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by Heather
Thu Apr 08, 2021 1:58 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 19
Views: 5750

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

I, too, am long a member of the jumpsuit fan club. But on the whole, my enduring uniform that seems to stick around and make me feel comfortable in my skin over decades tends to be a white or black t-shirt and black jeans. A blazer or nice shirt over it if I need to be fancy, something silk under th...
by Heather
Thu Apr 08, 2021 1:55 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: How to make my breasts bigger? Please help!
Replies: 1
Views: 42

Re: How to make my breasts bigger? Please help!

Aside of building chest muscle underneath the breast tissue -- and for most folks, building muscle is always something supportive of health anyway -- no, there isn't. But something you CAN do is work to let go of the idea that there is such a thing as "embarrassingly small." Or that any gi...
by Heather
Tue Apr 06, 2021 1:39 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 6
Views: 170

Re: Clit problems

Most people don't have enough of a clitoral hood -- or more to the point, it's tethered to its attachment points in such a way -- to do what I think of when I think of "rolling" something back. Have you seen these vulva illustrations (just FYI, these are illustrations of vulvas) here: http...
by Heather
Tue Apr 06, 2021 1:09 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 6
Views: 170

Re: Clit problems

Btw, this is a fun zine that has a whole bunch of clitoris info in it including some more diagrams in case a different view than the ones ours give is helpful to you: https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B1ALo_wTWQmWbUtIRWh1NlNxX0Y4b21RUDVUQVF6NktJUXMw/view (Cheers to our friends at pussypedia.net for t...
by Heather
Tue Apr 06, 2021 1:07 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Clit problems
Replies: 6
Views: 170

Re: Clit problems

So, the hood of the clitoris isn't really something anyone generally needs to (or really can, not in any grand way, anyway) "lift up." It's not usually a whole lot bigger than the glans itself, which is to say, it's pretty small. Many people rub the glans through the hood because direct co...
by Heather
Mon Apr 05, 2021 8:20 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Excessive vaginal discharge
Replies: 5
Views: 323

Re: Excessive vaginal discharge

Just to be clear -- I just don't want that last post to cause worries -- what's most likely is that NOTHING is going on that's a problem if you're not finding that anything suggests a problem here, like a funky smell or a weird color. There's nothing abnormal or unhealthy about having very fluid dis...
by Heather
Thu Mar 25, 2021 2:28 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 342

Re: How do I ask...?

You're welcome.:)
by Heather
Thu Mar 25, 2021 11:43 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 342

Re: How do I ask...?

Well, I'd not think about this as not doing something you hate. I'd think about sexual choices as only doing things we enjoy. There really is no reason to do things we don't. Sex together is supposed to be about exploring the places we find mutual enjoyment, not about partners suffering through thin...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 3:31 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Break-up
Replies: 9
Views: 438

Re: Break-up

I’m so glad. Please feel free to spend as much time here as you like: I’m so glad we can be here for you!

I haven’t kelp up with how it’s been with the pandemic in Turkey. As bad as here in the states, or...?
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 2:27 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: How do I ask...?
Replies: 13
Views: 342

Re: How do I ask...?

Just so you know, a lot of that -- deepthroating -- is more a set of expectations based on porn and other sexual entertainment than what what works for people and is mutually enjoyable for people in real life. Oral sex, like all kinds of sex between partners, is supposed to feel good for both people...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 2:19 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Break-up
Replies: 9
Views: 438

Re: Break-up

You're welcome. I absolutely think you made the right choice here. This relationship was not meeting your needs, you knew that, and you also knew it was not going to meet those needs. You're so clear on what you want and need -- that's so great, especially given how young you are, goodness, what I w...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 1:51 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Quarantine, and Gender
Replies: 2
Views: 159

Re: Quarantine, and Gender

I love what you've observed and are asking about here, Valerie. And I can really relate to some of what you're saying here. I've also had something extra in the mix during all of this, which is pandemic + late perimenopause, which combined have meant an array of body changes quite outside my control...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 1:28 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Break-up
Replies: 9
Views: 438

Re: Break-up

I can understand. I've both witnessed many relationships that started out very sexually/physically passionate fizzle out over time, and I've been in a couple of those myself. It can be very sad and painful. I also get that breakups in the middle of all this with the pandemic can feel extra awful. I ...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 12:36 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Break-up
Replies: 9
Views: 438

Re: Break-up

Hey there, Laura. It’s good to see you again, but I wish it was under different circumstances. I’m so sorry about the dissolution of your sexual relationship, your breakup, and how you’ve felt during both. It sounds like it’s been very disorienting, confusing and lonely. Shifts in sexual orientation...
by Heather
Wed Mar 24, 2021 7:43 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Took my Yasmin pill late
Replies: 1
Views: 61

Re: Took my Yasmin pill late

Hey there. :) With combined oral contraceptives, you ha e a 24 hour grace period before a pill is missed and a 12 hour grace period before it’s considered late. You weren’t outside either. That said, combining pills and condoms as a regular practice — not just when you think you’ve messed up with th...
by Heather
Mon Mar 22, 2021 1:44 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating again
Replies: 3
Views: 172

Re: Masturbating again

Sure thing. :)
by Heather
Mon Mar 22, 2021 12:37 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Masturbating again
Replies: 3
Views: 172

Re: Masturbating again

The thing about orgasm is that it doesn't always happen: it's not a guarantee, and it's not something we can make happen every time by doing the same things that make it happen sometimes. Going without sex or masturbation isn't something that generally makes it harder for people to reach orgasm, no....
by Heather
Fri Mar 19, 2021 10:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: some clarification
Replies: 6
Views: 252

Re: some clarification

Have you looked at any of these resources yet, Miguel? Some are free!

http://www.scarleteen.com/anxiety_and_o ... _resources
by Heather
Fri Mar 19, 2021 8:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: some clarification
Replies: 6
Views: 252

Re: some clarification

Hey there, Miguel. We’ve answered these questions for you already and already provided you links to more in-depth information. We’ve also already been clear about our limits with these kinds of questions and reassurance-seeking. What are you doing to help you manage this kind of anxiety when it come...
by Heather
Fri Mar 19, 2021 6:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Worries
Replies: 5
Views: 607

Re: Worries

Maybe you need to cut him loose with this fear and let him manage it himself? After all, it’s not like HE would be the one pregnant here, and YOU are the one now having to bear the physical burden of extra (and unnecessary, as there was nothing your pill wasn’t already doing that Plan B could add sa...
by Heather
Thu Mar 18, 2021 12:00 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: About Shaving
Replies: 4
Views: 820

Re: About Shaving

I do just want to add that one thing pubic hair does is help keep bacteria *out* of the vestibule and internal genitalia. That doesn't mean it isn't okay to trim or remove pubic hair if that's what you want to do, it's just to say that doing so actually doesn't the opposite of keeping it "clean...
by Heather
Thu Mar 18, 2021 11:13 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?
Replies: 17
Views: 951

Re: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?

If we've been raised to believe that we're responsible for someone else's feelings, it's hard to see that. It sounds like your mother absolutely doesn't mean to do you harm, but she very clearly has her own work to do on whatever has her stuck in this emotional spot and keeps her creating her part o...
by Heather
Wed Mar 17, 2021 12:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: ex
Replies: 1
Views: 406

Re: ex

Hey there, samrolets.

Can I ask about how things ended with the two of you? When they did or since, did she set any limits or boundaries about pursuing that kind of relationship with her again?
by Heather
Wed Mar 17, 2021 12:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Confusion regarding pre cum when a guy is aroused
Replies: 9
Views: 657

Re: Confusion regarding pre cum when a guy is aroused

I get it! It just doesn't work that way, period, because pregnancy isn't like an infection, where someone's body just needs to be introduced to the germ. Rather, sperm cells are only one *part* of the whole process, and only one of several factors essential for pregnancy. They also can't go anywhere...
by Heather
Wed Mar 17, 2021 10:48 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex
Replies: 11
Views: 774

Re: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex

Hey there, CatHaru. Are you both up to date with your basic sexual healthcare, especially if you haven't been stringent about barrier use for all the sexual activities where STI transmission can occur? That isn't to say that must be what this is about, but it's one possibility, so I want to be sure ...

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