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by Heather
Mon Feb 06, 2023 1:55 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
Replies: 3
Views: 357

Re: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk

I'm so sorry it took me so long to circle back to this for you! These are really great questions. I've recently seen two people when they were dying i (in a long-term care hospital when visiting my grandmother) and it left me thinking quite a lot. I can't especially get over the fact how the nurses ...
by Heather
Mon Feb 06, 2023 1:31 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Polyam / different sexual needs / insecurities
Replies: 5
Views: 122

Re: Polyam / different sexual needs / insecurities

You're welcome, I'm glad they felt good to you. Starting with the latter bit, I'd trust your own instincts with this. I do think that more times than not, it's both generally helpful and just a good idea to meet a partner's other ongoing or regular partners. I do think it often helps with envy or je...
by Heather
Sun Feb 05, 2023 11:56 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Polyam / different sexual needs / insecurities
Replies: 5
Views: 122

Re: Polyam / different sexual needs / insecurities

Hey there, jojomo. I hope it's alright if I step in where you and Sofi left off. I do want to first say that 23 is a pretty common age for people to find us and use this resource. I'm telling you that, because in my experience, in the kind of situation you're in, if you feel like you should know how...
by Heather
Wed Feb 01, 2023 1:42 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Heather
Replies: 12
Views: 286

Re: Heather

I appreciate that. We're good. :)
by Heather
Wed Feb 01, 2023 11:14 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: 24 and never been able to induce any pleasure at all
Replies: 12
Views: 331

Re: 24 and never been able to induce any pleasure at all

What wonderful and helpful additions, likikoi!
by Heather
Tue Jan 31, 2023 12:33 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Heather
Replies: 12
Views: 286

Re: Heather

How late? I do actually expect folks who make appointments with me to keep them at that time, as my workdays have to have a lot packed into them as our director.
by Heather
Tue Jan 31, 2023 9:38 am
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Heather
Replies: 12
Views: 286

Re: Heather

Sure thing. Talk soon.
by Heather
Tue Jan 31, 2023 9:15 am
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Heather
Replies: 12
Views: 286

Re: Heather

Sure thing. Let’s do 2:30 EST?
by Heather
Tue Jan 31, 2023 9:14 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexuality stolen from me
Replies: 3
Views: 260

Re: Sexuality stolen from me

Absolutely! No, yes, maybe but only this way — anything and everything we might say to claim what we want and don’t and to only engage in sex we really want the way we really want it? This is all sexual liberation and empowerment.

I’m available if you want to talk through any more of this, any time.
by Heather
Mon Jan 30, 2023 11:51 am
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Heather
Replies: 12
Views: 286

Re: Heather

Most weeks, I could make time any time between 12 PM CST and 4 PM CST, Sunday - Thursday.
by Heather
Sun Jan 29, 2023 4:04 pm
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: Heather
Replies: 12
Views: 286

Re: Heather

Hi there. I'm happy to schedule a time with you. Fill me in on what days and times work best?
by Heather
Wed Jan 18, 2023 1:13 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk
Replies: 3
Views: 357

Re: Volunteering Death/Dying Support and Talk

Not a problem at all! Consider it ever-open. After all, it's not like we're going to stop dying. :)

I love these questions, they're so rich! Thanks for asking them. Give me a bit to finish some other things with deadlines I need to today, and mull some of this over a little, and I'll circle back.
by Heather
Wed Jan 18, 2023 12:01 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Feelings
Replies: 5
Views: 174

Re: Feelings

The idea that there's a specific way or ways people are feeling when they are ovulating isn't accurate. Things like ovulation or periods can also influence things like feelings of sexual desire, but sexual desire is about way more than the four hormones mostly involved with the fertility cycle AND h...
by Heather
Wed Jan 18, 2023 11:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Long-distance woes
Replies: 1
Views: 113

Re: Long-distance woes

Hi there, Michael, and welcome to the boards. :) So, sex isn't something that happens on its own. In other words, nothing can "lead to sex," exactly. People have to actively do things for it to happen. Do you mean that if you have or pursue any kind of emotional intimacy with other women, ...
by Heather
Wed Jan 18, 2023 10:46 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Feelings
Replies: 5
Views: 174

Re: Feelings

Hey again. I'm not sure what you're looking for here: can you let me know what your question is?
by Heather
Wed Jan 18, 2023 10:45 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Talking about it
Replies: 1
Views: 116

Re: Talking about it

Hey there, Anonymous. My best advice is to do a couple of things: 1) Figure out what you want from sharing this with family members: making a small list may be helpful. 2) Figure out what you just can't handle or deal with from family members if you're disclosing: again, I'd make a list. 3) Look at ...
by Heather
Thu Jan 12, 2023 10:49 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Heavy bleeding after losing virginity
Replies: 9
Views: 435

Re: Heavy bleeding after losing virginity

I need to back up Carly here: this is a lot of bleeding, to the point that I'm not even sure how related to sex this was (save maybe something like a burst internal cyst because of some pressure on your abdomen). I think you need to go get healthcare -- and an ER might be better -- even thought this...
by Heather
Wed Jan 11, 2023 10:41 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Heavy bleeding after losing virginity
Replies: 9
Views: 435

Re: Heavy bleeding after losing virginity

Clotting generally isn't something that will happen with any kind of vaginal bleeding that isn't related to pregnancy or another major health issue. Even with menstruation, what people often think are clots are not, but instead blood mixed with discharge or endometrial tissue. Can you tell me if the...
by Heather
Mon Jan 09, 2023 3:23 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I don’t feel any sexual pleasure and can’t find my clitoris.
Replies: 7
Views: 709

Re: I don’t feel any sexual pleasure and can’t find my clitoris.

It's okay, it can be really hard to find words for this stuff! So, what I hear you saying is: a) You expect that engaging your genitals will increase how aroused you feel, and it has not done that. b) You don't feel what you expect something "sexual" to feel like. c) You feel sensations, b...
by Heather
Mon Jan 09, 2023 1:55 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I don’t feel any sexual pleasure and can’t find my clitoris.
Replies: 7
Views: 709

Re: I don’t feel any sexual pleasure and can’t find my clitoris.

Hi there. I think it's important to take your age into account. You are just, so barely just, at the beginning of a lifetime of sexuality, a lifetime of getting to know your own sexuality, your own body, all of it. Too, how people describe sex often isn't exactly accurate: it's pretty often elevated...
by Heather
Mon Jan 09, 2023 1:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: A question for Nicole and anybody else who wants to chime in.
Replies: 9
Views: 546

Re: A question for Nicole and anybody else who wants to chime in.

Glad it felt of benefit to you. There really is no right or wrong "number," I promise, and I also think we need to ask ourselves about a framework that even reduces people and our intimate experiences with them to a number, you know? This is the stuff of our hearts and minds and bodies and...
by Heather
Sun Jan 08, 2023 11:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: BF still friends with hook up
Replies: 3
Views: 227

Re: BF still friends with hook up

I'm so glad to have been of help! And now that I think about it again I wish I would’ve also said something along the lines: I feel uncomfortable with you or him showing physical affection towards each other in your bed. I am here for you and if you need me or crave attention or affection, I’ll be t...
by Heather
Sun Jan 08, 2023 11:34 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: A question for Nicole and anybody else who wants to chime in.
Replies: 9
Views: 546

Re: A question for Nicole and anybody else who wants to chime in.

You know, I don't really think of my sexual history as "so many partners," because the number of partners I have had feels right for me, not like "so many" or "not enough," you know? For sure, I think that I have a wider scope of people I can be attracted to than a lot ...
by Heather
Wed Jan 04, 2023 10:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't feel sexual pleasure.
Replies: 7
Views: 763

Re: I don't feel sexual pleasure.

I'm so sorry to hear that, Mantis. (And fellow Zoloft user here, if it helps to know that.) Can I ask how you feel when you start masturbating? What's the thing that sparks you to do it in the first place? Are you feeling a lot of desire when you do, or is it more like something you do out of habit ...
by Heather
Wed Jan 04, 2023 10:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: BF still friends with hook up
Replies: 3
Views: 227

Re: BF still friends with hook up

Hey there, xddeye. Welcome to the boards, and I'm glad that you found us and feel able to ask for help and support with this here. Your boyfriend is right, you aren't entitled to knowing all of his sexual history, but I also think you're right in that this particular thing is a) less historical than...

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