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by Heather
Thu Jan 27, 2022 3:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend
Replies: 36
Views: 1253

Re: Friend

By all means, the last couple of years have been so rough when it comes to socialization and relationships. My heart goes out to all of you in adolescence during this. It's already such a challenging time of life, and now this on top of it is just so, so much. These conversations and dynamics with y...
by Heather
Thu Jan 27, 2022 3:39 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 184
Views: 5154

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hey, Sky. Let's deal with the physical health issue first. It sounds like you might have wound up with a urinary tract infection, something that's pretty common with any kind of vaginal sex, especially if and when hands that haven't just been washed are involved, and a couple of the other things we ...
by Heather
Wed Jan 26, 2022 1:01 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: abuse questions
Replies: 3
Views: 165

Re: abuse questions

I'm glad to hear that. Do you have the help you need from the medical board and any of those abuse crisis services to move forward with this, or are there still things around this you want or need from us?
by Heather
Wed Jan 26, 2022 1:00 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 184
Views: 5154

Re: Just need some reassurance

I think that, again, just sitting with all of these feelings and giving yourself time to have them and sort through them is important, including noting where they conflict. I do think it's important to be clear with yourself that in the case of this past situation, what you set up here was a casual ...
by Heather
Wed Jan 26, 2022 11:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 184
Views: 5154

Re: Just need some reassurance

I disagree that experimenting sexually isn't normal. It's a very common thing for people to do. Like we talked about yesterday, I am not surprised with you having a wide range of feelings about all of this. I also am not surprised by yo-yo-ing regret and wanting to do it again, by feeling good about...
by Heather
Wed Jan 26, 2022 10:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 184
Views: 5154

Re: Just need some reassurance

There's no universal answer to this.

But per our conversation just yesterday afternoon about you, in particular, can you recall where we left it, talking about taking *at least* a few days to experience and process all your feelings about this last one before you even think about that?
by Heather
Wed Jan 26, 2022 10:53 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fear of Having Vaginismus
Replies: 5
Views: 220

Re: Fear of Having Vaginismus

Most care at Planned Parenthood is sliding scale, rocko, based on your own (not your parents) income. You can call the clinic and talk to them to get an estimate before you go if you like. This looks like the closest one to you: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-center?location=07666 In NJ, y...
by Heather
Tue Jan 25, 2022 4:03 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend
Replies: 36
Views: 1253

Re: Friend

There's nothing wrong with your posts and how you're expressing your feelings. Thanks for sharing that with me, that's vulnerable stuff. Even with the interactions with you here so far, it feels unlikely that's all there is to you, but let's say a lot of you is in want or need of attention. Can that...
by Heather
Tue Jan 25, 2022 1:12 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Healing wrong
Replies: 11
Views: 425

Re: Healing wrong

I'm so glad the boards here and that resource both feel like good starting points for you! :)
by Heather
Tue Jan 25, 2022 1:09 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend
Replies: 36
Views: 1253

Re: Friend

Sounds like you struggle pretty hard with perfectionism. Would you say so? You talk about your true nature here. How would you describe that? Who do you feel like to you, if you weren't out to try and please anyone else? By the way, no one here is under any obligation to use the information we give ...
by Heather
Mon Jan 24, 2022 4:21 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Healing wrong
Replies: 11
Views: 425

Re: Healing wrong

Kimberly is so amazing. She just GETS IT.

And sure. Are you open to letting us know what general part of Florida you're in? If you are but you're not comfortable doing it on the boards, you can drop it to us via the contact link in the bottom lower right (the red-outlined box) of this page.
by Heather
Mon Jan 24, 2022 4:18 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend
Replies: 36
Views: 1253

Re: Friend

So, journaling your feelings is mostly for you. It's so you can learn to express them more freely. It doesn't have to make sense to anyone else, in fact, it doesn't even need to make sense to you later once you're done! It's more about the process of doing it. And if those feelings are temporary, or...
by Heather
Mon Jan 24, 2022 1:33 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 184
Views: 5154

Re: Just need some reassurance

You got it.
by Heather
Mon Jan 24, 2022 12:40 pm
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Parenting as a Teenager
Replies: 10
Views: 11232

Re: Parenting as a Teenager

Can we help you out with anything, Alessandra?
by Heather
Mon Jan 24, 2022 12:39 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend
Replies: 36
Views: 1253

Re: Friend

So, these sound like maybe two different issues to me in some ways (even though they obviously intersect), and I feel like we should perhaps talk about them separately for now. With your friend, was there ever a time when you'd say your relationship was really great? When you two were very close, wh...
by Heather
Mon Jan 24, 2022 12:16 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Healing wrong
Replies: 11
Views: 425

Re: Healing wrong

I also want to chime in here that there's really no such thing as healing "wrong." All of our journeys with healing are very different, and often winding, and it can tend to take us instinctively trying and doing a lot of things to feel out our way to healing, especially if and when we are...
by Heather
Mon Jan 24, 2022 11:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 184
Views: 5154

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hey, Sky. Bunch of posts in moderation and I'm seeing them all, but let's see where you are today first, okay? Where are you at right now?
by Heather
Sun Jan 23, 2022 2:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 184
Views: 5154

Re: Just need some reassurance

Thanks for working with that boundary, I really appreciate it. I'm so glad you had a conversation with Ruby and that it was such a good one for you. That's awesome. And they're right, and that's really astute: if we want to self-harm after something in any way, most of the time it's because that som...
by Heather
Sun Jan 23, 2022 2:13 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 184
Views: 5154

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hey there, Sky. I work chat on Mondays and Tuesdays in the afternoons these days. happy to talk with you if you want during either of those shifts this week. One thing I'm going to ask you is to try to post here when you're sober instead of using anything. I ask that as a general community ask, but ...
by Heather
Sun Jan 23, 2022 2:04 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend
Replies: 36
Views: 1253

Re: Friend

Hey again. Hope you're doing okay today. If you ask me, I think it's always a good idea to keep trying to open up with our friends about our concerns and feelings. After all, that's how we maintain and deepen those relationships. If in the past, we've fumbled, or even outrightly messed up in some wa...
by Heather
Thu Jan 20, 2022 12:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 184
Views: 5154

Re: Just need some reassurance

That's literally what these services are here for, and I'm so glad that we can do this for you. <3

(I'm afraid I have to head off now myself, alas, I got boosted and flu-shot yesterday and it is kicking my tucas like nobody's business, but hang in there, pal.)
by Heather
Tue Jan 18, 2022 3:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 184
Views: 5154

Re: Just need some reassurance

I am, for about 15 more minutes today.
by Heather
Tue Jan 18, 2022 2:21 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 64
Views: 1664

Re: Unwanted crush

Aw, not at all. That was very rousing. :)
by Heather
Tue Jan 18, 2022 1:31 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 64
Views: 1664

Re: Unwanted crush

Hey again. :) You know what life looks like for those of us who are LGBTQAI is as varied as it tends to look for folks who aren't. And the same really goes for what people think. By all means, we all still live in a world that's more accepting of straight people than those of us who aren't, and that...
by Heather
Tue Jan 18, 2022 1:25 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 184
Views: 5154

Re: Just need some reassurance

If literally anyone -- anyone, absolutely including queer people -- tells you that they do not have at least some internalized homophobia, biphobia and transphobia, they are seriously kidding themselves. We are ALL homophobic, there's no way we can come up in this world and not be to at least some d...

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