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by Heather
Tue Dec 06, 2022 3:15 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I Letf My Pills In a Hot Car
Replies: 6
Views: 77

Re: I Letf My Pills In a Hot Car

(I had more here, but Mo came in first and said much of what I was going to!) Just FYI, heat damage to oral contraceptives will tend to make the pills look sweaty inside the blister pack, like a steamed-up window can look. At this point, you could give us or anyone else all the extra health details ...
by Heather
Tue Dec 06, 2022 9:20 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How can I stop cumming when I think about my bf?
Replies: 8
Views: 120

Re: How can I stop cumming when I think about my bf?

I also just want to check in to be sure we have your meaning right here. Do you mean you are having orgasms (a nervous system event felt full-body), or do you mean you have more vaginal fluid than usual showing up with or after time with him? If you mean the latter, which is what I expect you do, kn...
by Heather
Wed Nov 30, 2022 10:02 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Did I clean my clitoris incorrectly?
Replies: 2
Views: 168

Re: Did I clean my clitoris incorrectly?

Hey there, welcome to the boards. :P It's normal for that to happen sometimes. But it sounds like the way you approached this caused you pain, so next time, you'll want to take that note from your body and stop what's causing you pain. Then you can try and find another way. My best suggestion is to ...
by Heather
Sun Nov 27, 2022 10:40 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bisexuality
Replies: 16
Views: 305

Re: Bisexuality

Hey there. Just passing through to check in on you. No obligation to post unless you want to, I have just been thinking about you and hoping you're hanging in there.
by Heather
Sun Nov 27, 2022 10:30 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: a gay friend who likes me. Confused.
Replies: 6
Views: 307

Re: a gay friend who likes me. Confused.

Hey there, gizmox. So, I don't think that it's sound to ask someone if they want to be a given gender identity. For one, that's just not really someone else's place -- it's for any of us to get a sense of our own gender identities, not really for someone else to offer it up like that, you know? Gend...
by Heather
Sun Nov 27, 2022 10:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fingering my s/o
Replies: 3
Views: 115

Re: Fingering my s/o

You know, the chance that this is medical is really unlikely when compared to the chance that, for two young people new to each other's bodies and their own bodies, you just have a lot to learn. The latter is far, far more likely and tremendously common. By any chance, can your girlfriend read this ...
by Heather
Sun Nov 27, 2022 10:18 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Accepting my sexuality
Replies: 148
Views: 29438

Re: Accepting my sexuality

Hey there, friend. You and I haven't interacted for a long time, so I don't want to jump in too deep right at the front, but I do want to start by making a suggestion in support of your privacy and autonomy. Why not make yourself a new email account, a secondary account somewhere, one that your pare...
by Heather
Sun Nov 27, 2022 10:11 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: how to stop being horny
Replies: 5
Views: 224

Re: how to stop being horny

Hey there. So, for sure, it is pretty common for T to amplify sexual desire, so you will want to know that's coming. Generally, we can't really keep ourselves from having feelings of desire. That's just not something we can tend to be able to control. But feelings of sexual desire will usually tend ...
by Heather
Sun Nov 27, 2022 10:06 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Possible HiV exposure
Replies: 12
Views: 323

Re: Possible HiV exposure

I do also want to add for your and everyone else's education that common fears about HIV and many other STIs that male clients of women sex workers have are often based more in stigma than biological reality, and also tend to be backwards. In other words, in this scenario, the sex worker here -- as ...
by Heather
Thu Nov 24, 2022 12:56 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Grieving an identity
Replies: 9
Views: 574

Re: Grieving an identity

I feel like I'm pulled in a lot of different directions in terms of care. If I care about my stress, I would go back in the closet completely. It would eliminate stress at work and everywhere else and take care of my fear of being outed to my family. If I care about my sadness, I would find some pl...
by Heather
Thu Nov 24, 2022 10:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: weird vagina tissue question
Replies: 5
Views: 160

Re: weird vagina tissue question

I also wanted to offer you some things to look at since it sounded like you had a hard time finding them. It's much harder to try and put our bodies in context without...well, context. I wanted to be sure you saw this piece of ours, here: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodies/my_corona_the_anato...
by Heather
Thu Nov 24, 2022 10:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: weird vagina tissue question
Replies: 5
Views: 160

Re: weird vagina tissue question

So, I suspect some of your discomfort around it probably is more psychological than physical, like, more about discomfort with how the vulva and such actually looks than your idea of how it should, especially since it' yours. In other words, I suspect some of this is a body image issue that's more l...
by Heather
Thu Nov 24, 2022 7:43 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: weird vagina tissue question
Replies: 5
Views: 160

Re: weird vagina tissue question

Will hop on these for you in a bit!
by Heather
Thu Nov 24, 2022 7:42 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bisexuality
Replies: 16
Views: 305

Re: Bisexuality

I have so been there — in a bad interpersonal space on this holiday and with nowhere else to go. A few years back, I recall all too well being out on a three hour walk with my dog in the snow and dark because of it. So sorry you find yourself in this spot! Is the weather in KY like it is in Chicago ...
by Heather
Wed Nov 23, 2022 3:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bisexuality
Replies: 16
Views: 305

Re: Bisexuality

His choices aren't on you. This didn't happen or go on as long as it has because you weren't smart enough. It happened because he actively made these choices. He did these things and is the person responsible, not you, okay? I'm glad to hear that you have some care and self-care right now. I'm also ...
by Heather
Wed Nov 23, 2022 3:11 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bisexuality
Replies: 16
Views: 305

Re: Bisexuality

Oh man, that sounds like a really rough 24 hours or less. I'm not surprised you're having a hard time processing all of this: it's a whole lot in a small amount of time. It certainly sounds like whatever his reasons around dishonesty with his sexuality and sexual behaviour, he has been very dishones...
by Heather
Wed Nov 23, 2022 2:34 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bisexuality
Replies: 16
Views: 305

Re: Bisexuality

I’m so sorry to hear this. I have more to say, but am I understanding correctly you got this new information since your initial post here? I just want to be sure I have that right.
by Heather
Wed Nov 23, 2022 12:58 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Open Thread for Support After LGBTQ Violence
Replies: 6
Views: 197

Re: Open Thread for Support After LGBTQ Violence

Right back at you, Michaela (and to all). <3
by Heather
Wed Nov 23, 2022 10:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bisexuality
Replies: 16
Views: 305

Re: Bisexuality

Hi there, NCHolmes, and welcome to the boards. I'm glad you found us. I'm sorry that this sharing has resulted in the hard feelings that you're having. It also sounds like rather than bringing you closer, at the moment, this feels like it's put a wedge in things between you and your husband. I'm sor...
by Heather
Wed Nov 23, 2022 9:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fetish/kink
Replies: 21
Views: 784

Re: Fetish/kink

If you want to talk more about what you're looking for from therapists around this (which will probably need to involve sharing some more information about it -- it's really hard to dig too deep with something so vague, I'm afraid) I am glad to do that with you. If you would prefer to do it with a t...
by Heather
Wed Nov 23, 2022 9:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: weird vagina tissue question
Replies: 5
Views: 160

Re: weird vagina tissue question

Hi there, Katya, and welcome to the boards. :) Only someone who could examine you in person could say for sure, but it's sounding to me like you're describing is one common way corona/hymenal tissue can tend to look as that tissue gradually erode4s and changes over time, as it nearly always will. Th...
by Heather
Wed Nov 23, 2022 9:45 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Grieving an identity
Replies: 9
Views: 574

Re: Grieving an identity

When I say showing up for yourself in this context, I mean setting aside concerns about what others might need right now and focusing on your own needs. For example, even if it might benefit someone else for you to identify a certain way, or be public about certain things, if it's not of benefit to ...
by Heather
Tue Nov 22, 2022 12:39 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Grieving an identity
Replies: 9
Views: 574

Re: Grieving an identity

Hey there, Raffles. I just want to add a couple things. You're only 22 years old. You're both *not* an elder now, you are under no obligation to be an elder for anyone else, be it now, or when you actually are an older person. Given how young you are, I also think it might help out if you didn't app...
by Heather
Sun Nov 20, 2022 2:31 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Open Thread for Support After LGBTQ Violence
Replies: 6
Views: 197

Re: Open Thread for Support After LGBTQ Violence

Just sharing some thoughts as they've been popping up for me. I'm in my fifties, and my first memories of LGBTQ-targeted violence and other harm start in the early 80s. I think of the systemic and interpersonal harms done to our whole community around and with the cultural treatment of HIV/AIDS and ...
by Heather
Sun Nov 20, 2022 9:22 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: porn sucks
Replies: 2
Views: 154

Re: porn sucks

You know, a quick correction I have learned for myself that has been really helpful to me over many years is this: If I ever hear myself talking in broad absolutes -- saying NO ONE or everyone, for instance -- I stop the thought by reminding myself those aren't real. There's just nothing that absolu...

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