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by Heather
Tue Apr 20, 2021 9:25 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How effective is sperm/semen outside the body?
Replies: 12
Views: 268

Re: How effective is sperm/semen outside the body?

Yep, that works just the same as handwashing does. <3
by Heather
Wed Apr 14, 2021 11:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 18
Views: 252

Re: Exclusivity?

<3
by Heather
Tue Apr 13, 2021 12:00 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Higher sex drive causes?
Replies: 8
Views: 185

Re: Higher sex drive causes?

By the way, I just wanted to pop in and say one brief thing to kind of sum all this up which is to make clear that even the idea that there are "causes" for you having greater or more frequent desire than a partner is, itself, kind of a busted idea that probably comes from some misapprehen...
by Heather
Tue Apr 13, 2021 11:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Casual sex as a virgin
Replies: 9
Views: 224

Re: Casual sex as a virgin

I'm not sure I understand what you're asking for exactly! Can you be a little more clear about what it is you want resources for? What's the "this" that what folks have provided resources for so far haven't addressed? :)
by Heather
Tue Apr 13, 2021 10:16 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 18
Views: 252

Re: Exclusivity?

Always happy to support and help you.
by Heather
Mon Apr 12, 2021 1:04 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 18
Views: 252

Re: Exclusivity?

Exactly. Again, I think this is individual, but it's about figuring out where you are with your own pacing in terms of your emotional investment, and what you need to know when. At some point, we just gotta know things because there often comes a point where we need to know if we should (or want to)...
by Heather
Mon Apr 12, 2021 12:16 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 18
Views: 252

Re: Exclusivity?

Totally, and you you can also be specific about that sooner rather than later part, too. :) I certainly generally feel like -- for me, anyway -- that by about a couple months of dating, I will want to get a sense of where something is going per how it's going to fit in my life if I'm going to keep i...
by Heather
Mon Apr 12, 2021 11:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Exclusivity?
Replies: 18
Views: 252

Re: Exclusivity?

Hey there, glad to hear about this! Just wanted to add on a little something, which is that you also have the option of talking about exclusivity as something you ultimately want, but that -- so long as this is true -- you don't need right now if it's something he also wants, but isn't there yet. In...
by Heather
Thu Apr 08, 2021 1:58 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 19
Views: 5912

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

I, too, am long a member of the jumpsuit fan club. But on the whole, my enduring uniform that seems to stick around and make me feel comfortable in my skin over decades tends to be a white or black t-shirt and black jeans. A blazer or nice shirt over it if I need to be fancy, something silk under th...
by Heather
Thu Apr 08, 2021 1:55 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: How to make my breasts bigger? Please help!
Replies: 3
Views: 280

Re: How to make my breasts bigger? Please help!

Aside of building chest muscle underneath the breast tissue -- and for most folks, building muscle is always something supportive of health anyway -- no, there isn't. But something you CAN do is work to let go of the idea that there is such a thing as "embarrassingly small." Or that any gi...
by Heather
Tue Apr 06, 2021 1:39 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 6
Views: 446

Re: Clit problems

Most people don't have enough of a clitoral hood -- or more to the point, it's tethered to its attachment points in such a way -- to do what I think of when I think of "rolling" something back. Have you seen these vulva illustrations (just FYI, these are illustrations of vulvas) here: http...
by Heather
Tue Apr 06, 2021 1:09 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 6
Views: 446

Re: Clit problems

Btw, this is a fun zine that has a whole bunch of clitoris info in it including some more diagrams in case a different view than the ones ours give is helpful to you: https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B1ALo_wTWQmWbUtIRWh1NlNxX0Y4b21RUDVUQVF6NktJUXMw/view (Cheers to our friends at pussypedia.net for t...
by Heather
Tue Apr 06, 2021 1:07 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 6
Views: 446

Re: Clit problems

So, the hood of the clitoris isn't really something anyone generally needs to (or really can, not in any grand way, anyway) "lift up." It's not usually a whole lot bigger than the glans itself, which is to say, it's pretty small. Many people rub the glans through the hood because direct co...
by Heather
Mon Apr 05, 2021 8:20 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Excessive vaginal discharge
Replies: 5
Views: 545

Re: Excessive vaginal discharge

Just to be clear -- I just don't want that last post to cause worries -- what's most likely is that NOTHING is going on that's a problem if you're not finding that anything suggests a problem here, like a funky smell or a weird color. There's nothing abnormal or unhealthy about having very fluid dis...
by Heather
Thu Mar 25, 2021 2:28 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 401

Re: How do I ask...?

You're welcome.:)
by Heather
Thu Mar 25, 2021 11:43 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 401

Re: How do I ask...?

Well, I'd not think about this as not doing something you hate. I'd think about sexual choices as only doing things we enjoy. There really is no reason to do things we don't. Sex together is supposed to be about exploring the places we find mutual enjoyment, not about partners suffering through thin...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 3:31 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Break-up
Replies: 9
Views: 600

Re: Break-up

I’m so glad. Please feel free to spend as much time here as you like: I’m so glad we can be here for you!

I haven’t kelp up with how it’s been with the pandemic in Turkey. As bad as here in the states, or...?
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 2:27 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 401

Re: How do I ask...?

Just so you know, a lot of that -- deepthroating -- is more a set of expectations based on porn and other sexual entertainment than what what works for people and is mutually enjoyable for people in real life. Oral sex, like all kinds of sex between partners, is supposed to feel good for both people...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 2:19 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Break-up
Replies: 9
Views: 600

Re: Break-up

You're welcome. I absolutely think you made the right choice here. This relationship was not meeting your needs, you knew that, and you also knew it was not going to meet those needs. You're so clear on what you want and need -- that's so great, especially given how young you are, goodness, what I w...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 1:51 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Quarantine, and Gender
Replies: 2
Views: 200

Re: Quarantine, and Gender

I love what you've observed and are asking about here, Valerie. And I can really relate to some of what you're saying here. I've also had something extra in the mix during all of this, which is pandemic + late perimenopause, which combined have meant an array of body changes quite outside my control...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 1:28 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Break-up
Replies: 9
Views: 600

Re: Break-up

I can understand. I've both witnessed many relationships that started out very sexually/physically passionate fizzle out over time, and I've been in a couple of those myself. It can be very sad and painful. I also get that breakups in the middle of all this with the pandemic can feel extra awful. I ...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 12:36 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Break-up
Replies: 9
Views: 600

Re: Break-up

Hey there, Laura. It’s good to see you again, but I wish it was under different circumstances. I’m so sorry about the dissolution of your sexual relationship, your breakup, and how you’ve felt during both. It sounds like it’s been very disorienting, confusing and lonely. Shifts in sexual orientation...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 7:43 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Took my Yasmin pill late
Replies: 1
Views: 86

Re: Took my Yasmin pill late

Hey there. :) With combined oral contraceptives, you ha e a 24 hour grace period before a pill is missed and a 12 hour grace period before it’s considered late. You weren’t outside either. That said, combining pills and condoms as a regular practice — not just when you think you’ve messed up with th...
by Heather
Mon Mar 22, 2021 1:44 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating again
Replies: 3
Views: 250

Re: Masturbating again

Sure thing. :)
by Heather
Mon Mar 22, 2021 12:37 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating again
Replies: 3
Views: 250

Re: Masturbating again

The thing about orgasm is that it doesn't always happen: it's not a guarantee, and it's not something we can make happen every time by doing the same things that make it happen sometimes. Going without sex or masturbation isn't something that generally makes it harder for people to reach orgasm, no....

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