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by Siân
Thu Apr 14, 2022 5:29 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Are sexual fantasies okay?
Replies: 3
Views: 263

Re: Are sexual fantasies okay?

You can always reply in your own time - no rush :)

Also, we have a bunch of articles on purity culture which you might want to take a look at, right here: Impurity Culture
by Siân
Thu Apr 14, 2022 4:34 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How to get over my partner's sexual history
Replies: 3
Views: 136

Re: How to get over my partner's sexual history

Hi honeybutterbee, This sounds like one of those annoying moments where what you know in your head (that it's the past, and doesn't say anything about your partner's relationship with you) and what you feel in your heart (sad that your partner's first time won't be with you) don't line up. I hear th...
by Siân
Wed Mar 02, 2022 8:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 288
Views: 26518

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hi sky, I see that you have a bunch of posts in moderation, and I'm not going to let them all through, but it sounds like you might want a reminder of the boundaries we've set with you. We're glad you're here and happy to talk to you, as long as it's within our general User Guidelines plus: - maximu...
by Siân
Wed Mar 02, 2022 8:06 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual frustration?
Replies: 7
Views: 3679

Re: Sexual frustration?

Great! We're still here if you want to talk through any of this some more, or have more questions in future :)
by Siân
Wed Mar 02, 2022 8:04 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?
Replies: 18
Views: 5193

Re: My most recent ex: Was I Acephobic or just incompatible?

Hi BuddyBoi, I remember some of the conversations we had when you were dating your previous ex, and how hard you were trying to support them and be a caring partner whilst struggling with the fact that your needs weren't met. I'm hearing a lot of similar things here, along with new complexities from...
by Siân
Wed Mar 02, 2022 5:24 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: period shame/embarrassment
Replies: 7
Views: 3267

Re: period shame/embarrassment

Hi dollparties, I'm so glad that this was a positive experience for you! It definitely sounds like you're slowly thinking through things and working on your shame, with a supportive partner too. Definitely a +1 from me on the towels recommendation, having an old or dark "messy sex" towel a...
by Siân
Wed Mar 02, 2022 4:50 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: A Friend Hasn't Been Using Condoms for Intercourse: Should I Be Concerned?
Replies: 3
Views: 3131

Re: A Friend Hasn't Been Using Condoms for Intercourse: Should I Be Concerned?

Hiya hello_world, Ugh, it sucks to hear your friends talking about taking avoidable risks - like risking STI's or unwanted pregnancy. I think that if you want to share basic information about condom use, or troubleshoot with them in a non-judgemental way how they could respond next time they want to...
by Siân
Thu Feb 10, 2022 6:18 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 288
Views: 26518

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hi sky, The wonderful thing about the word queer is that it's so big there's room in it for all kinds of things - being a queer person who is only or mostly interested in dating women sound is definitely one thing that queer can mean. It also has space in it for all those complex feelings about your...
by Siân
Thu Feb 10, 2022 6:05 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Agender in the professional world
Replies: 14
Views: 4531

Re: Agender in the professional world

Hi Raffles, This sounds so frustrating! I can see why you'd want to speak to her about it. In terms of how to handle it, perhaps if you can give me an idea of what you want to get out of this conversation that will help us think it through? Do you feel like this person is making a real effort and sl...
by Siân
Thu Feb 10, 2022 5:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Prostate Gland
Replies: 3
Views: 968

Re: Prostate Gland

Hi Kjezza123, Since pleasure and orgasm are as much about what we're feeling and what's going on in our heads than about any specific body part, we can't guarantee that any particular thing is going to give you an orgasm. With or without ejaculation on the table, orgasms don't tend to come under pre...
by Siân
Thu Feb 10, 2022 5:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual frustration?
Replies: 7
Views: 3679

Re: Sexual frustration?

I'm so glad you managed to talk to your boyfriend and that the conversation went well! Do you feel like you're pleasure is going to be a thing that the two of you think about when being sexual together in future? And don't worry, you can reply to us here on whatever schedule works for you, we'll jus...
by Siân
Thu Feb 10, 2022 5:06 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I don’t know if I’m pregnant or not
Replies: 1
Views: 1403

Re: I don’t know if I’m pregnant or not

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy. Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is loc...
by Siân
Thu Feb 10, 2022 4:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Cannot orgasm anymore
Replies: 63
Views: 7988

Re: Cannot orgasm anymore

Hi Rubix, You're exactly right, there is a lot to masturbation (and sexual pleasure more generally) that is about headspace - it's so much more than what body part is doing what! We say a lot more about that in the first part of this article: With Pleasure: A View of Whole Sexual Anatomy for Every B...
by Siân
Thu Feb 10, 2022 4:28 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Period 2 weeks early?
Replies: 3
Views: 1499

Re: Period 2 weeks early?

Hi Dreamlore, Menstrual cycles can and do vary a lot, and since you have important recent weight change as a possible factor all by itself this wouldn't concern me too much. That said, if you before this you had many years of very predictable periods, and they've suddenly become irregular then the N...
by Siân
Wed Jan 19, 2022 7:43 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: sensory issues and sex
Replies: 4
Views: 1968

Re: sensory issues and sex

I'm glad you found it helpful! And thanks Raffles for that useful tip :)
by Siân
Wed Jan 19, 2022 7:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Help.. I can’t feel anything.
Replies: 5
Views: 1193

Re: Help.. I can’t feel anything.

Hi Mosept, I wonder what kinds of places you've been reading these articles about pleasure? Because you've talked a lot about different physical things, but actually a lot of what is going on when people experience sexual pleasure (regardless of their gender or anatomy) is their brain. This is a goo...
by Siân
Wed Jan 19, 2022 7:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Extreme shallow vagina. Is there something wrong with me?
Replies: 9
Views: 800

Re: Extreme shallow vagina. Is there something wrong with me?

You're welcome! We're still here if you have any more questions, want more help finding a doctor or to talk about what your sister or the doctor say :)
by Siân
Wed Jan 19, 2022 7:05 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 23
Views: 1978

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

If someone found a way to cure a broken heart they would be very rich indeed! But I actually think that all of those emotions have something to tell us - about what's important to us, what we care about, things like that. I'm glad you're feeling better and that life is good in general. When you say ...
by Siân
Wed Jan 19, 2022 6:59 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't really get crushes
Replies: 5
Views: 556

Re: I don't really get crushes

Hi BeepBoop, You're right that it's confusing when you ask someone directly what they want and they don't respond. It sounds like neither of you are in a great place right now to be rebuilding your romantic relationship, though it is definitely nice to have someone to speak to and feel connected wit...
by Siân
Wed Jan 19, 2022 6:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My girlfriend is asexual and im not
Replies: 1
Views: 417

Re: My girlfriend is asexual and im not

Hi qualifiedpanda, I'm glad you want to be there for your girlfriend, but questioning her sexual orientation is not a good way to do that. Yes, being a survivor of sexual abuse can give people a lot of complicated feelings around sex, but it does not make someone asexual. If you're going to be there...
by Siân
Wed Jan 19, 2022 6:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unhealthy relationship?
Replies: 23
Views: 1807

Re: Unhealthy relationship?

Hi waterhyacinth, Can you touch a bit more on what about this relationship your friends are saying is unhealthy. You've mentioned the age gap, but is there anything else that your friends are picking up on? I realise you're 17 now, but one thing to note is that in Ohio the age of consent is 16, so i...
by Siân
Sat Jan 15, 2022 9:13 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Guilty or not
Replies: 21
Views: 2674

Re: Guilty or not

If everyone is comfortable, like the situation you described with your friend, then you don't need to feel guilty here. I'm usually really happy to talk more about consent and how it works, but right now it seems like you're trying to find something to feel bad about and we've said a few times alrea...
by Siân
Sat Jan 15, 2022 9:05 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: No Pleasure; Hear Me Out
Replies: 7
Views: 1430

Re: No Pleasure; Hear Me Out

Hi CassidyG, I'm sorry, it sucks when you're doing the research, doing everything "right" and still something isn't clicking. It sounds like speaking to your doctor is a good shout, as both your medication and your depression could be a part of this for sure. I do wonder, what is your moti...
by Siân
Sat Jan 15, 2022 8:45 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Guilty or not
Replies: 21
Views: 2674

Re: Guilty or not

There are two kinds of context that are important, your relationship and the moment. By your relationship, I don't mean whether they are your friend/partner/sibling etc. I mean do you have the kind of relationship where playful physical touch is common, enjoyed and reciprocated; where you have trust...
by Siân
Sat Jan 15, 2022 8:20 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Guilty or not
Replies: 21
Views: 2674

Re: Guilty or not

Hi Roseeejames5, I'm glad that you've found Sam and Sofi's comments helpful. It sounds like your own sexual assault and the trauma from that has been bothering you recently. I wonder if continuing to heal from that will help you with the feelings of guilt you're experiencing now. Do you want to talk...

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