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by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 5:38 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: consuming sexual content as a minor
Replies: 1
Views: 1081

Re: consuming sexual content as a minor

Hi shrokwok, Welcome to the boards! You've come with some great questions to kick of with. Generally, we I tend not to make a lot of value judgements about sexual media - I'm not here to argue that porn is always bad or always good. It's all down to how you feel about and interact with it, and if I'...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 5:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Update
Replies: 1
Views: 1066

Re: Update

Hi sky,

Really good to hear that you've got the support that you need and that therapy and medication are working out for you! I'm glad that we managed to help you get to this point.
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 4:26 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Interested in bdsm at a young age
Replies: 7
Views: 1232

Re: Interested in bdsm at a young age

Hi Red_Scarlet You know, worrying that your fantasies and sexual desires are not normal is one of the most common experiences I think we see here. In other words, nothing about your interests or your fears is weird or wrong here. You're definitely not alone in being curious about BDSM as a teen and ...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 4:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Feel like I was used
Replies: 5
Views: 1504

Re: Feel like I was used

I'm glad that yesterday was a good day for you! You know, if you learnt that flings don't suit you because you like to know someone better then that's perfectly okay. I want to reiterate though that you did nothing wrong . You chose something that felt good in the moment. He broke your trust. This i...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 4:06 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Not understanding how to feel
Replies: 7
Views: 1564

Re: Not understanding how to feel

Hi Red_Scarlet, No need to apologise, you can take as much time as you need to reply and we'll be here. And this kind of thing is exactly what we're here for you to talk to us about. I just want to make sure that I'm getting my facts straight here, it sounds like you're saying you were abused by you...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 3:50 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Disappointed in my bf
Replies: 9
Views: 1638

Re: Disappointed in my bf

Hi Hel, This sounds really positive! I would say not to pressure yourself to feel 100% okay, or like you have to completely move on immediately. It sounds like transitioning from romance to friendship is the right thing for you both, but it's okay to acknowledge the losses in there too if you're fee...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 3:47 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed
Replies: 11
Views: 1777

Re: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed

Hi Hel, I'm glad that your roommate was able to take responsibility and is doing her best to help reduce the fallout. She's probably right that if the flames of gossip aren't stoked then people will mostly move on and talk about other things, but it can still be hard knowing that such personal stuff...
by Siân
Wed Jun 23, 2021 3:39 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: My confusion about the penis
Replies: 6
Views: 1255

Re: My confusion about the penis

Hi OtherAngel, The key thing to take away here is that porn isn't a great measure of how sex usually happens in real life. For a lot of people a lot of the time, if they're giving oral on a penis they won't have anything like the whole thing in their mouth. Just like that position of one person stan...
by Siân
Sun Jun 20, 2021 7:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Replies: 90
Views: 19989

Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever

Hi sandpiper, Learning what "no" feels like for us can definitely be a process, and it's definitely tricky to come to terms with realising that we've not always acted in line with what we *actually* want. In general, I find that understanding "no" is easier when we know what &quo...
by Siân
Sun Jun 20, 2021 5:23 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Sex-repulsed, worried about changes to partner's sex drive on HRT
Replies: 3
Views: 1177

Re: Sex-repulsed, worried about changes to partner's sex drive on HRT

Hi there vambrace! I want to start out by saying it's okay to feel nervous about how big changes in your partners life are going to affect you and your relationship with them, even as we want what's best for them and to see them happy. Have you looked for resources for partners of trans people? You ...
by Siân
Wed May 26, 2021 3:44 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
Replies: 8
Views: 12130

Re: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc

OMG OMG OMG Broken Earth and Time War are both just *heart-eyes*

I've only read Who Fears Death from Okorafor, but this is a good reminder to pick her up again :)
by Siân
Wed May 12, 2021 8:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues
Replies: 5
Views: 3713

Re: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues

Hi Hel, I'm sorry that you're struggling with this. Self-diagnosis quizzes can help you learn more about something you feel might be affecting you but at the end of the day they need to be backed up with support from a professional. You say you already have a counsellor, are they someone who has exp...
by Siân
Wed May 12, 2021 7:40 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Cleaning
Replies: 5
Views: 5068

Re: Cleaning

Looks like you've got all the advice you need here Whimsy-Clover, and as Sofi said your skin just might be a slightly different colour there. Just want to make clear on EdSnow's point, FemFresh might do some gentle unscented soap but they also do a lot of scented wipes, sprays and other things that ...
by Siân
Wed May 05, 2021 3:22 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 2337

Re: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating

My pleasure, so glad you're feeling reassured :) I'm happy to talk more if you have any follow-up questions too!
by Siân
Fri Apr 30, 2021 5:17 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Replies: 26
Views: 4435

Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions

Hi Buddyboi, I'm confident that you've made the right decision in breaking up with your ex, but it's still a lot to grieve - I'm sorry. I honestly feel like you need to give yourself permission to feel like crap and just do the basics required to keep yourself healthy and your life ticking over for ...
by Siân
Fri Apr 30, 2021 4:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Circumcision
Replies: 1
Views: 1326

Re: Circumcision

Hi QU210054, The short answer is no, there isn't any evidence to suggest that circumcision will make pearly penile papules go away. Sure, sometimes they decrease or fade away over time but there isn't a direct link between getting circumcised and them going away if you already have them. Do you want...
by Siân
Fri Apr 30, 2021 4:42 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 2337

Re: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating

Hi Elias! It's not at all unusual for you to be feeling aroused more, or noticing that you're more sensitive where you have bottom growth having started on T. Honestly, what you're describing sounds like what plenty of people, trans or not, experience when they first start to masturbate. This feels ...
by Siân
Fri Apr 30, 2021 4:19 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years
Replies: 7
Views: 4583

Re: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years

Hi Elias, I'm late to the party here so probably you've already had the appointment but in case it's useful in the future there are two things you can ask for to make the speculum-insertion bit go easier. One is a smaller speculum, and the other is asking if you can insert it yourself :)
by Siân
Wed Mar 24, 2021 7:58 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Platonic Intimacy: What does that look like for you?
Replies: 5
Views: 2561

Re: Platonic Intimacy: What does that look like for you?

I love partner dancing. In the beforetimes I would spend a few hours every Monday night dancing with people who became my community, and then my close friends. Tuning into another person to dance with them and enjoy the connection, creation and partnership that comes with it is a real joy. Right now...
by Siân
Sat Mar 20, 2021 5:49 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Worried about my willy
Replies: 1
Views: 3642

Re: Worried about my willy

Hi James14, Different people go through puberty at different paces, so nothing you're describing is particularly strange or wrong. We have more info on that here: Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown As for sending pictures, no-one ever "owes" anyone pictures of themselves a...
by Siân
Sat Mar 20, 2021 4:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Worries
Replies: 5
Views: 1134

Re: Worries

Hi Digdawg, It sounds like you're on the right track - and you're absolutely right both about sperm being fragile little things very few of which will ever make it even close to an egg, and thin condoms being just as effective as thick ones as the reduced friction counters the tiny reduction in stre...
by Siân
Sat Mar 20, 2021 4:40 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex
Replies: 11
Views: 3248

Re: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex

Hi CatHaru, Absolutely, as a general rule there is no such thing as too much lube! Using liberally and often can make it more fun for both of you. From your description here, I'm not hearing a lot about your pleasure or desire. I wonder, when you decide "let's have sex", what's the motivat...
by Siân
Wed Mar 17, 2021 5:29 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: advice
Replies: 18
Views: 2416

Re: advice

Hi Edhelraen,

I'm glad you managed to get an ultrasound and a clearer idea of what's been causing your periods to behave strangely! Afraid I have no experience of Duphaston myself, but I can see if anyone else around here does :)
by Siân
Wed Mar 17, 2021 5:16 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?
Replies: 17
Views: 5751

Re: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?

Hi belled, Heather may have more to add when they get in, but I just wanted to add another voice saying that creating some independence sounds like a really good thing for you, and hopefully college will help you do that. Even simple things like switching some of those phonecalls for texts might hel...
by Siân
Wed Mar 17, 2021 4:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm gay but I like straight porn
Replies: 3
Views: 1043

Re: I'm gay but I like straight porn

You know, you are the expert on your sexuality. You've said pretty clearly here that you are attracted to people of your gender and are a lesbian, and that's all anyone should need to believe you - no matter what kind of porn you enjoy or what you fantasise about.

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