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by Heather
Wed May 05, 2021 1:21 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Bottom growth
Replies: 1
Views: 23

Re: Bottom growth

Beyond what T itself will do, you mean? If so, nope. Besides just taking care of your general health so the T can do its job and your circulation stays good, there isn’t.

It does tend to happen for most folks pretty fast on T, though.
by Heather
Tue May 04, 2021 9:12 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: changes on t
Replies: 1
Views: 58

Re: changes on t

Hey there, phantomdog. I'm glad that you were able to get on T as you wanted and that it's so far been so positive for you! HUZZAH! (I really need to get The Great outta my head.) That discharge won't be about ejaculate, that's not a thing in the way that it sounds like you're thinking. However -- j...
by Heather
Mon May 03, 2021 10:22 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my guilt is eating me up alive
Replies: 17
Views: 159

Re: my guilt is eating me up alive

Sure thing. I hope you can start feeling better about it soon. It sounds like this has just been really activating for you when it comes to your trauma. <3
by Heather
Mon May 03, 2021 10:03 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my guilt is eating me up alive
Replies: 17
Views: 159

Re: my guilt is eating me up alive

Hey there, haikyufan. It sounds to me like in order to do that, you might have to figure out where it's really coming from. He's been very clear with you that it was NOT a boundary violation on his part. Just because something might feel weird sometimes doesn't mean a boundary has been crossed, by t...
by Heather
Thu Apr 29, 2021 11:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sperm Survivability in Period
Replies: 4
Views: 148

Re: Sperm Survivability in Period

Bodies can certainly do weird things sometimes, but that would be pretty hard for a body to pull off, since it'd effectively be asking it to have been doing two opposing things hormonally for most of a cycle at the same time, you know?
by Heather
Wed Apr 28, 2021 1:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Irrational semen fears (long)
Replies: 4
Views: 140

Re: Irrational semen fears (long)

Hey there, Dreamlore. I just was coming through and catching up with the boards, and I wanted to respond toi something you said here about you being a real freak. You're not, you know. I mean, not in the derogatory sense ( I can't speak for your positive freakitude!). Not in the sense that this is s...
by Heather
Tue Apr 27, 2021 9:35 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sperm Survivability in Period
Replies: 4
Views: 148

Re: Sperm Survivability in Period

Hey there, Rhea. I'm not sure I understand what you're asking. Are you asking how sperm cells that are deposited into the vagina could stay hanging around in the vagina or inside the cervix during a menstrual period? If so, then the answer as I understand it is that it wouldn't be all that likely, g...
by Heather
Tue Apr 20, 2021 9:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How effective is sperm/semen outside the body?
Replies: 12
Views: 454

Re: How effective is sperm/semen outside the body?

Yep, that works just the same as handwashing does. <3
by Heather
Wed Apr 14, 2021 11:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 462

Re: Exclusivity?

<3
by Heather
Tue Apr 13, 2021 12:00 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 273

Re: Higher sex drive causes?

By the way, I just wanted to pop in and say one brief thing to kind of sum all this up which is to make clear that even the idea that there are "causes" for you having greater or more frequent desire than a partner is, itself, kind of a busted idea that probably comes from some misapprehen...
by Heather
Tue Apr 13, 2021 11:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Casual sex as a virgin
Replies: 9
Views: 340

Re: Casual sex as a virgin

I'm not sure I understand what you're asking for exactly! Can you be a little more clear about what it is you want resources for? What's the "this" that what folks have provided resources for so far haven't addressed? :)
by Heather
Tue Apr 13, 2021 10:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 462

Re: Exclusivity?

Always happy to support and help you.
by Heather
Mon Apr 12, 2021 1:04 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 462

Re: Exclusivity?

Exactly. Again, I think this is individual, but it's about figuring out where you are with your own pacing in terms of your emotional investment, and what you need to know when. At some point, we just gotta know things because there often comes a point where we need to know if we should (or want to)...
by Heather
Mon Apr 12, 2021 12:16 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 462

Re: Exclusivity?

Totally, and you you can also be specific about that sooner rather than later part, too. :) I certainly generally feel like -- for me, anyway -- that by about a couple months of dating, I will want to get a sense of where something is going per how it's going to fit in my life if I'm going to keep i...
by Heather
Mon Apr 12, 2021 11:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 22
Views: 462

Re: Exclusivity?

Hey there, glad to hear about this! Just wanted to add on a little something, which is that you also have the option of talking about exclusivity as something you ultimately want, but that -- so long as this is true -- you don't need right now if it's something he also wants, but isn't there yet. In...
by Heather
Thu Apr 08, 2021 1:58 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 19
Views: 6041

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

I, too, am long a member of the jumpsuit fan club. But on the whole, my enduring uniform that seems to stick around and make me feel comfortable in my skin over decades tends to be a white or black t-shirt and black jeans. A blazer or nice shirt over it if I need to be fancy, something silk under th...
by Heather
Thu Apr 08, 2021 1:55 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: How to make my breasts bigger? Please help!
Replies: 11
Views: 701

Re: How to make my breasts bigger? Please help!

Aside of building chest muscle underneath the breast tissue -- and for most folks, building muscle is always something supportive of health anyway -- no, there isn't. But something you CAN do is work to let go of the idea that there is such a thing as "embarrassingly small." Or that any gi...
by Heather
Tue Apr 06, 2021 1:39 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 6
Views: 563

Re: Clit problems

Most people don't have enough of a clitoral hood -- or more to the point, it's tethered to its attachment points in such a way -- to do what I think of when I think of "rolling" something back. Have you seen these vulva illustrations (just FYI, these are illustrations of vulvas) here: http...
by Heather
Tue Apr 06, 2021 1:09 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 6
Views: 563

Re: Clit problems

Btw, this is a fun zine that has a whole bunch of clitoris info in it including some more diagrams in case a different view than the ones ours give is helpful to you: https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B1ALo_wTWQmWbUtIRWh1NlNxX0Y4b21RUDVUQVF6NktJUXMw/view (Cheers to our friends at pussypedia.net for t...
by Heather
Tue Apr 06, 2021 1:07 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 6
Views: 563

Re: Clit problems

So, the hood of the clitoris isn't really something anyone generally needs to (or really can, not in any grand way, anyway) "lift up." It's not usually a whole lot bigger than the glans itself, which is to say, it's pretty small. Many people rub the glans through the hood because direct co...
by Heather
Mon Apr 05, 2021 8:20 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Excessive vaginal discharge
Replies: 5
Views: 756

Re: Excessive vaginal discharge

Just to be clear -- I just don't want that last post to cause worries -- what's most likely is that NOTHING is going on that's a problem if you're not finding that anything suggests a problem here, like a funky smell or a weird color. There's nothing abnormal or unhealthy about having very fluid dis...
by Heather
Thu Mar 25, 2021 2:28 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 493

Re: How do I ask...?

You're welcome.:)
by Heather
Thu Mar 25, 2021 11:43 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 493

Re: How do I ask...?

Well, I'd not think about this as not doing something you hate. I'd think about sexual choices as only doing things we enjoy. There really is no reason to do things we don't. Sex together is supposed to be about exploring the places we find mutual enjoyment, not about partners suffering through thin...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 3:31 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Break-up
Replies: 9
Views: 730

Re: Break-up

I’m so glad. Please feel free to spend as much time here as you like: I’m so glad we can be here for you!

I haven’t kelp up with how it’s been with the pandemic in Turkey. As bad as here in the states, or...?
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 2:27 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 493

Re: How do I ask...?

Just so you know, a lot of that -- deepthroating -- is more a set of expectations based on porn and other sexual entertainment than what what works for people and is mutually enjoyable for people in real life. Oral sex, like all kinds of sex between partners, is supposed to feel good for both people...

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