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by Heather
Tue Jan 25, 2022 4:03 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend
Replies: 27
Views: 850

Re: Friend

There's nothing wrong with your posts and how you're expressing your feelings. Thanks for sharing that with me, that's vulnerable stuff. Even with the interactions with you here so far, it feels unlikely that's all there is to you, but let's say a lot of you is in want or need of attention. Can that...
by Heather
Tue Jan 25, 2022 1:12 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Healing wrong
Replies: 11
Views: 375

Re: Healing wrong

I'm so glad the boards here and that resource both feel like good starting points for you! :)
by Heather
Tue Jan 25, 2022 1:09 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend
Replies: 27
Views: 850

Re: Friend

Sounds like you struggle pretty hard with perfectionism. Would you say so? You talk about your true nature here. How would you describe that? Who do you feel like to you, if you weren't out to try and please anyone else? By the way, no one here is under any obligation to use the information we give ...
by Heather
Mon Jan 24, 2022 4:21 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Healing wrong
Replies: 11
Views: 375

Re: Healing wrong

Kimberly is so amazing. She just GETS IT.

And sure. Are you open to letting us know what general part of Florida you're in? If you are but you're not comfortable doing it on the boards, you can drop it to us via the contact link in the bottom lower right (the red-outlined box) of this page.
by Heather
Mon Jan 24, 2022 4:18 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend
Replies: 27
Views: 850

Re: Friend

So, journaling your feelings is mostly for you. It's so you can learn to express them more freely. It doesn't have to make sense to anyone else, in fact, it doesn't even need to make sense to you later once you're done! It's more about the process of doing it. And if those feelings are temporary, or...
by Heather
Mon Jan 24, 2022 1:33 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

You got it.
by Heather
Mon Jan 24, 2022 12:40 pm
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Parenting as a Teenager
Replies: 10
Views: 11180

Re: Parenting as a Teenager

Can we help you out with anything, Alessandra?
by Heather
Mon Jan 24, 2022 12:39 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend
Replies: 27
Views: 850

Re: Friend

So, these sound like maybe two different issues to me in some ways (even though they obviously intersect), and I feel like we should perhaps talk about them separately for now. With your friend, was there ever a time when you'd say your relationship was really great? When you two were very close, wh...
by Heather
Mon Jan 24, 2022 12:16 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Healing wrong
Replies: 11
Views: 375

Re: Healing wrong

I also want to chime in here that there's really no such thing as healing "wrong." All of our journeys with healing are very different, and often winding, and it can tend to take us instinctively trying and doing a lot of things to feel out our way to healing, especially if and when we are...
by Heather
Mon Jan 24, 2022 11:47 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hey, Sky. Bunch of posts in moderation and I'm seeing them all, but let's see where you are today first, okay? Where are you at right now?
by Heather
Sun Jan 23, 2022 2:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

Thanks for working with that boundary, I really appreciate it. I'm so glad you had a conversation with Ruby and that it was such a good one for you. That's awesome. And they're right, and that's really astute: if we want to self-harm after something in any way, most of the time it's because that som...
by Heather
Sun Jan 23, 2022 2:13 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

Hey there, Sky. I work chat on Mondays and Tuesdays in the afternoons these days. happy to talk with you if you want during either of those shifts this week. One thing I'm going to ask you is to try to post here when you're sober instead of using anything. I ask that as a general community ask, but ...
by Heather
Sun Jan 23, 2022 2:04 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend
Replies: 27
Views: 850

Re: Friend

Hey again. Hope you're doing okay today. If you ask me, I think it's always a good idea to keep trying to open up with our friends about our concerns and feelings. After all, that's how we maintain and deepen those relationships. If in the past, we've fumbled, or even outrightly messed up in some wa...
by Heather
Thu Jan 20, 2022 12:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

That's literally what these services are here for, and I'm so glad that we can do this for you. <3

(I'm afraid I have to head off now myself, alas, I got boosted and flu-shot yesterday and it is kicking my tucas like nobody's business, but hang in there, pal.)
by Heather
Tue Jan 18, 2022 3:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

I am, for about 15 more minutes today.
by Heather
Tue Jan 18, 2022 2:21 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 64
Views: 1607

Re: Unwanted crush

Aw, not at all. That was very rousing. :)
by Heather
Tue Jan 18, 2022 1:31 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 64
Views: 1607

Re: Unwanted crush

Hey again. :) You know what life looks like for those of us who are LGBTQAI is as varied as it tends to look for folks who aren't. And the same really goes for what people think. By all means, we all still live in a world that's more accepting of straight people than those of us who aren't, and that...
by Heather
Tue Jan 18, 2022 1:25 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

If literally anyone -- anyone, absolutely including queer people -- tells you that they do not have at least some internalized homophobia, biphobia and transphobia, they are seriously kidding themselves. We are ALL homophobic, there's no way we can come up in this world and not be to at least some d...
by Heather
Tue Jan 18, 2022 12:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

I know it's hard to claim that, but I think that it's a really important first step for you. It is very clearly something you struggle with a lot and very deeply. So, you know that there is no obligation to keep a date you made. Everyone can and does cancel dates for all kinds of reasons, including ...
by Heather
Tue Jan 18, 2022 11:55 am
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: How do I know if my email sent?
Replies: 10
Views: 388

Re: How do I know if my email sent?

Hey there: I'm so sorry that it took us so long to find this email. Something glitched with our contact email for a bit there, and while it did, your email got lost. Jacob just found it, and I just did what you asked us to in it. I really appreciate your patience, and I'm so sorry again you had to b...
by Heather
Mon Jan 17, 2022 3:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

Isn't that just the Murphy's Law of psyching yourself up for something? You do all that work then you go and it's the wrong day, or not the thing you thought, or something like that. I've had that happen so many times, I swear. I'm sorry you felt awkward, but I do think it's good you tried, and I re...
by Heather
Sun Jan 16, 2022 10:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

(Btw, I think you're in chat right now, just FYI, I can also work there with you this morning if you'd prefer.)
by Heather
Sun Jan 16, 2022 10:30 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

As I think we've talked about before, no one who is an actual therapist does that. It's an abuse, not a therapy, always has been an abuse, never has been a therapy. It's one of those things where they have used a word to try and hide what something actually is. It's never done anything but very seri...
by Heather
Thu Jan 13, 2022 1:42 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Unwanted crush
Replies: 64
Views: 1607

Re: Unwanted crush

Well, that bet certainly sounds like some pressure. Yipes. It's never fun when friends do something like that, especially when you're standing on the sidelines, being silently and solitary maybe-queer. Let them be disappointed (unless you meet someone you like, in which case, you do you!). They shou...
by Heather
Thu Jan 13, 2022 1:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Just need some reassurance
Replies: 168
Views: 4569

Re: Just need some reassurance

There's nothing to forgive. We're good. I'm sorry that you're struggling, and I can understand that as a basis for things like self-sabotage or trying to sabotage community or support. I appreciate you taking stock of that and taking responsibility, though, especially for yourself. <3

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