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by Siân
Wed Jan 19, 2022 7:43 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: sensory issues and sex
Replies: 4
Views: 314

Re: sensory issues and sex

I'm glad you found it helpful! And thanks Raffles for that useful tip :)
by Siân
Wed Jan 19, 2022 7:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Help.. I can’t feel anything.
Replies: 1
Views: 56

Re: Help.. I can’t feel anything.

Hi Mosept, I wonder what kinds of places you've been reading these articles about pleasure? Because you've talked a lot about different physical things, but actually a lot of what is going on when people experience sexual pleasure (regardless of their gender or anatomy) is their brain. This is a goo...
by Siân
Wed Jan 19, 2022 7:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Extreme shallow vagina. Is there something wrong with me?
Replies: 9
Views: 326

Re: Extreme shallow vagina. Is there something wrong with me?

You're welcome! We're still here if you have any more questions, want more help finding a doctor or to talk about what your sister or the doctor say :)
by Siân
Wed Jan 19, 2022 7:05 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 19
Views: 762

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

If someone found a way to cure a broken heart they would be very rich indeed! But I actually think that all of those emotions have something to tell us - about what's important to us, what we care about, things like that. I'm glad you're feeling better and that life is good in general. When you say ...
by Siân
Wed Jan 19, 2022 6:59 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't really get crushes
Replies: 5
Views: 225

Re: I don't really get crushes

Hi BeepBoop, You're right that it's confusing when you ask someone directly what they want and they don't respond. It sounds like neither of you are in a great place right now to be rebuilding your romantic relationship, though it is definitely nice to have someone to speak to and feel connected wit...
by Siân
Wed Jan 19, 2022 6:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My girlfriend is asexual and im not
Replies: 1
Views: 73

Re: My girlfriend is asexual and im not

Hi qualifiedpanda, I'm glad you want to be there for your girlfriend, but questioning her sexual orientation is not a good way to do that. Yes, being a survivor of sexual abuse can give people a lot of complicated feelings around sex, but it does not make someone asexual. If you're going to be there...
by Siân
Wed Jan 19, 2022 6:41 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unhealthy relationship?
Replies: 4
Views: 156

Re: Unhealthy relationship?

Hi waterhyacinth, Can you touch a bit more on what about this relationship your friends are saying is unhealthy. You've mentioned the age gap, but is there anything else that your friends are picking up on? I realise you're 17 now, but one thing to note is that in Ohio the age of consent is 16, so i...
by Siân
Sat Jan 15, 2022 9:13 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Guilty or not
Replies: 21
Views: 427

Re: Guilty or not

If everyone is comfortable, like the situation you described with your friend, then you don't need to feel guilty here. I'm usually really happy to talk more about consent and how it works, but right now it seems like you're trying to find something to feel bad about and we've said a few times alrea...
by Siân
Sat Jan 15, 2022 9:05 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: No Pleasure; Hear Me Out
Replies: 7
Views: 232

Re: No Pleasure; Hear Me Out

Hi CassidyG, I'm sorry, it sucks when you're doing the research, doing everything "right" and still something isn't clicking. It sounds like speaking to your doctor is a good shout, as both your medication and your depression could be a part of this for sure. I do wonder, what is your moti...
by Siân
Sat Jan 15, 2022 8:45 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Guilty or not
Replies: 21
Views: 427

Re: Guilty or not

There are two kinds of context that are important, your relationship and the moment. By your relationship, I don't mean whether they are your friend/partner/sibling etc. I mean do you have the kind of relationship where playful physical touch is common, enjoyed and reciprocated; where you have trust...
by Siân
Sat Jan 15, 2022 8:20 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Guilty or not
Replies: 21
Views: 427

Re: Guilty or not

Hi Roseeejames5, I'm glad that you've found Sam and Sofi's comments helpful. It sounds like your own sexual assault and the trauma from that has been bothering you recently. I wonder if continuing to heal from that will help you with the feelings of guilt you're experiencing now. Do you want to talk...
by Siân
Sat Jan 15, 2022 8:10 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Masterbating
Replies: 108
Views: 2480

Re: Masterbating

Lots of people find they need to urinate after orgasm - that's not particularly unusual. It's also good practice to pee after sex or masturbation (especially for people with vulvas) to avoid urinary tract infections.
by Siân
Sat Jan 15, 2022 8:07 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: First vibrator part two
Replies: 2
Views: 144

Re: First vibrator part two

Hi sunsatellite. Individual preferences vary so I'm not going to jump in here with specific recommendations - that's not really our thing. There are a bunch of blogs out there that give in-depth reviews of different toys! These can be really informative in helping you wade through all the different ...
by Siân
Sat Jan 15, 2022 7:56 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Vulva isn't like diagrams?
Replies: 1
Views: 86

Re: Vulva isn't like diagrams?

Hi tam! Welcome to the boards :D I'm so glad you found us. It can take a while to get to know your way around your genitals if you haven't taken a look before! A lot of the medical diagrams are so generalised and tidied up that they don't represent a lot of the normal variation from vulva to vulva. ...
by Siân
Thu Jan 06, 2022 6:08 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: sensory issues and sex
Replies: 4
Views: 314

Re: sensory issues and sex

Hi dollparties! I'm not autistic and so can't speak from my own experiences of stimming, but this actually doesn't sound that weird to me! Biting and kissing are not that unrelated, and some people are going to be into it. As long as your partner is on board there's nothing wrong with some gentle ch...
by Siân
Thu Jan 06, 2022 5:57 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: what is this called?
Replies: 3
Views: 132

Re: what is this called?

Maybe you can name it yourself! Who knows, perhaps some day it will catch on :D
by Siân
Thu Jan 06, 2022 5:56 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 64
Views: 1446

Re: Unwanted crush

I'm so pleased you're finding the articles we've linked helpful! And sorry to hear that you've been reacting to your vaccine. I think that everyone finds that different people bring out different parts of them - this is one reason that having just one person as our main social outlet isn't great, it...
by Siân
Wed Jan 05, 2022 7:44 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 64
Views: 1446

Re: Unwanted crush

I'm so glad you've found us here at Scarleteen and that your conversations with Heather have been helpful! I hope you don't mind me joining in the conversation. Listening and sometimes offering an opinion is exactly what we're here for, and it's okay to want that kind of attention sometimes. I'm sor...
by Siân
Wed Jan 05, 2022 7:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: what's normal + how to go further
Replies: 5
Views: 214

Re: what's normal + how to go further

hey theatreluvin, I totally get that telling someone that you love them is a vulnerable thing to do. I wonder what makes you feel like you'd be embarrassed though? When we're embarrassed often it comes from feeling like we've done something wrong or weird, and I don't think loving someone is wrong o...
by Siân
Wed Jan 05, 2022 7:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can I get pregnant?
Replies: 3
Views: 129

Re: Can I get pregnant?

Yep, condoms are a good method of birth control, and one we always recommend to protect from STI's too. You can read all about condoms as birth control, including how to use them effectively, here: Condoms.
by Siân
Wed Dec 22, 2021 4:29 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 40
Views: 1085

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

Hey MusicNerd, You know, I think it's okay to feel bummed for a moment and grieve what might have been. It just shows that you cared, which I actually think is a hopeful thing - you've shown that there are great people out there that you can feel excited about. Sure, this time it didn't work out but...
by Siân
Wed Dec 22, 2021 4:19 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex method clarification
Replies: 5
Views: 217

Re: Sex method clarification

Hi Somesh, We're not going to tell you anything different on our boards than we are in our articles - I promise if we review and update them constantly with the best information we have. We also can't answer questions about pregnancy scares here on the boards - and this feels very close to a pregnan...
by Siân
Fri Dec 10, 2021 5:23 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: no sensation when masturbating
Replies: 35
Views: 795

Re: no sensation when masturbating

How about when you exercise? One tool used for kids with hyposensitivity is "heavy work" - anything that involves moving with or against resistance. As you get older, different kinds of exercise or physical work can provide additional sensory input - and lots of people get a kind of rush f...
by Siân
Fri Dec 10, 2021 4:59 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: South Asian Indian Identity
Replies: 3
Views: 383

Re: South Asian Indian Identity

So glad you hear it! Did you want to dive into any more of this with us here, or were you more looking to just get if off your chest?
by Siân
Fri Dec 10, 2021 4:59 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Think I have hot guy amnesia
Replies: 19
Views: 762

Re: Think I have hot guy amnesia

Hi spottedowl, This sounds like a lot to be figuring out! Is it a recent realisation for you, or has something made you think about it more recently? I'm glad you have a therapist to talk to, and that you've been able to share with us here. It sounds like you're feeling a lot of stuff - okay, happy,...

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