Yep, that works just the same as handwashing does. <3

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By the way, I just wanted to pop in and say one brief thing to kind of sum all this up which is to make clear that even the idea that there are "causes" for you having greater or more frequent desire than a partner is, itself, kind of a busted idea that probably comes from some misapprehen...

I'm not sure I understand what you're asking for exactly! Can you be a little more clear about what it is you want resources for? What's the "this" that what folks have provided resources for so far haven't addressed?

Always happy to support and help you.

Exactly. Again, I think this is individual, but it's about figuring out where you are with your own pacing in terms of your emotional investment, and what you need to know when. At some point, we just gotta know things because there often comes a point where we need to know if we should (or want to)...

Totally, and you you can also be specific about that sooner rather than later part, too. :) I certainly generally feel like -- for me, anyway -- that by about a couple months of dating, I will want to get a sense of where something is going per how it's going to fit in my life if I'm going to keep i...

Hey there, glad to hear about this! Just wanted to add on a little something, which is that you also have the option of talking about exclusivity as something you ultimately want, but that -- so long as this is true -- you don't need right now if it's something he also wants, but isn't there yet. In...

I, too, am long a member of the jumpsuit fan club. But on the whole, my enduring uniform that seems to stick around and make me feel comfortable in my skin over decades tends to be a white or black t-shirt and black jeans. A blazer or nice shirt over it if I need to be fancy, something silk under th...

Aside of building chest muscle underneath the breast tissue -- and for most folks, building muscle is always something supportive of health anyway -- no, there isn't. But something you CAN do is work to let go of the idea that there is such a thing as "embarrassingly small." Or that any gi...

Most people don't have enough of a clitoral hood -- or more to the point, it's tethered to its attachment points in such a way -- to do what I think of when I think of "rolling" something back. Have you seen these vulva illustrations (just FYI, these are illustrations of vulvas) here: http...

Btw, this is a fun zine that has a whole bunch of clitoris info in it including some more diagrams in case a different view than the ones ours give is helpful to you: https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B1ALo_wTWQmWbUtIRWh1NlNxX0Y4b21RUDVUQVF6NktJUXMw/view (Cheers to our friends at pussypedia.net for t...

So, the hood of the clitoris isn't really something anyone generally needs to (or really can, not in any grand way, anyway) "lift up." It's not usually a whole lot bigger than the glans itself, which is to say, it's pretty small. Many people rub the glans through the hood because direct co...

Just to be clear -- I just don't want that last post to cause worries -- what's most likely is that NOTHING is going on that's a problem if you're not finding that anything suggests a problem here, like a funky smell or a weird color. There's nothing abnormal or unhealthy about having very fluid dis...

You're welcome.

Well, I'd not think about this as not doing something you hate. I'd think about sexual choices as only doing things we enjoy. There really is no reason to do things we don't. Sex together is supposed to be about exploring the places we find mutual enjoyment, not about partners suffering through thin...

I’m so glad. Please feel free to spend as much time here as you like: I’m so glad we can be here for you!

I haven’t kelp up with how it’s been with the pandemic in Turkey. As bad as here in the states, or...?

Just so you know, a lot of that -- deepthroating -- is more a set of expectations based on porn and other sexual entertainment than what what works for people and is mutually enjoyable for people in real life. Oral sex, like all kinds of sex between partners, is supposed to feel good for both people...

You're welcome. I absolutely think you made the right choice here. This relationship was not meeting your needs, you knew that, and you also knew it was not going to meet those needs. You're so clear on what you want and need -- that's so great, especially given how young you are, goodness, what I w...

I love what you've observed and are asking about here, Valerie. And I can really relate to some of what you're saying here. I've also had something extra in the mix during all of this, which is pandemic + late perimenopause, which combined have meant an array of body changes quite outside my control...

I can understand. I've both witnessed many relationships that started out very sexually/physically passionate fizzle out over time, and I've been in a couple of those myself. It can be very sad and painful. I also get that breakups in the middle of all this with the pandemic can feel extra awful. I ...

Hey there, Laura. It’s good to see you again, but I wish it was under different circumstances. I’m so sorry about the dissolution of your sexual relationship, your breakup, and how you’ve felt during both. It sounds like it’s been very disorienting, confusing and lonely. Shifts in sexual orientation...

Hey there. :) With combined oral contraceptives, you ha e a 24 hour grace period before a pill is missed and a 12 hour grace period before it’s considered late. You weren’t outside either. That said, combining pills and condoms as a regular practice — not just when you think you’ve messed up with th...

Sure thing.

The thing about orgasm is that it doesn't always happen: it's not a guarantee, and it's not something we can make happen every time by doing the same things that make it happen sometimes. Going without sex or masturbation isn't something that generally makes it harder for people to reach orgasm, no....