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by Heather
Sun Jun 26, 2022 12:49 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 24
Views: 657

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Glad to help you with it. <3
by Heather
Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:49 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: question regarding female ejaculation
Replies: 3
Views: 121

Re: question regarding female ejaculation

We actually have a lot more agreement and information than we used to on this. That said, in general, ejaculation from folks with a vulva tends to be clear and thin, and does tend to come from the urethra, not the vagina. It also will tend to be something where you know and feel when it happens, rat...
by Heather
Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:33 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 24
Views: 657

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hey there. Just wanted to let you know that I'm around today if you want to talk. :)

I am also going to set a limit here with you that I think will be good for you: can we agree to you not engaging in any more negative self-talk here, like saying you aren't a good person?
by Heather
Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:31 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Grounding Techniques!
Replies: 2
Views: 113

Re: Grounding Techniques!

I love this question and topic, especially right now. Above and beyond all else, I get myself outside, in contact with some kind of nature, even when the best I can do is to get outside in the city and get some fresh air and a tiny bit of green. Taking care of my plants inside can also be a way for ...
by Heather
Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:27 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Despising the feeling of masturbation; is this normal?
Replies: 5
Views: 133

Re: Despising the feeling of masturbation; is this normal?

Hi there, Nonnie, and welcome to the boards. :) I wonder if you won't mind being a little more specific, so I can be sure I understand the situation here. Masturbation is ultimately just any way of touching our bodies -- any parts of them, not just our genitals, or specific parts of our genitals -- ...
by Heather
Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:23 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unsure if I’m ready for intimacy
Replies: 9
Views: 161

Re: Unsure if I’m ready for intimacy

Hi there, and welcome to the boards. It sounds to me like what's going on here is that since your last relationship, you may have learned to both pay better attention to your own feelings about all this and that you feel more able to communicate them to a partner. Those are both very, very good thin...
by Heather
Sun Jun 26, 2022 10:17 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I (male) have a crush on a lesbian and i don't know what to do with it
Replies: 3
Views: 134

Re: I (male) have a crush on a lesbian and i don't know what to do with it

Hey there, Sam. You know, in these kinds of situations, I actually prefer to think about it as the person just not sharing the same kind of interest in you as you do for them. Whether that's because you're not a member of a group they are generally or most attracted to/want to date or some other rea...
by Heather
Tue Jun 14, 2022 1:21 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Reconnecting With Someone
Replies: 50
Views: 3897

Re: Reconnecting With Someone

I hear this. I'm sorry that you're having big, sad FOMO feelings. And for sure, Pride month is an extra crummy month to have a breakup in. Have been there: it blows. I think it might help to remember how many *other* people also bring the kinds of things with themselves to a relationship that you do...
by Heather
Tue Jun 14, 2022 1:15 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 24
Views: 657

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hey there. I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing more distress. I'm not sure what you mean by parent-proof. Can you say a little more? Can I also ask if you have been able to set some limits and boundaries with your parents around any of this, like we've talked about in the past? Just trying to...
by Heather
Tue Jun 14, 2022 1:13 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: question
Replies: 1
Views: 181

Re: question

Hey there, aaru. Sorry to hear you have found yourself worrying about pregnancy again. I know you know our policy on these kinds of posts from having seen it before, but I'm going to post it again for you in case you want to access any of the links included in it to answer these questions for yourse...
by Heather
Tue Jun 14, 2022 11:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Losing virginity
Replies: 15
Views: 481

Re: Losing virginity

You know, without warning and/or lubrication and wantedness, someone very quickly and intensely pushing something (like a penis) into a vaginal opening can cause injury. It's certainly not surprising that it hurt (this kind of slip tends to), and bleeding from this kind of injury, if you sustained o...
by Heather
Mon Jun 13, 2022 11:58 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is it too soon to ask my friend if they want to date?
Replies: 11
Views: 286

Re: Is it too soon to ask my friend if they want to date?

It's an avalanche of awesome! That's all fantastic!
by Heather
Sun Jun 12, 2022 12:21 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is it too soon to ask my friend if they want to date?
Replies: 11
Views: 286

Re: Is it too soon to ask my friend if they want to date?

To progress from meeting someone to deciding you want to try dating them in a week isn’t weird or red-flaggy. I think if you just make clear to your parents this direction is something you want to pursue, rather than, you know, calling this person your forever-one-and-only, it’ll all be good. :)
by Heather
Sun Jun 12, 2022 9:09 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is it too soon to ask my friend if they want to date?
Replies: 11
Views: 286

Re: Is it too soon to ask my friend if they want to date?

Sounds good! Personally, I think being honest with parents is best when someone isn’t at risk of abuse. Sneaking around can always make an otherwise good thing feel or go bad, you know? Obviously, the quality of your relationship with your parents, or trust built there, is also at risk without hones...
by Heather
Sun Jun 12, 2022 8:53 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is it too soon to ask my friend if they want to date?
Replies: 11
Views: 286

Re: Is it too soon to ask my friend if they want to date?

Glad to help! It’s great you’re so clear on what you want.

How do you feel about talking to them about this? Can I help you with that from here?
by Heather
Sun Jun 12, 2022 8:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Condom broke but noticed after 10 seconds. GF is not scared and does not think plan B is necessary.
Replies: 1
Views: 187

Re: Condom broke but noticed after 10 seconds. GF is not scared and does not think plan B is necessary.

Hey there. So, it sounds to me like you have done everything you could do here already. Plan B was an option, but it seems clear she doesn’t want to use it. All you can do now is be supportive, take care of yourselves, and wait until she can test or gets a period. I think it’s great you recognize th...
by Heather
Sat Jun 11, 2022 2:58 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I have a good relationship with sex?
Replies: 3
Views: 231

Re: How do I have a good relationship with sex?

I'm glad to help. I'm happy to keep having more conversation about this if you want, and if you feel good at this point, you know where to find us if and when you want more help. :)
by Heather
Sat Jun 11, 2022 2:57 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is it too soon to ask my friend if they want to date?
Replies: 11
Views: 286

Re: Is it too soon to ask my friend if they want to date?

Hey, Oliver, welcome to the boards. :) It sounds like you have something really sweet and cool going on with S so far: that's so great! It also sounds like part of that is that you've both been initiating things the other also wanted. I'd say you want to bring that same vibe to this -- like, you hon...
by Heather
Fri Jun 10, 2022 2:21 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I don't know if i had consensual sex.
Replies: 2
Views: 217

Re: I don't know if i had consensual sex.

Hi again. I'm glad that you trusted us enough to share this. This is a lot to carry, especially if you've been carrying it all by yourself, without any kind of support or help. I'm so sorry that you experienced this. You say a lot here to put the responsibility for this on yourself, and to suggest t...
by Heather
Fri Jun 10, 2022 2:10 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How do I have a good relationship with sex?
Replies: 3
Views: 231

Re: How do I have a good relationship with sex?

Hey there. Welcome to the boards. Let's see if we can't get some talking happen that can help you out here. First up, I want to let you know that it's very common for people's sexual fantasies to both not be anything they would actually want to do, or even ever do, IRL, and for sexual fantasy to not...
by Heather
Thu Jun 09, 2022 2:39 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question
Replies: 3
Views: 227

Re: Question

Okay! So, unless you're also sexual with any partners, or have been since the last time you had STI testing, there isn't likely a need for follow-up with a healthcare provider unless that's something you just want to do. It's always okay to just have checkups about things we are worried about if you...
by Heather
Wed Jun 08, 2022 2:07 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Queer affirming therapist
Replies: 7
Views: 1877

Re: Queer affirming therapist

Hey there, Raffles. Rather than kind of trying to game this second issue, what I would suggest is that you tell the psychologist what you have told us here. I would tell them about your concerns in terms of the focus, and let them speak to their ability to focus on your reading. You then will get to...
by Heather
Mon Jun 06, 2022 8:33 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Sapphic but have sexual fantasies with men?
Replies: 2
Views: 158

Re: Sapphic but have sexual fantasies with men?

Welcome to the boards, LiquidYarn. We're glad you found us, too! The biggest sentence in this that stood out to me was this one: I only see women partners though I can't imagine what sex between AfAB would look like. It's really hard to fantasize about what we can't actually imagine, and given the h...
by Heather
Mon Jun 06, 2022 8:33 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Sapphic but have sexual fantasies with men?
Replies: 2
Views: 158

Re: Sapphic but have sexual fantasies with men?

Welcome to the boards, LiquidYarn. We're glad you found us, too! The biggest sentence in this that stood out to me was this one: I only see women partners though I can't imagine what sex between AfAB would look like. It's really hard to fantasize about what we can't actually imagine, and given the h...

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