Search found 5568 matches

by Sam W
Sat Jul 04, 2020 7:44 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Dried Discharge in Pubes
Replies: 1
Views: 8

Re: Dried Discharge in Pubes

Hi gaymcr, There are a few different things you can try. Water can usually help, since it can soften the discharge and make it easier to remove. You can also make sure you're wiping thoroughly when you go to the bathroom, since that can help remove discharge that might be accumulating. Too, if you n...
by Sam W
Sat Jul 04, 2020 6:57 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: First Time Fears
Replies: 9
Views: 293

Re: First Time Fears

Hi Digdawg,

Thanks for the update, and glad to hear things are going better!
by Sam W
Sat Jul 04, 2020 6:55 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How to alleviate anxiety about and not mess up about a future relationship
Replies: 6
Views: 66

Re: How to alleviate anxiety about and not mess up about a future relationship

As much as you can, try not to be to down on yourself about how you're feeling. When we're anxious, seeking reassurance around our anxiety is really common, and that can often take the form of constantly checking things. It may be helpful to frame that as an unhelpful coping mechanism to unlearn, ra...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 03, 2020 10:30 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?
Replies: 28
Views: 643

Re: Why can’t I find a girlfriend?

In those conversations with your therapist, what have they advised in terms of dealing with those fears and feelings of urgency? With staying in contact, what if you tried something simple like setting reminders for yourself to text them or see if they're interested in chatting? That way you keep co...
by Sam W
Fri Jul 03, 2020 9:52 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Sexuality With Religious Matters
Replies: 1
Views: 20

Re: Sexuality With Religious Matters

Hi Sunny_Side_Up, I'm so sorry that you're finding yourself in a position where you're afraid that your sexual orientation means you can't live according to your faith, or that it puts your soul in jeopardy. Before we do anything else, I want to give you this resource: http://queergrace.com/. Queer ...
by Sam W
Thu Jul 02, 2020 7:50 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Can we stop romanticizing abuse?
Replies: 3
Views: 166

Re: Can we stop romanticizing abuse?

I'm a big fan of creating your own sex positive stories, even if they don't become the "next big thing!" And I think you're right that some of this comes from a desire to see more "taboo" sex on screen. There still seems to be a pervasive belief that you can only show those thing...
by Sam W
Thu Jul 02, 2020 7:36 am
Forum: Scarleteen Updates
Topic: Late Bloomer: A Guide To Orgasm After Rape
Replies: 0
Views: 29

Late Bloomer: A Guide To Orgasm After Rape

New! A beautiful, supportive piece from for sexual assault #survivors seeking pleasure and reconnection to their bodies and their sexual selves: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/abus ... after_rape
by Sam W
Tue Jun 30, 2020 10:10 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Several months into Covid and social distancing, how is everyone doing?
Replies: 7
Views: 371

Re: Several months into Covid and social distancing, how is everyone doing?

I hear you on those mixed feelings, or feelings that seem like they're running counter to what everyone else is expressing. I live somewhere that's had about ten confirmed cases (I suspect this is due mostly to us being rural, since many, many, many people here did not take the threat seriously), so...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 30, 2020 8:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Self Esteem Issues
Replies: 7
Views: 209

Re: Self Esteem Issues

I see. So, while he ultimately gets to decide how to manage his own phone, I'd recommend blocking her because it's clear that, rather than using those channels as a way of trying to apologize, she's using them as a way to flirt and/or mess with him. Plus, her actions are contributing to you feeling ...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 30, 2020 7:20 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: how to get my dad to stop opening my mail?
Replies: 4
Views: 92

Re: how to get my dad to stop opening my mail?

Okay, in that case maybe just asking, "hey, from now on, can you leave any packages/mail for me on my bed" is a simple starting place.
by Sam W
Tue Jun 30, 2020 7:17 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: dental dam for rimming?
Replies: 1
Views: 68

Re: dental dam for rimming?

Hi bikinsterboy,

You've got the answer in your title! Dental dams are the recommended form of protection during that activity, even if the person ends up pushing their tongue forward (since dams have some flexibility).
by Sam W
Tue Jun 30, 2020 7:08 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Coming out??
Replies: 6
Views: 273

Re: Coming out??

Joining the club sounds like a great idea! As far as how to get more involved under the radar, these articles may give you some ideas. Some of them are framed as about celebrating pride, but a lot of the advice applies to getting involved in or staying connected to the community in general: https://...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 30, 2020 6:59 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Self Esteem Issues
Replies: 7
Views: 209

Re: Self Esteem Issues

Ooof, that is definitely the kind of thing that can be a blow to your self-esteem. I'm glad he blocked her on at least one platform, but it sounds like he needs to block her pretty much everywhere. Is that something he's already done? With volunteering, definitely keep your eye out over the next mon...
by Sam W
Tue Jun 30, 2020 6:47 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: how to get my dad to stop opening my mail?
Replies: 4
Views: 92

Re: how to get my dad to stop opening my mail?

Hi bikinksterboy,

This does sound like something a conversation would hopefully solve. Do you happen to have any idea why he's doing this?
by Sam W
Mon Jun 29, 2020 12:27 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pro-Woman, Profitable Erotica
Replies: 1
Views: 90

Re: Pro-Woman, Profitable Erotica

Hi meridamulan3264,

I don't have a ton of advice, since this a little out of our wheelhouse, but I know Cleis Press used to be a place for this kind of content, so they may be a good starting place.
by Sam W
Mon Jun 29, 2020 11:44 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Can we stop romanticizing abuse?
Replies: 3
Views: 166

Re: Can we stop romanticizing abuse?

Hi thewrit3r, Yeah, I read someone's summary of that movie and made an audible "arghghg." I think there are a few things that could help media that romanticizes abuse become less prevalent. One is people stop consuming it; mainstream media is very driven by what has a history of making mon...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 29, 2020 11:29 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Struggling to insert a tampon
Replies: 3
Views: 132

Re: Struggling to insert a tampon

Hi tearsforfears, Tampons can be tricky if you're new to using them. One of the things that can actually have a big influence on the ease of getting them in or out is the position you do it in. When you try to insert them, are you sitting? Standing? Laying down? That fear that if you have trouble in...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 29, 2020 8:12 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: processing sex?
Replies: 1
Views: 80

Re: processing sex?

Hi raginglesbian, It sounds like you and she communicated a lot both before and during this, which is one of the key ways of preventing you or she from feeling crummy afterwards. That being said, sometimes people do enthusiastically consent to something, then find out it makes them feel a bit off af...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 29, 2020 7:50 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Coming out??
Replies: 6
Views: 273

Re: Coming out??

I'm glad the article was helpful, and that you have friends who are supportive! It can be so hard to be in a conservative area when you're part of the LGBTQ community, especially if you aren't sure being out to your family is safe. In addition to your friends, do you have ways of staying connected t...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 29, 2020 7:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Others doubting my bisexuality
Replies: 5
Views: 147

Re: Others doubting my bisexuality

Ugh, that does sound like really frustrating behavior from them! I think starting up counseling would be sound, if only to give you extra space to process those feelings and maybe someone who could help you work through ways of addressing it with them. Even if they aren't doing the worst things poss...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 29, 2020 7:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Blocking a guy asking for nudes
Replies: 12
Views: 672

Re: Blocking a guy asking for nudes

In some ways, you can only do so much to prevent yourself from feeling a certain way for him. What you can manage is your expectations and communication with him (too, while right now you don't see any cons to him as a person, generally the longer we're in contact with someone the more familiar we g...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 29, 2020 7:11 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Self Esteem Issues
Replies: 7
Views: 209

Re: Self Esteem Issues

Honestly, I'm pretty dang impressed that you deleted all those channels! That's a really good way of protecting your mental time and energy. I've found that some general body positive mindsets help me a lot with my own feelings about my height; things like reframing how I think about it for myself, ...
by Sam W
Mon Jun 29, 2020 6:53 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Problems taking tampons out
Replies: 1
Views: 52

Re: Problems taking tampons out

Hi hannah653,

Ow, that sounds really unpleasant! Can I ask what position you're in when you try to take them out? And are you using tampons that are fairly large?
by Sam W
Sat Jun 27, 2020 8:53 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: navigating bdsm with a potential partner
Replies: 1
Views: 92

Re: navigating bdsm with a potential partner

Hi KC, Ooof, it can be so annoying when those messages that you know are nonsense end up popping up and messing with something you're enjoying. Do you have any techniques that you use in other parts of your life to counter those "I'm not a man because X" messages that you think you could u...

Can't find what you're looking for? Try searching our old board archive or our main site.

Go to advanced search