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by Siân
Sun Jun 20, 2021 7:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Replies: 63
Views: 6427

Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever

Hi sandpiper, Learning what "no" feels like for us can definitely be a process, and it's definitely tricky to come to terms with realising that we've not always acted in line with what we *actually* want. In general, I find that understanding "no" is easier when we know what &quo...
by Siân
Sun Jun 20, 2021 5:23 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sex-repulsed, worried about changes to partner's sex drive on HRT
Replies: 1
Views: 34

Re: Sex-repulsed, worried about changes to partner's sex drive on HRT

Hi there vambrace! I want to start out by saying it's okay to feel nervous about how big changes in your partners life are going to affect you and your relationship with them, even as we want what's best for them and to see them happy. Have you looked for resources for partners of trans people? You ...
by Siân
Wed May 26, 2021 3:44 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
Replies: 8
Views: 6696

Re: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc

OMG OMG OMG Broken Earth and Time War are both just *heart-eyes*

I've only read Who Fears Death from Okorafor, but this is a good reminder to pick her up again :)
by Siân
Wed May 12, 2021 8:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues
Replies: 5
Views: 1316

Re: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues

Hi Hel, I'm sorry that you're struggling with this. Self-diagnosis quizzes can help you learn more about something you feel might be affecting you but at the end of the day they need to be backed up with support from a professional. You say you already have a counsellor, are they someone who has exp...
by Siân
Wed May 12, 2021 7:40 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Cleaning
Replies: 5
Views: 2561

Re: Cleaning

Looks like you've got all the advice you need here Whimsy-Clover, and as Sofi said your skin just might be a slightly different colour there. Just want to make clear on EdSnow's point, FemFresh might do some gentle unscented soap but they also do a lot of scented wipes, sprays and other things that ...
by Siân
Wed May 05, 2021 3:22 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 1030

Re: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating

My pleasure, so glad you're feeling reassured :) I'm happy to talk more if you have any follow-up questions too!
by Siân
Fri Apr 30, 2021 5:17 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Replies: 26
Views: 1947

Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions

Hi Buddyboi, I'm confident that you've made the right decision in breaking up with your ex, but it's still a lot to grieve - I'm sorry. I honestly feel like you need to give yourself permission to feel like crap and just do the basics required to keep yourself healthy and your life ticking over for ...
by Siân
Fri Apr 30, 2021 4:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Circumcision
Replies: 1
Views: 725

Re: Circumcision

Hi QU210054, The short answer is no, there isn't any evidence to suggest that circumcision will make pearly penile papules go away. Sure, sometimes they decrease or fade away over time but there isn't a direct link between getting circumcised and them going away if you already have them. Do you want...
by Siân
Fri Apr 30, 2021 4:42 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 1030

Re: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating

Hi Elias! It's not at all unusual for you to be feeling aroused more, or noticing that you're more sensitive where you have bottom growth having started on T. Honestly, what you're describing sounds like what plenty of people, trans or not, experience when they first start to masturbate. This feels ...
by Siân
Fri Apr 30, 2021 4:19 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years
Replies: 7
Views: 1852

Re: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years

Hi Elias, I'm late to the party here so probably you've already had the appointment but in case it's useful in the future there are two things you can ask for to make the speculum-insertion bit go easier. One is a smaller speculum, and the other is asking if you can insert it yourself :)
by Siân
Wed Mar 24, 2021 7:58 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Platonic Intimacy: What does that look like for you?
Replies: 5
Views: 1248

Re: Platonic Intimacy: What does that look like for you?

I love partner dancing. In the beforetimes I would spend a few hours every Monday night dancing with people who became my community, and then my close friends. Tuning into another person to dance with them and enjoy the connection, creation and partnership that comes with it is a real joy. Right now...
by Siân
Sat Mar 20, 2021 5:49 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Worried about my willy
Replies: 1
Views: 1334

Re: Worried about my willy

Hi James14, Different people go through puberty at different paces, so nothing you're describing is particularly strange or wrong. We have more info on that here: Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown As for sending pictures, no-one ever "owes" anyone pictures of themselves a...
by Siân
Sat Mar 20, 2021 4:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Worries
Replies: 5
Views: 908

Re: Worries

Hi Digdawg, It sounds like you're on the right track - and you're absolutely right both about sperm being fragile little things very few of which will ever make it even close to an egg, and thin condoms being just as effective as thick ones as the reduced friction counters the tiny reduction in stre...
by Siân
Sat Mar 20, 2021 4:40 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex
Replies: 11
Views: 1771

Re: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex

Hi CatHaru, Absolutely, as a general rule there is no such thing as too much lube! Using liberally and often can make it more fun for both of you. From your description here, I'm not hearing a lot about your pleasure or desire. I wonder, when you decide "let's have sex", what's the motivat...
by Siân
Wed Mar 17, 2021 5:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: advice
Replies: 18
Views: 1825

Re: advice

Hi Edhelraen,

I'm glad you managed to get an ultrasound and a clearer idea of what's been causing your periods to behave strangely! Afraid I have no experience of Duphaston myself, but I can see if anyone else around here does :)
by Siân
Wed Mar 17, 2021 5:16 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?
Replies: 17
Views: 2637

Re: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?

Hi belled, Heather may have more to add when they get in, but I just wanted to add another voice saying that creating some independence sounds like a really good thing for you, and hopefully college will help you do that. Even simple things like switching some of those phonecalls for texts might hel...
by Siân
Wed Mar 17, 2021 4:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm gay but I like straight porn
Replies: 3
Views: 758

Re: I'm gay but I like straight porn

You know, you are the expert on your sexuality. You've said pretty clearly here that you are attracted to people of your gender and are a lesbian, and that's all anyone should need to believe you - no matter what kind of porn you enjoy or what you fantasise about.
by Siân
Wed Mar 17, 2021 4:43 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masturbation and crisis about it
Replies: 3
Views: 1037

Re: Masturbation and crisis about it

Do you think that your family would judge you or react badly? Would you have somewhere to keep it and use it that was fairly private? For what it's worth, there is absolutely nothing wrong or shameful about wanting to explore and enjoy your body, or using sex toys to do that. In fact, I'd say it sou...
by Siân
Fri Feb 12, 2021 5:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual identity, taboo, and literature
Replies: 7
Views: 755

Re: Sexual identity, taboo, and literature

Hey BeepBoop, No need to apologise, the good thing about these message boards is that you can pause for a while and come back whenever suits you - we're always happy to pick up the thread. So we have a piece that is specifically about living with unsupportive family in the pandemic, but it also appl...
by Siân
Fri Feb 12, 2021 4:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I cumming or peeing?
Replies: 19
Views: 2518

Re: Am I cumming or peeing?

That's mostly down to you and your sexuality! If you are attracted to someone, feel good around them and excited to have sex with them, you're more likely to enjoy that sex. If you're having sex with someone because you feel like you have to or it's something you "should" want, then the ch...
by Siân
Wed Feb 03, 2021 7:18 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Weird sex dream about my boyfriend
Replies: 9
Views: 695

Re: Weird sex dream about my boyfriend

My pleasure :) if you have any more questions we're right here!
by Siân
Wed Feb 03, 2021 5:54 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Weird sex dream about my boyfriend
Replies: 9
Views: 695

Re: Weird sex dream about my boyfriend

Hi Hel, Using both the combined pill and external condoms is a great way to prevent both pregnancy and STI's - together they have a very high effectiveness rate. You should be able to find them in pharmacies and supermarkets, possibly even free at your doctors surgery or from local youth services. I...
by Siân
Wed Feb 03, 2021 5:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I cumming or peeing?
Replies: 19
Views: 2518

Re: Am I cumming or peeing?

I think a lot of people worry that their bodies are going to do something "wrong" when they're having sex, but really sex is often a sweaty, lubey, messy experience - in a good way! - involving a lot of bodily fluids and different smells. I think when we and our partners accept that it mak...
by Siân
Fri Jan 29, 2021 6:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: PPP
Replies: 1
Views: 312

Re: PPP

Hi QU210054, Pearly penile papules may become less noticeable over time, yes, but we're not talking about over a few weeks but over the course of a number of years. The good news though, is that they are totally harmless - just a normal, fairly common, variation in the appearance of your penis - the...
by Siân
Fri Jan 29, 2021 5:29 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I don't feel any pleasure while masturbating
Replies: 5
Views: 1341

Re: I don't feel any pleasure while masturbating

Hi Sammy, Whilst that advice of "experiment and find what works for you" is good, context is also important - not just what your body is physically doing but how you're feeling too. Have you ever noticed that sometimes something that you really enjoy doesn't appeal to you? Like maybe if yo...

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