Hi Buddyboi Having your own gym equipment sounds exciting! There are a lot of good resources online that you can use for at home workouts, so I hope you find something that works for you and allows you to set reasonable goals for yourself. Have you thought about a "thing your body can do" ...

Hi scarletibis! I'm so glad you've found our site useful :D Sounds like this would be worth getting in touch with a healthcare provider about if you are able to navigate it. We do always recommend getting in the habit of STI testing early - including with your first partner. Sounds like you were usi...

Hey :) You 100% get to have normal human feelings! I'm glad you're giving yourself some grace, and it sounds like you have some nuanced thinking around all this, which is great. So, I'm also single and had been thinking about maybe starting to date again - in a more slow and careful way than perhaps...

Hi BPanther_L I'm glad you've come to us with your questions! Ask as many as you like :D So like sex and romance, masturbation is something that everyone comes to in their own time and in different ways. Most people with a vulva orgasm much more reliably from external stimulation than internal - if ...

Hi Sabine, It sounds like you're feeling anxious a lot about the people you match with on dating apps, and like you're feeling very invested in every match. I totally get it! It's exciting to think about possible dates or relationships with these people! The thing is, until you get to know someone w...

Hey Sabine, I think that you make an important distinction here - you FEEL like you're failing, but I don't think relationships are really something that you fail at. You mentioned a therapist - have you spoken to them about the fears you have about being ghosted, and how it feels like you need a re...

Hey Raffles, Thanks for sharing this update. It sounds like you're mostly sharing, so I'm not trying to give you a lot of specific advice here but I want you to know that you're seen and we hear you. It sounds like you've been putting a lot of pressure on yourself to do or be everything all the time...

Hey there OPT1M15T1C,

I get that this is a vent post, and so I figure you're not really looking for much of a response here but I want you to know that we hear you, we're here for you, and sometimes anger is totally reasonable <3

Hi Buddyboi, Mis-matched desire can cause feelings of shame and frustration for both partners, so I'm glad you are clearly working hard at being kind to one another around this. The thing is, both of you are perfectly healthy and normal exactly the way you are. There is nothing wrong with you feelin...

Hi! We've got a whole article diving into exactly those kinds of details right here: Testing, Testing... Basically, they'll usually start with asking a bit about your sexual history things like how many people you've had sex with in the last 3/6 months, the kinds of sex you had and whether you are p...

Hi tomatopotato, You never HAVE to challenge someones views on women, particularly if you don't feel too safe doing so. You also don't have to accept sexual talk or talk about women that makes you uncomfortable. It sounds here like you're trying to balance a few things: anti-racism and political org...

hey andrej, I think this sentence of yours is pretty cool: whenever I had sex, I had because I wanted to and it was always amazing I think a lot of people have a bunch of mediocre sex - or mediocre relationships - for the sake of having sex and relationships. Hell, a plenty of folks have bad sex rat...

hi haikyufan123 Managing our emotions is a skill that takes a lot of time and practice - we won't always get it right and we need to be gentle with ourselves as we learn. I'll share some of the things that help me with my emotions in a second, but first I want to say that it is okay to share your fe...

So glad that Sam's answer helped you we're always here if you have more questions or want to talk about this some more!

Hi Crystal-River It's totally normal to sometimes have sexual thoughts about people, including people we don't really know. Those thoughts are yours alone and no-one is going to know that they are there unless you choose to share them. The important thing in this context is to remember that the tech...

I'm not quite sure what you mean. Around the area of the vulva there are three openings: the vaginal canal, the urethra (this one is very small and harder to spot) and the anus - there's a good diagram and explanation here which you can look at for more information: Innies & Outies: The Vagina, ...

Hi TS_6249 Ejaculate varies in consistency based on things like how recently/often you have been ejaculating and even how hydrated you are. If you haven't ejaculated in a while it's not unusual to find that when you do there is more of it and it is runnier as your body has had time to produce more f...

Okay, if you're feeling pain then a checkin with your doctor is a good idea.

sky, I can hear that you're hurting. The virus is causing all kinds of strain right now and it sounds like it's putting pressure on you in a lot of ways. I'm sorry. These feelings that you're having - the anxiety, the hurt, the not feeling like your own care is worth prioritising - are exactly why t...

What about you, solareclipse? Do you feel good about continuing a long distance relationship with this person?

You know, I don't think that moving on from a relationship is the same as forgetting it ever happened. You can be happy in your life and not want to return to a previous relationship whilst also appreciating what was nice about it. In fact, I *like* being able to look back at past relationships and ...

So in your other post you said you had a penis - while genitals don't fall neatly into two cateogries (hi intersex folks!) - the G-spot, if it even exists, is associated with the front wall of a vagina. For folks with a penis, the prostate gland is often referred to as the "P-spot" or some...

Penises come in all kinds of shapes and sizes - and yes, plenty of them are more or less curved. When you say sex position, I'm assuming you mean for intercourse? In which case, your partner's bodies will vary too, and what feels good for both of you will be up to your individual preferences - the b...

Hi solareclipse02,

Big changes can be hard. So I'm clear, are you and your this person planning on trying a relationship long-distance, or are you breaking up? Have you spoken at all about what moving means for the two of you?

Great!

You know, our most important sex organ is our brain, not our genitals. The key point is that it feels good for you - whether you have an erection or not. Sure, some types of sex are easier when erect but it's pretty limiting to say there is only one "right way" to do it - you know?