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by Heather
Sun Aug 07, 2022 2:13 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 51
Views: 10035

Re: Accepting my sexuality

I feel more able today to respond to the second half of your post here than I do the first, because I have some catching up to do on some of your past posting. Hopefully half a response will be of use. Honestly, the attitude that women shouldn't go anywhere alone, for ANY reason, is sexist, plain an...
by Heather
Thu Aug 04, 2022 12:00 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question about periods
Replies: 1
Views: 75

Re: Question about periods

It's common to have changes in cycles through all of life, and certainly for them to be more common or frequent during certain times of life (and these kinds of changes in the teens and 20s are particularly common). In the situation you're in -- and my sympathies, I know too how hard is is to go to ...
by Heather
Wed Aug 03, 2022 3:39 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How is this possible?
Replies: 1
Views: 58

Re: How is this possible?

Hey there. So, there are a few possibilities here. One biggie is that she had or has Trich herself, and it wasn't tested for or found in her last tests, and that's where you picked it up. That could have happened recently or when you were together before. Trich is often asymptomatic, and it's extra ...
by Heather
Mon Jul 18, 2022 2:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Exploring sexuality during prolactinoma treatment
Replies: 5
Views: 275

Re: Exploring sexuality during prolactinoma treatment

Happy to help. I also didn't note your age until after I posted: I am so sorry you have had to wait so long for your diagnosis and treatment!
by Heather
Sun Jul 17, 2022 12:15 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Relationship
Replies: 9
Views: 202

Re: Relationship

I'm so glad I could help. I hope that this goes well for you both, it sounds like you care a lot about each other. You know where to find us if and when you want any help or support again. :)
by Heather
Sun Jul 17, 2022 12:07 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Relationship
Replies: 9
Views: 202

Re: Relationship

That sounds good to me, save that I would encourage you to frame it as an ask. "Could you..." or "might you be able to" for example, rather than "what would help." The former framings will help support her in feeling like she has a choice, and that if some or any of wha...
by Heather
Sun Jul 17, 2022 11:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Relationship
Replies: 9
Views: 202

Re: Relationship

Those things all sound like totally fair asks to me. She can of course say no if she doesn't feel able to do them, but there's nothing outrageous about these asks. Too, when someone says they don't know what to do like this, sometimes what they actually need are very specific asks like this. So, it ...
by Heather
Sun Jul 17, 2022 11:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Relationship
Replies: 9
Views: 202

Re: Relationship

Thanks for this, that's helpful. When you say that you were having a breakdown, do you mean a really big psychological breakdown or some other kind of giant upset? I ask because if so, it's actually pretty common for most people not to know how to handle that and to shut down around it. Sometimes, t...
by Heather
Sun Jul 17, 2022 11:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Relationship
Replies: 9
Views: 202

Re: Relationship

Hey there, thanks for moving this to the boards.

Before I say much else, have you two ever had a talk -- at a time neither of you was in crisis or upset -- about this kind of support/communication mismatch? If so, how did it go? If not, are you open to trying to have that kind of talk with her?
by Heather
Sun Jul 17, 2022 11:22 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Exploring sexuality during prolactinoma treatment
Replies: 5
Views: 275

Re: Exploring sexuality during prolactinoma treatment

So, here's what I have from my partner for you just so you can see what someone would share who uses the exact same medication (and has now for two and a half decades or so), with the exact same condition, etc: Diagnosed at 25, I had elevated prolactin since probably around 17-18. At diagnosis, My p...
by Heather
Sun Jul 17, 2022 11:14 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: could my mum have found something?
Replies: 5
Views: 187

Re: could my mum have found something?

Hi there. I wonder if the best way to try and manage your feelings with this has more to do with learning how to accept that your mother (or other people) will make judgments about any number of things, and finding ways to just accept that, than trying to figure out if she would have feelings about ...
by Heather
Sun Jul 17, 2022 11:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anxiety about pregnancy (Am I pregnant?)
Replies: 1
Views: 267

Re: Anxiety about pregnancy (Am I pregnant?)

Hi there. Any time anyone has genital intercourse, there is some level of pregnancy risk, even when methods of contraception, like condoms, are used perfectly, and more so if they aren't. At the same time, stress can also delay periods. But since you're saying your period is late, you can go ahead a...
by Heather
Sun Jul 17, 2022 11:02 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Exploring sexuality during prolactinoma treatment
Replies: 5
Views: 275

Re: Exploring sexuality during prolactinoma treatment

Hey there, James. I am happy to talk with you about this, but I first want to hear what advice my partner -- who went through this same thing themselves, including not knowing for a while and having sexual impacts they didn't know were from the tumor -- would have to share, since they have been thou...
by Heather
Wed Jul 13, 2022 10:50 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I thought I was Trans but am I? Have I been faking it?
Replies: 3
Views: 376

Re: I thought I was Trans but am I? Have I been faking it?

Hey there, wo5, and welcome to the boards. Before I dig into who you might be, I want to talk for a second about your boyfriend. It's really not okay for a partner to say what he has said to you like this. By all means, in some long-established trans couples, some partners of trans people have a who...
by Heather
Sun Jul 10, 2022 5:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sorry this is long
Replies: 11
Views: 482

Re: Sorry this is long

Hey there. I am so sorry to hear about this and how you’re feeling. I don’t have the ability right now to give this the attention it needs, I was just checking on the boards while off. But I wanted to post to let you know if another staff member doesn’t get to this tonight or before me tomorrow, thi...
by Heather
Thu Jul 07, 2022 1:22 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual arousal
Replies: 5
Views: 3360

Re: Sexual arousal

Hi again, Bubblegumkid. I'm wondering if you can perhaps fill me in some on what happened with you two, and your decisionmaking process, since your last post around the end of December, here: https://www.scarleteen.com/bb/viewtopic.php?p=59712#p59712 One of the reasons that I ask is that it sounds t...
by Heather
Wed Jul 06, 2022 9:17 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: I can’t find my clit
Replies: 7
Views: 4760

Re: I can’t find my clit

Hey there, brii. Honestly, I think that for right now, focusing on where the external portions of your clitoris are and trying to find them (and we can help with that finding more if you want) might be besides the point, from the sounds of things. What sounds most likely to me is that what you're ex...
by Heather
Sun Jul 03, 2022 1:39 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 51
Views: 10035

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hi again. I'm just running out for the day, but I can at least speak to your second paragraph here. So, something very real is that people with depression or other mood issues often find that certain times in their cycles, or that their cycles, altogether, have impacts on their moods, and can amplif...
by Heather
Sun Jul 03, 2022 1:32 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 53
Views: 11079

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

Hey there, you. :). It's always nice to see you here. To me, these ways of thinking about masturbation sounds like you're dealing with having internalized some of the messages about masturbation in our overarching culture. For instance, like the framing of masturbation as something lesser or seconda...
by Heather
Sun Jul 03, 2022 1:27 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Feminism & healthy gender identity
Replies: 1
Views: 3982

Re: Feminism & healthy gender identity

These are awesome questions and observations. Welcome to the boards! I'm happy to pick this up and start talking about it with you. When I take in what you have said here, one thing that a lot of this sounds very informed by for me are heterocentric and binary ideas about people, and especially abou...
by Heather
Sun Jul 03, 2022 9:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm so sorry
Replies: 2
Views: 3358

Re: I'm so sorry

Hey there. So, we can — and honestly, it’s outside what we do here anyway, save affirming for you that wrinkles and aging are inevitable and nothing anyone needs to freak out about or try and avoid — but please do let this be the last time you ask us for this, okay? You truly are anonymous here, and...
by Heather
Sun Jun 26, 2022 12:49 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 51
Views: 10035

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Glad to help you with it. <3
by Heather
Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: question regarding female ejaculation
Replies: 3
Views: 1186

Re: question regarding female ejaculation

We actually have a lot more agreement and information than we used to on this. That said, in general, ejaculation from folks with a vulva tends to be clear and thin, and does tend to come from the urethra, not the vagina. It also will tend to be something where you know and feel when it happens, rat...
by Heather
Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:33 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 51
Views: 10035

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hey there. Just wanted to let you know that I'm around today if you want to talk. :)

I am also going to set a limit here with you that I think will be good for you: can we agree to you not engaging in any more negative self-talk here, like saying you aren't a good person?
by Heather
Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:31 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Grounding Techniques!
Replies: 3
Views: 3736

Re: Grounding Techniques!

I love this question and topic, especially right now. Above and beyond all else, I get myself outside, in contact with some kind of nature, even when the best I can do is to get outside in the city and get some fresh air and a tiny bit of green. Taking care of my plants inside can also be a way for ...

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