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Not a problem at all! Consider it ever-open. After all, it's not like we're going to stop dying.

I love these questions, they're so rich! Thanks for asking them. Give me a bit to finish some other things with deadlines I need to today, and mull some of this over a little, and I'll circle back.

The idea that there's a specific way or ways people are feeling when they are ovulating isn't accurate. Things like ovulation or periods can also influence things like feelings of sexual desire, but sexual desire is about way more than the four hormones mostly involved with the fertility cycle AND h...

Hi there, Michael, and welcome to the boards. :) So, sex isn't something that happens on its own. In other words, nothing can "lead to sex," exactly. People have to actively do things for it to happen. Do you mean that if you have or pursue any kind of emotional intimacy with other women, ...

Hey again. I'm not sure what you're looking for here: can you let me know what your question is?

Hey there, Anonymous. My best advice is to do a couple of things: 1) Figure out what you want from sharing this with family members: making a small list may be helpful. 2) Figure out what you just can't handle or deal with from family members if you're disclosing: again, I'd make a list. 3) Look at ...

I need to back up Carly here: this is a lot of bleeding, to the point that I'm not even sure how related to sex this was (save maybe something like a burst internal cyst because of some pressure on your abdomen). I think you need to go get healthcare -- and an ER might be better -- even thought this...

Clotting generally isn't something that will happen with any kind of vaginal bleeding that isn't related to pregnancy or another major health issue. Even with menstruation, what people often think are clots are not, but instead blood mixed with discharge or endometrial tissue. Can you tell me if the...

It's okay, it can be really hard to find words for this stuff! So, what I hear you saying is: a) You expect that engaging your genitals will increase how aroused you feel, and it has not done that. b) You don't feel what you expect something "sexual" to feel like. c) You feel sensations, b...

Hi there. I think it's important to take your age into account. You are just, so barely just, at the beginning of a lifetime of sexuality, a lifetime of getting to know your own sexuality, your own body, all of it. Too, how people describe sex often isn't exactly accurate: it's pretty often elevated...

Glad it felt of benefit to you. There really is no right or wrong "number," I promise, and I also think we need to ask ourselves about a framework that even reduces people and our intimate experiences with them to a number, you know? This is the stuff of our hearts and minds and bodies and...

I'm so glad to have been of help! And now that I think about it again I wish I would’ve also said something along the lines: I feel uncomfortable with you or him showing physical affection towards each other in your bed. I am here for you and if you need me or crave attention or affection, I’ll be t...

You know, I don't really think of my sexual history as "so many partners," because the number of partners I have had feels right for me, not like "so many" or "not enough," you know? For sure, I think that I have a wider scope of people I can be attracted to than a lot ...

I'm so sorry to hear that, Mantis. (And fellow Zoloft user here, if it helps to know that.) Can I ask how you feel when you start masturbating? What's the thing that sparks you to do it in the first place? Are you feeling a lot of desire when you do, or is it more like something you do out of habit ...

Hey there, xddeye. Welcome to the boards, and I'm glad that you found us and feel able to ask for help and support with this here. Your boyfriend is right, you aren't entitled to knowing all of his sexual history, but I also think you're right in that this particular thing is a) less historical than...

Rubie, I just want to start by saying that all of the feelings you're having and the ways you have expressed them here are totally valid. I think a lot of us who are survivors can also relate to that thing where changes to us and our lives after assault can be a really mixed bag, and even the good c...

There's really not a way that masturbation "smells." No one can come into a room, for instance, and smell that someone has masturbated. Any smell from masturbation is likely just a smell of sweat, and that's just a people thing, you know? This is one of those things where you are likely sm...

Honestly, I'm thinking of just not coming there again if my parents won't force me. I'm just so tired of hearing and feeling like there is something wrong with me all the time, both physically and mentally. I'm tired of always having some problems, never serious enough to need urgent help or to mak...

What does a guy think during all of that? I do want to add here that guys aren't a monolith: there's nowhere near no one thought or ways of thinking that all people who identify as men or were assigned male sex at birth have. All of those (billions of!) people are very diverse, sexual experiences t...

Hey, Rubie. If it's helpful, I'm happy to talk about this from the opposite angle. Growing up (and through a lot of my life), I usually had had substantially more sexual experience or partners than many of my partners. I do think a lot of people make some inaccurate assumptions about folks who have ...

Hey there, Whispermae. Thanks for trusting us enough to share all of what you had here, both facts and feelings. This is big, hard stuff, and I'm glad you feel able to talk about it with us. So, I'm a survivor, too. (My earliest assault also sounds a lot like what happened to you, based on your othe...

I do just want to be a bit of a nag and make a general reminder to all that the idea we can "balance" hormones is actually not a fact-based framework. There are a good amount of articles on this, but here's one that sums the major issues with this up pretty succinctly (and these are all OB...

Welcome to the boards, blu_envy. :) To the best of my knowledge, surgery to remove hemorrhoids is usually only suggested when there's a health problem because of them or when one (or more) are causing pain, and when other ways of managing them haven't been successful. I don't believe they are someth...

I'm afraid I don't have much time today, so I'll be quick! On the whole, no, having a lower level of one given hormone doesn't mean having more of the other because of that. But again, I think it's important to bear in mind that there's really no such thing as a static "level" for hormones...

I hear you on writing being solitary: it's one of my big things to do, too, and it certainly generally is not conducive to doing with other people, exactly. But there are some ways to still connect with others around that interest if you want, including ways to work on writing things at the same tim...

I found a couple of Discords for crafting circles through Lex, which is a queer community and dating app that is TEXT and not photo based. There's no requirement or even expectation to use it for dating or sex if you don't want to: you could (as I have so far, because my age group isn't really repre...