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- by Heather
- Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:49 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: question regarding female ejaculation
- Replies: 3
- Views: 121
We actually have a lot more agreement and information than we used to on this. That said, in general, ejaculation from folks with a vulva tends to be clear and thin, and does tend to come from the urethra, not the vagina. It also will tend to be something where you know and feel when it happens, rat...
- by Heather
- Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:33 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: Accepting my sexuality
- Replies: 24
- Views: 657
Hey there. Just wanted to let you know that I'm around today if you want to talk.
I am also going to set a limit here with you that I think will be good for you: can we agree to you not engaging in any more negative self-talk here, like saying you aren't a good person?
- by Heather
- Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:31 am
- Forum: Supporting Each Other
- Topic: Grounding Techniques!
- Replies: 2
- Views: 113
I love this question and topic, especially right now. Above and beyond all else, I get myself outside, in contact with some kind of nature, even when the best I can do is to get outside in the city and get some fresh air and a tiny bit of green. Taking care of my plants inside can also be a way for ...
- by Heather
- Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:27 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: Despising the feeling of masturbation; is this normal?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 133
Hi there, Nonnie, and welcome to the boards. :) I wonder if you won't mind being a little more specific, so I can be sure I understand the situation here. Masturbation is ultimately just any way of touching our bodies -- any parts of them, not just our genitals, or specific parts of our genitals -- ...
- by Heather
- Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:23 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Unsure if I’m ready for intimacy
- Replies: 9
- Views: 161
Hi there, and welcome to the boards. It sounds to me like what's going on here is that since your last relationship, you may have learned to both pay better attention to your own feelings about all this and that you feel more able to communicate them to a partner. Those are both very, very good thin...
- by Heather
- Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:17 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: I (male) have a crush on a lesbian and i don't know what to do with it
- Replies: 3
- Views: 134
Hey there, Sam. You know, in these kinds of situations, I actually prefer to think about it as the person just not sharing the same kind of interest in you as you do for them. Whether that's because you're not a member of a group they are generally or most attracted to/want to date or some other rea...
- by Heather
- Tue Jun 14, 2022 1:21 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
- Replies: 50
- Views: 3897
I hear this. I'm sorry that you're having big, sad FOMO feelings. And for sure, Pride month is an extra crummy month to have a breakup in. Have been there: it blows. I think it might help to remember how many *other* people also bring the kinds of things with themselves to a relationship that you do...
- by Heather
- Tue Jun 14, 2022 1:15 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: Accepting my sexuality
- Replies: 24
- Views: 657
Hey there. I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing more distress. I'm not sure what you mean by parent-proof. Can you say a little more? Can I also ask if you have been able to set some limits and boundaries with your parents around any of this, like we've talked about in the past? Just trying to...
- by Heather
- Tue Jun 14, 2022 1:13 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: question
- Replies: 1
- Views: 181
Hey there, aaru. Sorry to hear you have found yourself worrying about pregnancy again. I know you know our policy on these kinds of posts from having seen it before, but I'm going to post it again for you in case you want to access any of the links included in it to answer these questions for yourse...
- by Heather
- Tue Jun 14, 2022 11:42 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Losing virginity
- Replies: 15
- Views: 481
You know, without warning and/or lubrication and wantedness, someone very quickly and intensely pushing something (like a penis) into a vaginal opening can cause injury. It's certainly not surprising that it hurt (this kind of slip tends to), and bleeding from this kind of injury, if you sustained o...
- by Heather
- Sun Jun 12, 2022 12:21 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Is it too soon to ask my friend if they want to date?
- Replies: 11
- Views: 286
To progress from meeting someone to deciding you want to try dating them in a week isn’t weird or red-flaggy. I think if you just make clear to your parents this direction is something you want to pursue, rather than, you know, calling this person your forever-one-and-only, it’ll all be good.

- by Heather
- Sun Jun 12, 2022 9:09 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Is it too soon to ask my friend if they want to date?
- Replies: 11
- Views: 286
Sounds good! Personally, I think being honest with parents is best when someone isn’t at risk of abuse. Sneaking around can always make an otherwise good thing feel or go bad, you know? Obviously, the quality of your relationship with your parents, or trust built there, is also at risk without hones...
- by Heather
- Sat Jun 11, 2022 2:58 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: How do I have a good relationship with sex?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 231
I'm glad to help. I'm happy to keep having more conversation about this if you want, and if you feel good at this point, you know where to find us if and when you want more help.

- by Heather
- Sat Jun 11, 2022 2:57 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Is it too soon to ask my friend if they want to date?
- Replies: 11
- Views: 286
Hey, Oliver, welcome to the boards. :) It sounds like you have something really sweet and cool going on with S so far: that's so great! It also sounds like part of that is that you've both been initiating things the other also wanted. I'd say you want to bring that same vibe to this -- like, you hon...
- by Heather
- Fri Jun 10, 2022 2:21 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I don't know if i had consensual sex.
- Replies: 2
- Views: 217
Hi again. I'm glad that you trusted us enough to share this. This is a lot to carry, especially if you've been carrying it all by yourself, without any kind of support or help. I'm so sorry that you experienced this. You say a lot here to put the responsibility for this on yourself, and to suggest t...
- by Heather
- Fri Jun 10, 2022 2:10 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: How do I have a good relationship with sex?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 231
Hey there. Welcome to the boards. Let's see if we can't get some talking happen that can help you out here. First up, I want to let you know that it's very common for people's sexual fantasies to both not be anything they would actually want to do, or even ever do, IRL, and for sexual fantasy to not...
- by Heather
- Thu Jun 09, 2022 2:39 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Question
- Replies: 3
- Views: 227
Okay! So, unless you're also sexual with any partners, or have been since the last time you had STI testing, there isn't likely a need for follow-up with a healthcare provider unless that's something you just want to do. It's always okay to just have checkups about things we are worried about if you...
- by Heather
- Wed Jun 08, 2022 2:07 pm
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: Queer affirming therapist
- Replies: 7
- Views: 1877
Hey there, Raffles. Rather than kind of trying to game this second issue, what I would suggest is that you tell the psychologist what you have told us here. I would tell them about your concerns in terms of the focus, and let them speak to their ability to focus on your reading. You then will get to...
- by Heather
- Mon Jun 06, 2022 8:33 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Sapphic but have sexual fantasies with men?
- Replies: 2
- Views: 158
Welcome to the boards, LiquidYarn. We're glad you found us, too! The biggest sentence in this that stood out to me was this one: I only see women partners though I can't imagine what sex between AfAB would look like. It's really hard to fantasize about what we can't actually imagine, and given the h...
- by Heather
- Mon Jun 06, 2022 8:33 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Sapphic but have sexual fantasies with men?
- Replies: 2
- Views: 158
Welcome to the boards, LiquidYarn. We're glad you found us, too! The biggest sentence in this that stood out to me was this one: I only see women partners though I can't imagine what sex between AfAB would look like. It's really hard to fantasize about what we can't actually imagine, and given the h...
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