Hi confusedinlove, I'm sorry that you've found yourself being exploited, that's not okay. Unfortunately, whilst there are plenty of kinky folks out there who work really hard to make safe spaces and interactions happen, there are plenty of others who are in it for the wrong reasons. Do you want to t...

Hi confusedinlove, I really enjoyed sex education as a show! There were some things that I thought it handled really well - honestly most of my gripes came from how americanised their allegedly UK school was. Did every relationship or piece of advice live up to my exact ideal? No, but compared to a ...

Hi there tenderqueer, From what you're describing, it sounds like this person didn't have your consent for everything they were doing, which means that yes, it is sexual assault. Sexual assault is any kind of sexual activity without the other person's consent. Tribbing is definitely a sexual activit...

I'm glad you get to hang out with him at the same time as your friend! Do you want to try to think up some other activities you can do together online or are you happy sticking to being movie buddies? Perhaps the addition of classes to your schedules will help you space out your hangouts to a pace t...

Hi there nav :) It's great that you're starting to explore your body and figure out what you like and want! In terms of finding your vaginal opening, if you felt up to getting a mirror and taking a look I think that would help a lot. It's also good to have some idea of what "normal" looks ...

So social media is one place you can start digging around. A lot of areas will have LGBT facebook groups for example, where you can interact online or, depending on how pandemic things are going, there might be in-person events too. If you are in or near a big city, you might even find groups dedica...

Hi kaisedinuma! Welcome to the boards :) So there are lots of different ways to masturbate, and a lot of people actually feel a lot more pleasure from touching the outside of their vulva than they do from anything inside. So it's important to feel relaxed and turned on, but also to pay attention to ...

Hi spacecadet! I'm so glad you've found us :D So I think you've got a lot of the answers you're looking for already. One of the first questions that comes to my mind when someone is finding partnered sex a bit meh is have you figured out, through masturbation, what feels good to you? It sounds like ...

Hey there ztyu1234, Welcome to the boards :) I don't have all the answers to what you should do with this person, but I do have some ideas about how you can make up your own mind! Pandemic loneliness can lead to real connections. Yes, the pandemic has made a lot of people confront their own isolatio...

Hi confusedinlove, You know, contrary to popular belief I think I speak to more people who aren't into hookups than who are, both here and amongst my friends. I think a lot of that is down to sex being more enjoyable for a lot of people when they are super comfortable and relaxed, and are really att...

Hi Aly_, We certainly can't diagnose what is causing the mark on your boyfriends penis over the internet, it really needs to be seen in person by a doctor so I'm glad he has an appointment coming up. I can help clear up a few things about HSV (the herpes virus, which causes coldsores too) and HPV th...

Hi Maroposa01, So glad that you felt confident and able to take the initiative and enjoy yourself! Sex is definitely something that should be fun - why do something you don't enjoy? - so this sounds really positive. Do you want to talk about any of the ideas that have come up any more? We're here an...

I'm glad that you have a therapist on your team. Perhaps they are someone that you can talk to about these feelings that you're describing of not being able to get anything right? We're not equipped to give specific support on self harm and mental health issues, unfortunately. Taking personal respon...

Hi idk anymore, On your original question, it's not at all unusual for penises to have a curve to them, and it rarely interferes too much with intercourse if that's a concern for you. As you say, if someone is keen to be with you, they're keen to be with you. If it doesn't hurt, then it's probably n...

Hi there LovePineapples, It's really tough when someone you love is going through some things which impact you and your relationship. I've been there, believe me. I know how important it feels to persevere and try to weather the storm until things get better. The thing is, we can't love someone bett...

Hi CatHaru 26! So we have a whole article on exactly this! Using two methods of birth control together ups your overall level of protection. We call it the buddy method, and we talk in more detail in the piece I've linked at the bottom. In short, whilst withdrawal isn't great on it's own, when you c...

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Just checking in to say I'm so happy that you found this helpful! I also LOVE your "moving to Australia" analogy by the way - it's funny how sometimes replacing the question with another, similar but less emotive one can make us see it in a whole new way! Are there any parts of this you'd ...

I managed to break up with the same person twice since March...As I always find with heart-achey breakups, to start with it sucked HARD and later on I got motivated! In some ways, it felt like grieving at a point where literally everyone was also facing massive shifts in the ways they lived felt sor...

Hi there eatyourgreens! Becoming a parent is a really big decision, it's not stupid to think it through carefully. It sounds like you've had quite a journey to get to the point where you can think about having a child, and it's normal to sometimes see old patterns re-emerge in moments of change or s...

Hi there! When you talk about not feeling anything, do you mean it doesn't feel pleasurable or turn you on? If so, then I wonder what you're thinking or feeling when you try masturbating. That's because pleasure is actually less about what's going on with your genitals and more about what's going on...

I'm sorry that your parents have been too worried about looking good in front of other people to actually do the right thing. It sounds like there are two main options here: 1. Get another person (like the school counsellor) to help you talk to your parents about what you need 2. Try to get support ...

It sounds like you have found some really important insights recently. Going kinda in reverse order, your third point sounds like one that has taken some time to learn and I hope you've been starting to give yourself permission to feel your feelings a bit more. It can be scary to realise how much we...

What makes you unsure? Is there something in particular that worries you? When thinking about the clitoris growing in size when aroused it's not just the glans or "head" that fills with blood and swells, it's the whole internal structure too - you might notice that the whole of your vulva ...

Hi Sky H, Porn isn't inherently evil or bad for you but there are a couple of things worth remembering when you're watching it: Porn sex is not like real-life sex and so it's not a great place to learn about what your own sex life can or should be like. These two articles by Alice O look at some of ...