I love partner dancing. In the beforetimes I would spend a few hours every Monday night dancing with people who became my community, and then my close friends. Tuning into another person to dance with them and enjoy the connection, creation and partnership that comes with it is a real joy. Right now...

Hi James14, Different people go through puberty at different paces, so nothing you're describing is particularly strange or wrong. We have more info on that here: Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown As for sending pictures, no-one ever "owes" anyone pictures of themselves a...

Hi Digdawg, It sounds like you're on the right track - and you're absolutely right both about sperm being fragile little things very few of which will ever make it even close to an egg, and thin condoms being just as effective as thick ones as the reduced friction counters the tiny reduction in stre...

Hi CatHaru, Absolutely, as a general rule there is no such thing as too much lube! Using liberally and often can make it more fun for both of you. From your description here, I'm not hearing a lot about your pleasure or desire. I wonder, when you decide "let's have sex", what's the motivat...

Hi Edhelraen,

I'm glad you managed to get an ultrasound and a clearer idea of what's been causing your periods to behave strangely! Afraid I have no experience of Duphaston myself, but I can see if anyone else around here does

Hi belled, Heather may have more to add when they get in, but I just wanted to add another voice saying that creating some independence sounds like a really good thing for you, and hopefully college will help you do that. Even simple things like switching some of those phonecalls for texts might hel...

You know, you are the expert on your sexuality. You've said pretty clearly here that you are attracted to people of your gender and are a lesbian, and that's all anyone should need to believe you - no matter what kind of porn you enjoy or what you fantasise about.

Do you think that your family would judge you or react badly? Would you have somewhere to keep it and use it that was fairly private? For what it's worth, there is absolutely nothing wrong or shameful about wanting to explore and enjoy your body, or using sex toys to do that. In fact, I'd say it sou...

Hey BeepBoop, No need to apologise, the good thing about these message boards is that you can pause for a while and come back whenever suits you - we're always happy to pick up the thread. So we have a piece that is specifically about living with unsupportive family in the pandemic, but it also appl...

That's mostly down to you and your sexuality! If you are attracted to someone, feel good around them and excited to have sex with them, you're more likely to enjoy that sex. If you're having sex with someone because you feel like you have to or it's something you "should" want, then the ch...

My pleasure if you have any more questions we're right here!

Hi Hel, Using both the combined pill and external condoms is a great way to prevent both pregnancy and STI's - together they have a very high effectiveness rate. You should be able to find them in pharmacies and supermarkets, possibly even free at your doctors surgery or from local youth services. I...

I think a lot of people worry that their bodies are going to do something "wrong" when they're having sex, but really sex is often a sweaty, lubey, messy experience - in a good way! - involving a lot of bodily fluids and different smells. I think when we and our partners accept that it mak...

Hi QU210054, Pearly penile papules may become less noticeable over time, yes, but we're not talking about over a few weeks but over the course of a number of years. The good news though, is that they are totally harmless - just a normal, fairly common, variation in the appearance of your penis - the...

Hi Sammy, Whilst that advice of "experiment and find what works for you" is good, context is also important - not just what your body is physically doing but how you're feeling too. Have you ever noticed that sometimes something that you really enjoy doesn't appeal to you? Like maybe if yo...

Hi QU210054, We can't diagnose you over the internet unfortunately, you'll need to see a qualified healthcare provider if you're worried or it doesn't clear up with moisturising. What I will say is that bowenoid papulosis is more common in people in their 20s and 30s as it is associated with HPV, an...

Hi confusedinlove, I'm sorry that you've found yourself being exploited, that's not okay. Unfortunately, whilst there are plenty of kinky folks out there who work really hard to make safe spaces and interactions happen, there are plenty of others who are in it for the wrong reasons. Do you want to t...

Hi confusedinlove, I really enjoyed sex education as a show! There were some things that I thought it handled really well - honestly most of my gripes came from how americanised their allegedly UK school was. Did every relationship or piece of advice live up to my exact ideal? No, but compared to a ...

Hi there tenderqueer, From what you're describing, it sounds like this person didn't have your consent for everything they were doing, which means that yes, it is sexual assault. Sexual assault is any kind of sexual activity without the other person's consent. Tribbing is definitely a sexual activit...

I'm glad you get to hang out with him at the same time as your friend! Do you want to try to think up some other activities you can do together online or are you happy sticking to being movie buddies? Perhaps the addition of classes to your schedules will help you space out your hangouts to a pace t...

Hi there nav :) It's great that you're starting to explore your body and figure out what you like and want! In terms of finding your vaginal opening, if you felt up to getting a mirror and taking a look I think that would help a lot. It's also good to have some idea of what "normal" looks ...

So social media is one place you can start digging around. A lot of areas will have LGBT facebook groups for example, where you can interact online or, depending on how pandemic things are going, there might be in-person events too. If you are in or near a big city, you might even find groups dedica...

Hi kaisedinuma! Welcome to the boards :) So there are lots of different ways to masturbate, and a lot of people actually feel a lot more pleasure from touching the outside of their vulva than they do from anything inside. So it's important to feel relaxed and turned on, but also to pay attention to ...

Hi spacecadet! I'm so glad you've found us :D So I think you've got a lot of the answers you're looking for already. One of the first questions that comes to my mind when someone is finding partnered sex a bit meh is have you figured out, through masturbation, what feels good to you? It sounds like ...

Hey there ztyu1234, Welcome to the boards :) I don't have all the answers to what you should do with this person, but I do have some ideas about how you can make up your own mind! Pandemic loneliness can lead to real connections. Yes, the pandemic has made a lot of people confront their own isolatio...