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by Heather
Tue Oct 27, 2020 8:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Parenting teen w/mild developmental delay
Replies: 4
Views: 119

Re: Parenting teen w/mild developmental delay

Thanks for all this information. It sounds to me like your best approach is in line with what you usually do, and that you'd do best to link it to behaviours, rather than feelings. In other words, there's nothing wrong with him having interest in or feelings towards girls who aren't of an appropriat...
by Heather
Thu Oct 22, 2020 6:01 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Not a pregnancy scare just a question
Replies: 3
Views: 71

Re: Not a pregnancy scare just a question

Being in perimenopause (someone who has reached menopause cannot become pregnant) doesn’t stop you from having all the symptoms of pregnancy, very much including that many months into it, you will look pregnant. In fact, since you often already feel like such crap, you are highly attuned to any new ...
by Heather
Wed Oct 21, 2020 2:19 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I need binding and packing advice
Replies: 12
Views: 182

Re: I need binding and packing advice

That's what I thought, but I wanted to make sure.

The cosplay idea sounds like a good one! Can you make use, too, perhaps, of Halloween coming up as a way to get and wear some of these things?
by Heather
Wed Oct 21, 2020 2:17 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Not a pregnancy scare just a question
Replies: 3
Views: 71

Re: Not a pregnancy scare just a question

I've talked about this before, but didn't have any luck finding one of the threads, so I'll just go ahead and do a little repeat performance. :) That is exceptionally rare. Not only it it rare, it really only tends to happen in a couple limited and very specific circumstances, like, when someone is:...
by Heather
Wed Oct 21, 2020 11:36 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: When you and your parent are different people
Replies: 10
Views: 1415

Re: When you and your parent are different people

I think it absolutely makes sense. It's really, really exhausting to be in this position, and when you don't get support coming back for how you feel, you're basically expending energy that you don't get back, you know?
by Heather
Wed Oct 21, 2020 11:31 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What gets me off makes me nervous
Replies: 3
Views: 85

Re: What gets me off makes me nervous

What you're asking in the last bit is tricky, because it assumes that this is about and because of your trauma. Do *you* feel that it is? Generally, there's nothing we can do to change what excites us, and often when we do, it only tends to lean in on us more. I'd encourage you with anything that tu...
by Heather
Wed Oct 21, 2020 11:02 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: What's "Real Sex?" (Seriously.)
Replies: 14
Views: 11218

Re: What's "Real Sex?" (Seriously.)

Marisha, I love that answer!
by Heather
Wed Oct 21, 2020 9:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Parenting teen w/mild developmental delay
Replies: 4
Views: 119

Re: Parenting teen w/mild developmental delay

While I was answering you, a therapist friend of mine who, in non-pandemic times, lives in MA part-time said hi so I asked them if they know anyone with openings right now. They said that this group may have them, and if not, could probably help you find someone: https://www.sayftee.com/mission That...
by Heather
Wed Oct 21, 2020 9:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Anxiety and fears
Replies: 29
Views: 580

Re: Anxiety and fears

If it helps, fear of pregnancy is actually very, very common, as is the kind of anxiety you're experiencing with it. What do you feel like you might need in order to feel able to take the positive risk of telling your therapist about it?
by Heather
Wed Oct 21, 2020 9:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Parenting teen w/mild developmental delay
Replies: 4
Views: 119

Re: Parenting teen w/mild developmental delay

Hey there, Jo. You sound like such a thoughtful parent, a thing that always makes my day. I can certainly understand your concerns. I also hear you on the waits: we're in one for some mental healthcare for young people in my household right now, too, and it's so tough Can you fill me in a little on ...
by Heather
Wed Oct 21, 2020 9:30 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: I need binding and packing advice
Replies: 12
Views: 182

Re: I need binding and packing advice

Is having one donated for you an option? It'd still need to be sent to you, obviously, which is why I ask. There are some programs that donate binders to young people!
by Heather
Mon Oct 19, 2020 1:29 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I want advice about my new love
Replies: 5
Views: 167

Re: I want advice about my new love

I also think besides the payment issue, it's just dishonest and a violation to make it look like you're seeking out a professional exchange or other work-thing with someone when you're actually after intimacy. I'm glad you've nixed this idea.
by Heather
Mon Oct 19, 2020 1:27 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Pansexual/heteroflexible/queer?
Replies: 1
Views: 124

Re: Pansexual/heteroflexible/queer?

I feel like asking shorthand to be longhand is always going to leave us wanting. In other words, single-word terms of orientation, gender identity or other complex parts of our identity are rarely going to sum us up every well, and that's okay, because they're not meant to. They're just supposed to ...
by Heather
Mon Oct 19, 2020 10:04 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Being told I chose to be sexually assaulted when I went through sexual coercion and assault
Replies: 6
Views: 198

Re: Being told I chose to be sexually assaulted when I went through sexual coercion and assault

Jess, I think that the why of people saying this stuff and what to say to respond to it and shut it down are related. This is certainly a super, super brief summary, but I'd say that there are four major reasons people victim-blame, and often more than one of them is at play. 1) Internalized Misogyn...
by Heather
Mon Oct 19, 2020 8:54 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is it a problem to never masturbate?
Replies: 3
Views: 226

Re: Is it a problem to never masturbate?

Glad to be of help.
by Heather
Mon Oct 19, 2020 8:54 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Being told I chose to be sexually assaulted when I went through sexual coercion and assault
Replies: 6
Views: 198

Re: Being told I chose to be sexually assaulted when I went through sexual coercion and assault

Jess: I just wanted to stop in to give some extra support. This is something I can deeply relate to. I didn't feel able to tell anyone in my family about two different sexual assaults I experienced at 11 and 12 expressly because I knew that my stepfather would do exactly this -- use it as a way to f...
by Heather
Thu Oct 15, 2020 10:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Mirena
Replies: 1
Views: 97

Re: Mirena

That it was inserted means you can rely on it, period. It still only protects against pregnancy, NOT any STIs, so condoms and other parts of safer sex are needed for that protection, just to be clear. :)
by Heather
Thu Oct 15, 2020 5:20 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Grinding
Replies: 1
Views: 91

Re: Grinding

You’ll find that information here: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/bodie ... _from_that

“Dry Sex” would be what this is filed under in that piece.
by Heather
Wed Oct 14, 2020 1:57 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Is it a problem to never masturbate?
Replies: 3
Views: 226

Re: Is it a problem to never masturbate?

Nope! It's one of those things where it can certainly benefit people who want to do it and enjoy it or otherwise find a benefit to doing it, but it doesn't hurt anyone who doesn't. And if it was something a person felt they had to do and did when they didn't want to, that could do emotional harm. Yo...
by Heather
Wed Oct 14, 2020 12:18 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I just have to get this out in a safe place
Replies: 51
Views: 3108

Re: I just have to get this out in a safe place

Hey there, sky. I see your posts, but I'm just here to remind you that Sam set a limit on us answering any more from you until you do get started with some mental healthcare. I see that that's what you're asking for here, so I recognize this is a bit of a conundrum. That given, I'll give you the hig...
by Heather
Wed Oct 14, 2020 8:34 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Mis-matched libido
Replies: 5
Views: 262

Re: Mis-matched libido

Nothing wrong with that word if it works for you! Are you having sex when you don't fully want to? I ask because you say you're trying to "enliven" yourself before and that it's not helping much. If you are having sex you do not 100% want to -- sometimes it takes folks a few minutes to get...
by Heather
Wed Oct 14, 2020 8:30 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Should I come out to my boyfriend?
Replies: 3
Views: 225

Re: Should I come out to my boyfriend?

Can I ask what issues you think it would cause? has your boyfriend voiced any kind of transphobia or homophobia, or other things that give you the idea he'd be anything but accepting? You know, you haven't changed: you're the person he's been with the whole time, so it's not like he doesn't already ...
by Heather
Wed Oct 14, 2020 8:29 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I'm done
Replies: 5
Views: 478

Re: I'm done

Hey, wolfcub. Before I say anything else, I need to let you know that if you respond to us like this again, what's going to be done is your access to our services. It's not okay to yell like this at a service provider. This is my workplace, and I'm also the boss here. We don't yell at any of you, an...
by Heather
Tue Oct 13, 2020 6:28 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Penis Problems?
Replies: 5
Views: 147

Re: Penis Problems?

That all sounds normal! The foreskin won’t usually retract all the way to the base of the penis, because its attachment (the frenulum) won’t often allow for that. During masturbation or sex with a partner, so long as it glides easily over the head, it should not cause you pain. No kind of sex should...
by Heather
Fri Oct 09, 2020 8:18 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Mis-matched libido
Replies: 5
Views: 262

Re: Mis-matched libido

I’m so glad. :) Do you want to dig into this more, or do you feel like you’re good for now?

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