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by Siân
Wed Sep 08, 2021 3:46 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Strange Feelings About Friends
Replies: 3
Views: 184

Re: Strange Feelings About Friends

It could well be something coming from inside you, and that's okay. It might be worth digging a little bit deeper into what exactly those feelings feel like and seeing if that gives you any more insight. Social fatigue sounds like a pretty plausible thing for sure! A non-exhaustive list of questions...
by Siân
Wed Sep 08, 2021 3:23 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Flashbacks during examinations
Replies: 13
Views: 250

Re: Flashbacks during examinations

Hi Jess99, I'm glad that your latest appointment went better. Did you tell them why you were declining the cervical exam? If so, how did they react? I hope that your midwife is supportive when you speak to her. You've mentioned the relaxation and breathing exercises you've been doing. What other sou...
by Siân
Sun Sep 05, 2021 7:50 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I unlovable?
Replies: 3
Views: 173

Re: Am I unlovable?

Hi swimmingdino7, I know we've never met, but I am certain you're not unlovable. School can be a really tough time for anyone, and if you feel like you're different from your peers in some ways that can be pretty isolating too. The good news is that it gets better. The bad news is that that doesn't ...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 5:38 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: consuming sexual content as a minor
Replies: 1
Views: 1316

Re: consuming sexual content as a minor

Hi shrokwok, Welcome to the boards! You've come with some great questions to kick of with. Generally, we I tend not to make a lot of value judgements about sexual media - I'm not here to argue that porn is always bad or always good. It's all down to how you feel about and interact with it, and if I'...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 5:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Update
Replies: 1
Views: 1146

Re: Update

Hi sky,

Really good to hear that you've got the support that you need and that therapy and medication are working out for you! I'm glad that we managed to help you get to this point.
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 4:26 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Interested in bdsm at a young age
Replies: 9
Views: 2391

Re: Interested in bdsm at a young age

Hi Red_Scarlet You know, worrying that your fantasies and sexual desires are not normal is one of the most common experiences I think we see here. In other words, nothing about your interests or your fears is weird or wrong here. You're definitely not alone in being curious about BDSM as a teen and ...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 4:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Feel like I was used
Replies: 5
Views: 1865

Re: Feel like I was used

I'm glad that yesterday was a good day for you! You know, if you learnt that flings don't suit you because you like to know someone better then that's perfectly okay. I want to reiterate though that you did nothing wrong . You chose something that felt good in the moment. He broke your trust. This i...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 4:06 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not understanding how to feel
Replies: 7
Views: 1894

Re: Not understanding how to feel

Hi Red_Scarlet, No need to apologise, you can take as much time as you need to reply and we'll be here. And this kind of thing is exactly what we're here for you to talk to us about. I just want to make sure that I'm getting my facts straight here, it sounds like you're saying you were abused by you...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 3:50 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Disappointed in my bf
Replies: 9
Views: 3550

Re: Disappointed in my bf

Hi Hel, This sounds really positive! I would say not to pressure yourself to feel 100% okay, or like you have to completely move on immediately. It sounds like transitioning from romance to friendship is the right thing for you both, but it's okay to acknowledge the losses in there too if you're fee...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 3:47 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed
Replies: 11
Views: 2687

Re: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed

Hi Hel, I'm glad that your roommate was able to take responsibility and is doing her best to help reduce the fallout. She's probably right that if the flames of gossip aren't stoked then people will mostly move on and talk about other things, but it can still be hard knowing that such personal stuff...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 3:39 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: My confusion about the penis
Replies: 6
Views: 1630

Re: My confusion about the penis

Hi OtherAngel, The key thing to take away here is that porn isn't a great measure of how sex usually happens in real life. For a lot of people a lot of the time, if they're giving oral on a penis they won't have anything like the whole thing in their mouth. Just like that position of one person stan...
by Siân
Sun Jun 20, 2021 7:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Replies: 106
Views: 30252

Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever

Hi sandpiper, Learning what "no" feels like for us can definitely be a process, and it's definitely tricky to come to terms with realising that we've not always acted in line with what we *actually* want. In general, I find that understanding "no" is easier when we know what &quo...
by Siân
Sun Jun 20, 2021 5:23 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sex-repulsed, worried about changes to partner's sex drive on HRT
Replies: 3
Views: 1407

Re: Sex-repulsed, worried about changes to partner's sex drive on HRT

Hi there vambrace! I want to start out by saying it's okay to feel nervous about how big changes in your partners life are going to affect you and your relationship with them, even as we want what's best for them and to see them happy. Have you looked for resources for partners of trans people? You ...
by Siân
Wed May 26, 2021 3:44 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
Replies: 8
Views: 15698

Re: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc

OMG OMG OMG Broken Earth and Time War are both just *heart-eyes*

I've only read Who Fears Death from Okorafor, but this is a good reminder to pick her up again :)
by Siân
Wed May 12, 2021 8:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues
Replies: 5
Views: 5244

Re: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues

Hi Hel, I'm sorry that you're struggling with this. Self-diagnosis quizzes can help you learn more about something you feel might be affecting you but at the end of the day they need to be backed up with support from a professional. You say you already have a counsellor, are they someone who has exp...
by Siân
Wed May 12, 2021 7:40 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Cleaning
Replies: 5
Views: 6657

Re: Cleaning

Looks like you've got all the advice you need here Whimsy-Clover, and as Sofi said your skin just might be a slightly different colour there. Just want to make clear on EdSnow's point, FemFresh might do some gentle unscented soap but they also do a lot of scented wipes, sprays and other things that ...
by Siân
Wed May 05, 2021 3:22 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 3288

Re: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating

My pleasure, so glad you're feeling reassured :) I'm happy to talk more if you have any follow-up questions too!
by Siân
Fri Apr 30, 2021 5:17 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Replies: 26
Views: 5985

Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions

Hi Buddyboi, I'm confident that you've made the right decision in breaking up with your ex, but it's still a lot to grieve - I'm sorry. I honestly feel like you need to give yourself permission to feel like crap and just do the basics required to keep yourself healthy and your life ticking over for ...
by Siân
Fri Apr 30, 2021 4:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Circumcision
Replies: 1
Views: 1786

Re: Circumcision

Hi QU210054, The short answer is no, there isn't any evidence to suggest that circumcision will make pearly penile papules go away. Sure, sometimes they decrease or fade away over time but there isn't a direct link between getting circumcised and them going away if you already have them. Do you want...
by Siân
Fri Apr 30, 2021 4:42 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 3288

Re: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating

Hi Elias! It's not at all unusual for you to be feeling aroused more, or noticing that you're more sensitive where you have bottom growth having started on T. Honestly, what you're describing sounds like what plenty of people, trans or not, experience when they first start to masturbate. This feels ...
by Siân
Fri Apr 30, 2021 4:19 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years
Replies: 7
Views: 6475

Re: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years

Hi Elias, I'm late to the party here so probably you've already had the appointment but in case it's useful in the future there are two things you can ask for to make the speculum-insertion bit go easier. One is a smaller speculum, and the other is asking if you can insert it yourself :)
by Siân
Wed Mar 24, 2021 7:58 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Platonic Intimacy: What does that look like for you?
Replies: 5
Views: 3489

Re: Platonic Intimacy: What does that look like for you?

I love partner dancing. In the beforetimes I would spend a few hours every Monday night dancing with people who became my community, and then my close friends. Tuning into another person to dance with them and enjoy the connection, creation and partnership that comes with it is a real joy. Right now...
by Siân
Sat Mar 20, 2021 5:49 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Worried about my willy
Replies: 1
Views: 5199

Re: Worried about my willy

Hi James14, Different people go through puberty at different paces, so nothing you're describing is particularly strange or wrong. We have more info on that here: Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown As for sending pictures, no-one ever "owes" anyone pictures of themselves a...
by Siân
Sat Mar 20, 2021 4:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Worries
Replies: 5
Views: 1305

Re: Worries

Hi Digdawg, It sounds like you're on the right track - and you're absolutely right both about sperm being fragile little things very few of which will ever make it even close to an egg, and thin condoms being just as effective as thick ones as the reduced friction counters the tiny reduction in stre...
by Siân
Sat Mar 20, 2021 4:40 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex
Replies: 11
Views: 4665

Re: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex

Hi CatHaru, Absolutely, as a general rule there is no such thing as too much lube! Using liberally and often can make it more fun for both of you. From your description here, I'm not hearing a lot about your pleasure or desire. I wonder, when you decide "let's have sex", what's the motivat...

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