lover and ins...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 8:17 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 12
Views: 55

Re: no sensation when masturbating

Hi Crow, It does sound like you're already doing a lot of the recommendations, which is awesome but also, understandably, frustrating. Can you give me a sense of whether there are other parts of your body, genitals or not, that you do feel pleasure when touching? And when you try masturbating, are y...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 8:07 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't know where to turn :/
Replies: 1
Views: 34

Re: I don't know where to turn :/

Hi ChaiStitch, I want to start by saying I'm so sorry that your family is so unsupportive and that you're in an environment where there isn't much, if any, room to safely grow into your gender identity. You deserve as much support as you can get (M sounds like a wonderful friend), and you'll certain...
by Sam W
Fri Dec 03, 2021 7:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I dont feel anything in my vagina
Replies: 1
Views: 25

Re: I dont feel anything in my vagina

Hi doodlesdoo, Let's start with the lack of intense sensation first. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you, and if you take a peek around the rest of the boards you'll see there are lots of people dealing with similar issues. When you've tried to masturbate in the past, were you focusing on a ce...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 30, 2021 11:18 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming
Replies: 5
Views: 62

Re: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming

Got it, that detail is helpful! I was trying to work out if part of what was causing the over-sensitivity was actually an orgasm that was mild enough to not be immediately obvious, but that doesn't sound like it's the case. And you're very welcome! If you need help with those conversations about sex...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 30, 2021 9:14 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming
Replies: 5
Views: 62

Re: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming

You're very welcome! With the clitoral stimulation feeling good and then suddenly feeling not good, have you noticed that tends to align with other bodily reactions like your legs spasming? So, there are a few different things you could explore with your boyfriend. When it comes to clitoral stimulat...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 30, 2021 8:10 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: What am I?
Replies: 3
Views: 45

Re: What am I?

Those both sound like great starting places! If you want some more ideas, including ones that you can do fairly privately, check out these pieces of our Trans Summer School: Trans Summer School: So I Think I Might Be Trans. Now What? , Trans Summer School: Gender Expression Gear . You may also find ...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 30, 2021 8:01 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Vagina doesn't look like anything I've seen! I cant find the labia minora
Replies: 4
Views: 72

Re: Vagina doesn't look like anything I've seen! I cant find the labia minora

Hi stormweather, What you're describing sounds within the average variation folks experience with their genitals, and like it's just part of how your body is shaped, but that doesn't mean it can't also be kind of frustrating. Have you ever tried a self-exam with a mirror? If so, how did that go? If ...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 12:50 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Teen sexually attracted to predatory adults
Replies: 3
Views: 118

Re: Teen sexually attracted to predatory adults

Hi mondilebel, I'm glad the resources Urna provided are proving helpful! I hope you continue exploring them and, if you haven't already done so, look into working with a counselor or support group that specializes in working survivors of sexual abuse. I also want to pass on this resource, which is a...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 12:40 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Caught Masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 56

Re: Caught Masturbating

You're welcome! And it really depends on your mom; if you think she'll at worst be embarrassed or awkward, then telling the truth might be the less stressful way to go. But you could also say something fairly non-specific, like you were adjusting your swimsuit and she walked in at a weird moment.
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 12:24 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness
Replies: 19
Views: 722

Re: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness

Those are definitely fears I've heard people have, and sometimes had myself, around taking time for self care or for simply enjoying myself. There are a few different approaches to those thoughts, and you might find some or all of them helpful. One is to remind yourself that we're all deserving of c...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 12:10 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: GF is ace, unsure of what to do
Replies: 17
Views: 308

Re: GF is ace, unsure of what to do

Hi Spider_Queen, Everything you're describing makes a lot of sense. I will say that, even for folks who do stay friends with their exes, there's usually a break period between ending the romantic relationship and re-starting the friendship; as you're discovering, when the break-up is still fresh and...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 11:51 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming
Replies: 5
Views: 62

Re: Clitoral stimulation feels overwhelming

Hi foottaps, It sounds like you and your boyfriend are doing a great job communicating about all this when you're together, which is awesome! While some folks find they really enjoy clitoral stimulation, others find it's too intense or painful, or that they can only enjoy it for short stretches befo...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 8:36 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Caught Masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 56

Re: Caught Masturbating

Hi kokoPeg, Oof, that can be such an embarrassing feeling although, as you point out, there's a chance she didn't even notice what was going on. I think, in this instance, it's okay to pretend like nothing happened for now, especially since she isn't bringing it up, and figure that you've learned th...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 8:18 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness
Replies: 19
Views: 722

Re: Bottom Dysphoria Weirdness

Hi kokopeg, Thanks for those details, that's all really helpful! I'm so sorry you ran across such a hateful thread; if it helps to hear, every word of that description of trans women was utter trash and can go straight in the garbage. I know there are folks out there who like to claim trans women's ...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 29, 2021 8:03 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: What am I?
Replies: 3
Views: 45

Re: What am I?

Hi CryptidLoser24 , Feeling unsure about your sexual orientation and gender identity can be stressful, so let's see if we can untangle some of what you're feeling so that it's less so! With your sexual orientation, it may help to know that lot's of bi folks experience attraction to different genders...
by Sam W
Thu Nov 25, 2021 9:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Books on reproduction
Replies: 7
Views: 168

Re: Books on reproduction

I hope you find the book helpful and informative! Since you're prioritizing your mental health, I do want to point you towards some of the resources here: Anxiety and Other Mental Health Resources . The helpline would give you a place to find interim support while you look for more formal mental hea...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 23, 2021 1:13 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: boyfriend issue?
Replies: 13
Views: 300

Re: boyfriend issue?

You're right that shock could certainly be playing a role; when people find out someone the like or trust is capable of abuse, it can be really jarring. But at a certain point, her feelings about it need to be something she manages on her own, rather than making you deal with. Just in the same way h...
by Sam W
Tue Nov 23, 2021 12:52 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: reliving old problems
Replies: 7
Views: 157

Re: reliving old problems

You're very welcome! And I would definitely talk to your dad to see if the two of you can use the fact you're in not just an unwanted, but unsafe, living space to expedite the process. Custody agreements can be tricky, but in most cases their are ways to get young people out of unsafe situations soo...
by Sam W
Mon Nov 22, 2021 11:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: reliving old problems
Replies: 7
Views: 157

Re: reliving old problems

Those are some serious safety protocols, and I'm glad they're in place. Do you have a sense of how soon you'll be able to get out of the house permanently? All those emotions you're describing make total sense; feeling unsafe or limited in your home, and having those intense fear reactions to someon...

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