Search found 31 matches

by rubyted
Wed Jul 29, 2020 8:36 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Is there any hope?
Replies: 3
Views: 212

Re: Is there any hope?

Hi there! Hope it's okay that I'm jumping in here, too. It might help to clarify what "friends" means to you and what "dating" means to you, so you can set boundaries around what you want in either relationship. If you feel uncomfortable with the idea that "friends" can...
by rubyted
Wed Jul 08, 2020 9:31 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Several months into Covid and social distancing, how is everyone doing?
Replies: 11
Views: 1046

Re: Several months into Covid and social distancing, how is everyone doing?

I think this pandemic is triggering a lot of people to realize that the things that they felt kept them safe - a routine, a steady job, paying rent and other bills, trusting the government - don't really keep them safe right now. I think that's part of why tensions feel so high and why everyone's tr...
by rubyted
Wed Jul 08, 2020 9:08 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Tall Girl Problems
Replies: 13
Views: 502

Re: Tall Girl Problems

Hey, girlplayer34, hope it's okay that I'm jumping in! Just wanted to say that it seems to me that the issue isn't with you or your height, but with the people around you. The only thing that seems different to me about Sam's tall friends and you is that they are around different people who aren't a...
by rubyted
Wed Jul 08, 2020 8:54 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: How to change timing of Yasmin pills?
Replies: 5
Views: 677

Re: How to change timing of Yasmin pills?

Hi there! Our article about the combined pill, Combined Oral Contraceptives (The Pill) , says "If you don't take it at exactly the same time -- but still take it on the day you're supposed to -- that won't make your pills ineffective: it's just a safer bet to take it around the same time to kee...
by rubyted
Sun Mar 29, 2020 9:55 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Question about the glans of my penis
Replies: 1
Views: 368

Re: Question about the glans of my penis

Hi there! Firstly, that sucks and I'm sorry you're sometimes in pain and feel concerned! Secondly, I'm wondering if you have contacted a medical professional about your concerns. It might be more challenging to go into the doctor's office as it would be without a global pandemic, but is there a prim...
by rubyted
Sun Mar 15, 2020 4:25 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Safe Sex Practices
Replies: 3
Views: 361

Re: Safe Sex Practices

Hi, Fairo! Thanks for this question! I'm going to be using a few different articles for this answer: Birth Control Bingo! Condoms Fertility Awareness (FAM) Withdrawal The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With a Second Method Why don't you start by checking out thos...
by rubyted
Sun Mar 15, 2020 4:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety
Replies: 15
Views: 681

Re: Navigating Romantic Feelings and Friendships with Anxiety

Hi, Bubbles! Glad to hear that you're back and seeking support for some of your anxiety in your friendships. I'm wondering what your therapist has to say about all of this and what advice they're giving you in this trying time. You mentioned that you've made a lot of progress with them, so it might ...
by rubyted
Sun Mar 01, 2020 5:49 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult
Replies: 9
Views: 766

Re: Deeply In Love With A Young Adult

Hey, Brianne! Hope it's okay that I'm jumping in on this post. It sounds like you know what your boundaries are and what you wouldn't want to do with her. That's awesome! I'm glad to hear that you intend on focusing on making friends at camp and that you aren't just going to see her, which is great....
by rubyted
Sun Feb 23, 2020 5:26 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bleeding after sex even though we're doing everything right
Replies: 7
Views: 1673

Re: Bleeding after sex even though we're doing everything right

Hi, Xocat! You aren't harassing us at all, just trying to get some clarity. I'm so glad that lube and foreplay is helping your pain! That's so good to hear - keep having fun with foreplay, experimenting with different things that you can do. It makes a huge difference. Good on you for going to ask a...
by rubyted
Sun Feb 16, 2020 4:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Why does this happen?
Replies: 11
Views: 1286

Re: Why does this happen?

Hi there, hope it's okay that I'm jumping in on this topic! I haven't personally packed before so don't have a lot of wisdom to share on that topic, but I agree with Sian that getting packing underwear could be the best way to go, or I'm interested to see if wearing two pairs of underwear would work...
by rubyted
Sun Feb 16, 2020 4:44 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Old Wounds: Encountering an Ex (Someone Pls Respond ASAP!)
Replies: 21
Views: 1278

Re: Old Wounds: Encountering an Ex (Someone Pls Respond ASAP!)

Hi, BuddyBoi21 - hope it's okay that I'm jumping in on this post! First of all, I'm so glad to hear that meeting with your ex went well and that you both feel like you were able to be authentic and be accountable for your roles in the relationship ending. That's awesome and so relieving. I'm thinkin...
by rubyted
Sun Jan 19, 2020 5:18 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How does being in love change?
Replies: 21
Views: 1712

Re: How does being in love change?

Hi, tomatopotato! I'm so glad to hear that you're having some friend crushes that feel good and that you're excited to get to know your friends! And yeah, who knows how those relationships will change in the future - building a really solid comfortable foundation being friends can be a fantastic way...
by rubyted
Sun Jan 19, 2020 4:47 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Is little to no pleasure normal?
Replies: 3
Views: 537

Re: Is little to no pleasure normal?

Hi, 90Hello09! Hope it's okay that I'm hopping in - just noticed that you mentioned feeling stressed about not enjoying masturbation and want to note that sometimes that stress associated with masturbation can make it feel like the stakes are even higher, like that every time you try it and it doesn...
by rubyted
Sun Jan 12, 2020 6:19 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Transgender? (Mtf)
Replies: 57
Views: 2544

Re: Transgender? (Mtf)

I think internalizing and hearing that the way you are is sinful, wrong, or perverted over time can definitely be serious! Is there anything you feel like you're learning about self-love or self-compassion through this situation? There are definitely ways to move out of the house that don't involve ...
by rubyted
Sun Jan 12, 2020 3:01 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Transgender? (Mtf)
Replies: 57
Views: 2544

Re: Transgender? (Mtf)

Hi Thea! I hope it's okay that I'm hopping in on this thread. Just want to vocalize more support for you - there's nothing wrong with you, and it's amazing that you're able to work through some internalized transphobia enough to recognize what you want and need and even consider vocalizing that onli...
by rubyted
Sun Jan 12, 2020 2:51 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Friend with Benefits, turned crush...
Replies: 8
Views: 791

Re: Friend with Benefits, turned crush...

Hi, KittyPink! Hope it's okay that I'm hopping in on this topic. I agree with Sam about rehearsing what you would want to say to this guy. Feeling centered and grounded when you go into a conversation like this is super important, as well as being flexible and understanding that you've had fun so fa...
by rubyted
Fri Dec 29, 2017 4:07 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: What is Something You're Looking Forward To?
Replies: 19
Views: 9023

Re: What is Something You're Looking Forward To?

I love this post !!!! :') - Reuniting with my partner tomorrow and his beautiful dogs and opening presents together! - Starting winter quarter at my school - I'm really excited about the classes I'll be taking and the new things I'll be learning. - listening to a new episode of a tarot podcast I rea...
by rubyted
Fri Dec 29, 2017 3:57 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: HOW??
Replies: 2
Views: 998

Re: HOW??

Hi, Breeze! Just wanted to add to what Jacob was saying, which I completely agree with: not only is there nothing wrong with you wanting personal space and speaking your mind, but overthinking and compulsively worrying about "messing up" social interactions could put you in an even tougher...
by rubyted
Fri Dec 29, 2017 3:51 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Hooking up
Replies: 4
Views: 1304

Re: Hooking up

Hi, Kunook! Thanks for visiting the boards. I agree with everything Heather is saying, and just wanted to mention that I relate to the feelings of deep guilt around telling someone no, changing my mind or changing plans, making someone unhappy, etc. Something I've been learning is that all ignoring ...
by rubyted
Fri Dec 29, 2017 3:40 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: [18M] Still unable to consciously ejaculate
Replies: 2
Views: 1884

Re: [18M] Still unable to consciously ejaculate

Hi! I agree with what Heather has to say about getting professional help - and I also just want to remind you that you're not falling behind, and you don't need to beat yourself up for having trouble in this department. Like Heather said, you can still definitely pursue meaningful relationships with...
by rubyted
Fri Dec 29, 2017 3:34 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Notes on the first day of stuffing a bra at school.
Replies: 1
Views: 3221

Re: Notes on the first day of stuffing a bra at school.

Hi, KittyPink! I'm so glad you had success with this! It's so great that you feel accepted where you go to school.
by rubyted
Wed Aug 16, 2017 9:57 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Do you like ASMR?
Replies: 2
Views: 1806

Do you like ASMR?

I have a question for all of you! Lately I have been experiencing a lot of very physical anxiety which has never happened to me before. Stomach pains, headaches, my heart beating real fast for what seems like forever, easy overstimulation both visually and auditory. Something I've found to help me a...
by rubyted
Wed Aug 16, 2017 9:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Questions and more questions
Replies: 20
Views: 3000

Re: Questions and more questions

Always ask questions if you have them, no shame! Exploring your sexual or romantic orientation doesn't have to be scary and painful. You're right that unlearning guilt and ptsd are really difficult processes, and I'm so sorry that exploring something natural and positive about yourself is triggering...
by rubyted
Tue Aug 15, 2017 12:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Questions and more questions
Replies: 20
Views: 3000

Re: Questions and more questions

Hey Science_Geek! First of all, I really appreciate your honesty and vulnerability around all of this. Figuring out labels and identities can be so confusing and I really admire your strength in reaching out. I hear that you feel like something is wrong with you. I promise you, nothing is wrong with...
by rubyted
Tue Aug 15, 2017 12:06 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Pill
Replies: 1
Views: 927

Re: Pill

Hi, Allybannsiders! If you successfully took your pill and didn't notice the pill coming back up when you coughed, it was likely in your stomach already and won't be coming back anytime soon.

Can't find what you're looking for? Try searching our old board archive or our main site.

Go to advanced search