Scarleteen Boards

I'm so sorry it took me so long to circle back to this for you! These are really great questions. I've recently seen two people when they were dying i (in a long-term care hospital when visiting my grandmother) and it left me thinking quite a lot. I can't especially get over the fact how the nurses ...

You're welcome, I'm glad they felt good to you. Starting with the latter bit, I'd trust your own instincts with this. I do think that more times than not, it's both generally helpful and just a good idea to meet a partner's other ongoing or regular partners. I do think it often helps with envy or je...

Hey there, jojomo. I hope it's alright if I step in where you and Sofi left off. I do want to first say that 23 is a pretty common age for people to find us and use this resource. I'm telling you that, because in my experience, in the kind of situation you're in, if you feel like you should know how...

I appreciate that. We're good.

What wonderful and helpful additions, likikoi!

How late? I do actually expect folks who make appointments with me to keep them at that time, as my workdays have to have a lot packed into them as our director.

Sure thing. Talk soon.

Sure thing. Let’s do 2:30 EST?

Absolutely! No, yes, maybe but only this way — anything and everything we might say to claim what we want and don’t and to only engage in sex we really want the way we really want it? This is all sexual liberation and empowerment.

I’m available if you want to talk through any more of this, any time.

Most weeks, I could make time any time between 12 PM CST and 4 PM CST, Sunday - Thursday.

Hi there. I'm happy to schedule a time with you. Fill me in on what days and times work best?

Not a problem at all! Consider it ever-open. After all, it's not like we're going to stop dying.

I love these questions, they're so rich! Thanks for asking them. Give me a bit to finish some other things with deadlines I need to today, and mull some of this over a little, and I'll circle back.

The idea that there's a specific way or ways people are feeling when they are ovulating isn't accurate. Things like ovulation or periods can also influence things like feelings of sexual desire, but sexual desire is about way more than the four hormones mostly involved with the fertility cycle AND h...

Hi there, Michael, and welcome to the boards. :) So, sex isn't something that happens on its own. In other words, nothing can "lead to sex," exactly. People have to actively do things for it to happen. Do you mean that if you have or pursue any kind of emotional intimacy with other women, ...

Hey again. I'm not sure what you're looking for here: can you let me know what your question is?

Hey there, Anonymous. My best advice is to do a couple of things: 1) Figure out what you want from sharing this with family members: making a small list may be helpful. 2) Figure out what you just can't handle or deal with from family members if you're disclosing: again, I'd make a list. 3) Look at ...

I need to back up Carly here: this is a lot of bleeding, to the point that I'm not even sure how related to sex this was (save maybe something like a burst internal cyst because of some pressure on your abdomen). I think you need to go get healthcare -- and an ER might be better -- even thought this...

Clotting generally isn't something that will happen with any kind of vaginal bleeding that isn't related to pregnancy or another major health issue. Even with menstruation, what people often think are clots are not, but instead blood mixed with discharge or endometrial tissue. Can you tell me if the...

It's okay, it can be really hard to find words for this stuff! So, what I hear you saying is: a) You expect that engaging your genitals will increase how aroused you feel, and it has not done that. b) You don't feel what you expect something "sexual" to feel like. c) You feel sensations, b...

Hi there. I think it's important to take your age into account. You are just, so barely just, at the beginning of a lifetime of sexuality, a lifetime of getting to know your own sexuality, your own body, all of it. Too, how people describe sex often isn't exactly accurate: it's pretty often elevated...

Glad it felt of benefit to you. There really is no right or wrong "number," I promise, and I also think we need to ask ourselves about a framework that even reduces people and our intimate experiences with them to a number, you know? This is the stuff of our hearts and minds and bodies and...

I'm so glad to have been of help! And now that I think about it again I wish I would’ve also said something along the lines: I feel uncomfortable with you or him showing physical affection towards each other in your bed. I am here for you and if you need me or crave attention or affection, I’ll be t...

You know, I don't really think of my sexual history as "so many partners," because the number of partners I have had feels right for me, not like "so many" or "not enough," you know? For sure, I think that I have a wider scope of people I can be attracted to than a lot ...

I'm so sorry to hear that, Mantis. (And fellow Zoloft user here, if it helps to know that.) Can I ask how you feel when you start masturbating? What's the thing that sparks you to do it in the first place? Are you feeling a lot of desire when you do, or is it more like something you do out of habit ...

Hey there, xddeye. Welcome to the boards, and I'm glad that you found us and feel able to ask for help and support with this here. Your boyfriend is right, you aren't entitled to knowing all of his sexual history, but I also think you're right in that this particular thing is a) less historical than...