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by Siân
Wed Oct 20, 2021 10:46 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: not sure what to do now
Replies: 4
Views: 177

Re: not sure what to do now

Hi Firefly, I'm sorry that your dad hurt you, that wasn't okay, whatever Justine has done in the past. Reading the rest of your post though, I can honestly say I was cheering for you - it sounds like you were great at setting a boundary and following through to look after yourself. I don't think you...
by Siân
Wed Oct 20, 2021 8:32 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Where to find help for amenorrhea?
Replies: 3
Views: 126

Re: Where to find help for amenorrhea?

It doesn't sound like your doctor has a great deal on insight on this subject, if I'm honest. The gynaecologist will look for far more than signs of physical trauma - they can do things like ultrasounds of your uterus to see if there's anything out-of-the-ordinary going on there, for example. As for...
by Siân
Wed Oct 20, 2021 8:06 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Where to find help for amenorrhea?
Replies: 3
Views: 126

Re: Where to find help for amenorrhea?

Hi Acorn, How frustrating that neither your mental health nor your physical health professional seem to be taking this seriously! Everyone's "normal" is different, and all by itself having time without a period isn't something to worry about. Eight months is a fairly sizeable gap though, s...
by Siân
Wed Oct 20, 2021 7:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: New here
Replies: 3
Views: 219

Re: New here

Great! Did you have any particular questions you wanted to ask here and now?
by Siân
Fri Oct 01, 2021 4:01 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Imbalance in friendships
Replies: 15
Views: 554

Re: Imbalance in friendships

Hi Raffles, You've spoken a lot in this post about leaning on your friends being a moral issue. Can you tell me a bit more about that? To me, the act of opening up and sharing our vulnerable selves with our friends is an act of real trust, and I feel honoured when they feel safe enough to do that wi...
by Siân
Fri Oct 01, 2021 3:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Porn addiction
Replies: 14
Views: 341

Re: Porn addiction

Hiya andrej, Perhaps it's helpful to look at this from another angle - as you say, you've already been masturbating for 12 years and you have a sex life with your boyfriend that you find fulfilling in a lot of ways. Based on that alone, it seems pretty unlikely that continuing to masturbate is going...
by Siân
Fri Sep 24, 2021 4:42 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: So there's a guy...
Replies: 105
Views: 2355

Re: So there's a guy...

Hi jenny01, This sounds like an incredibly frustrating situation to be in, because yes there are plenty of things you can try (and it sounds like you have tried a bunch) but at some point you need your parents to give a little too. Wanting a loving, trusting relationship and the same freedoms as oth...
by Siân
Fri Sep 24, 2021 4:18 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Is this a normal trauma response?
Replies: 3
Views: 340

Re: Is this a normal trauma response?

It is a really big achievement that you have cut him off! I'm gland that knowing this is normal is helping you some. When you say you never brought up this specific instance, was that because you didn't want to, or something else? It's great that you have a bunch of new coping skills and online reso...
by Siân
Wed Sep 08, 2021 3:46 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Strange Feelings About Friends
Replies: 3
Views: 584

Re: Strange Feelings About Friends

It could well be something coming from inside you, and that's okay. It might be worth digging a little bit deeper into what exactly those feelings feel like and seeing if that gives you any more insight. Social fatigue sounds like a pretty plausible thing for sure! A non-exhaustive list of questions...
by Siân
Wed Sep 08, 2021 3:23 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Flashbacks during examinations
Replies: 13
Views: 581

Re: Flashbacks during examinations

Hi Jess99, I'm glad that your latest appointment went better. Did you tell them why you were declining the cervical exam? If so, how did they react? I hope that your midwife is supportive when you speak to her. You've mentioned the relaxation and breathing exercises you've been doing. What other sou...
by Siân
Sun Sep 05, 2021 7:50 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I unlovable?
Replies: 3
Views: 256

Re: Am I unlovable?

Hi swimmingdino7, I know we've never met, but I am certain you're not unlovable. School can be a really tough time for anyone, and if you feel like you're different from your peers in some ways that can be pretty isolating too. The good news is that it gets better. The bad news is that that doesn't ...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 5:38 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: consuming sexual content as a minor
Replies: 1
Views: 1415

Re: consuming sexual content as a minor

Hi shrokwok, Welcome to the boards! You've come with some great questions to kick of with. Generally, we I tend not to make a lot of value judgements about sexual media - I'm not here to argue that porn is always bad or always good. It's all down to how you feel about and interact with it, and if I'...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 5:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Update
Replies: 1
Views: 1199

Re: Update

Hi sky,

Really good to hear that you've got the support that you need and that therapy and medication are working out for you! I'm glad that we managed to help you get to this point.
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 4:26 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Interested in bdsm at a young age
Replies: 9
Views: 2715

Re: Interested in bdsm at a young age

Hi Red_Scarlet You know, worrying that your fantasies and sexual desires are not normal is one of the most common experiences I think we see here. In other words, nothing about your interests or your fears is weird or wrong here. You're definitely not alone in being curious about BDSM as a teen and ...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 4:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Feel like I was used
Replies: 5
Views: 2169

Re: Feel like I was used

I'm glad that yesterday was a good day for you! You know, if you learnt that flings don't suit you because you like to know someone better then that's perfectly okay. I want to reiterate though that you did nothing wrong . You chose something that felt good in the moment. He broke your trust. This i...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 4:06 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not understanding how to feel
Replies: 7
Views: 2004

Re: Not understanding how to feel

Hi Red_Scarlet, No need to apologise, you can take as much time as you need to reply and we'll be here. And this kind of thing is exactly what we're here for you to talk to us about. I just want to make sure that I'm getting my facts straight here, it sounds like you're saying you were abused by you...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 3:50 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Disappointed in my bf
Replies: 9
Views: 3738

Re: Disappointed in my bf

Hi Hel, This sounds really positive! I would say not to pressure yourself to feel 100% okay, or like you have to completely move on immediately. It sounds like transitioning from romance to friendship is the right thing for you both, but it's okay to acknowledge the losses in there too if you're fee...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 3:47 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed
Replies: 11
Views: 3141

Re: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed

Hi Hel, I'm glad that your roommate was able to take responsibility and is doing her best to help reduce the fallout. She's probably right that if the flames of gossip aren't stoked then people will mostly move on and talk about other things, but it can still be hard knowing that such personal stuff...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 3:39 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: My confusion about the penis
Replies: 6
Views: 1845

Re: My confusion about the penis

Hi OtherAngel, The key thing to take away here is that porn isn't a great measure of how sex usually happens in real life. For a lot of people a lot of the time, if they're giving oral on a penis they won't have anything like the whole thing in their mouth. Just like that position of one person stan...
by Siân
Sun Jun 20, 2021 7:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Replies: 106
Views: 31015

Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever

Hi sandpiper, Learning what "no" feels like for us can definitely be a process, and it's definitely tricky to come to terms with realising that we've not always acted in line with what we *actually* want. In general, I find that understanding "no" is easier when we know what &quo...
by Siân
Sun Jun 20, 2021 5:23 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sex-repulsed, worried about changes to partner's sex drive on HRT
Replies: 3
Views: 1563

Re: Sex-repulsed, worried about changes to partner's sex drive on HRT

Hi there vambrace! I want to start out by saying it's okay to feel nervous about how big changes in your partners life are going to affect you and your relationship with them, even as we want what's best for them and to see them happy. Have you looked for resources for partners of trans people? You ...
by Siân
Wed May 26, 2021 3:44 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
Replies: 8
Views: 15839

Re: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc

OMG OMG OMG Broken Earth and Time War are both just *heart-eyes*

I've only read Who Fears Death from Okorafor, but this is a good reminder to pick her up again :)
by Siân
Wed May 12, 2021 8:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues
Replies: 5
Views: 5346

Re: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues

Hi Hel, I'm sorry that you're struggling with this. Self-diagnosis quizzes can help you learn more about something you feel might be affecting you but at the end of the day they need to be backed up with support from a professional. You say you already have a counsellor, are they someone who has exp...
by Siân
Wed May 12, 2021 7:40 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Cleaning
Replies: 5
Views: 6777

Re: Cleaning

Looks like you've got all the advice you need here Whimsy-Clover, and as Sofi said your skin just might be a slightly different colour there. Just want to make clear on EdSnow's point, FemFresh might do some gentle unscented soap but they also do a lot of scented wipes, sprays and other things that ...
by Siân
Wed May 05, 2021 3:22 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 3386

Re: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating

My pleasure, so glad you're feeling reassured :) I'm happy to talk more if you have any follow-up questions too!

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