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by avaiara
Thu Jul 23, 2020 5:32 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: admitting feelings
Replies: 1
Views: 1363

admitting feelings

so, i’ve been talking to this boy for about a week. we’ve known each other for longer, but “talking” for a week. we’ve been flirty and have both been talking about missing relationships, that he likes flirting with me, etc. i’m starting to like him, we both have a lot in common and we talk literally...
by avaiara
Sat Apr 11, 2020 3:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: relationship advice, kind of long, sorry!
Replies: 9
Views: 3298

Re: relationship advice, kind of long, sorry!

i definitely am feeling better :) i told him that i didn’t want to sound selfish (because i had asked why he suddenly stopped talking to me) and apologized if i came off that way and offered my support if he wanted. i also said that he isn’t obligated to speak to me if he’s feeling down, but that at...
by avaiara
Fri Apr 10, 2020 7:34 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: relationship advice, kind of long, sorry!
Replies: 9
Views: 3298

Re: relationship advice, kind of long, sorry!

so, i ended up talking to him today and got a response that i totally wasn’t expecting. he apologized to me for disappearing and told me that not being able to work and having his routine taken away from him has made his mental health bad and he told me that it wasn’t anything i did, and that he did...
by avaiara
Fri Apr 10, 2020 10:55 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: relationship advice, kind of long, sorry!
Replies: 9
Views: 3298

Re: relationship advice, kind of long, sorry!

thank you for the advice. it’s not what i was hoping to hear but the honesty has pushed me towards a decision so i appreciate that :) i still think i want to talk to him about how i’m feeling and see if maybe he’ll talk to me about what’s been going on but you’re right, if this is how he is going to...
by avaiara
Thu Apr 09, 2020 6:26 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: relationship advice, kind of long, sorry!
Replies: 9
Views: 3298

Re: relationship advice, kind of long, sorry!

it’s just a bit of a bummer seeing the immediate change in mood after the pandemic. he would call me pet names and be so kind to me before this, but now he’s just so dry and hardly ever talks to me and it makes me feel down. i don’t know if i have the right to explain to him how i’m feeling about th...
by avaiara
Wed Apr 08, 2020 9:24 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: relationship advice, kind of long, sorry!
Replies: 9
Views: 3298

relationship advice, kind of long, sorry!

i apologize for how long this is, i guess i rambled a bit but i gave as much information/context as possible. in the beginning of march, i started talking to this guy. we'll call him sam. it seemed that sam and i clicked as soon as we met, we talked and joked like we had known each other forever. sa...
by avaiara
Sun Jan 12, 2020 11:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i have a crush on my tattoo artist
Replies: 1
Views: 1469

i have a crush on my tattoo artist

i have a crush on my tattoo artist. we matched on tinder about a year ago, i’m not sure if he remembers or not but i’d really like to get to know him more than just my artist — how can i go about this? or should i just chalk it down to a silly crush and not make things weird?
by avaiara
Wed Nov 13, 2019 12:17 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: going on a break
Replies: 1
Views: 1688

going on a break

is it possible to take a break in your relationship when you live with your significant other?
by avaiara
Tue Oct 08, 2019 1:10 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: i need help
Replies: 2
Views: 1721

i need help

this is my first time posting on the user and staff board because i need as much advice as i can get. i'm depressed. i see a therapist, but lately it feels like things aren't helping me anymore. i don't know what to do. i'm sad and i can feel myself falling back into my old habits again. my ex and i...
by avaiara
Fri Oct 04, 2019 12:36 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week
Replies: 16
Views: 3511

Re: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week

It actually sounds like this gave you some helpful information on how she's feeling about the whole thing. So, maybe a next step is just to get in touch with her and see how that initial conversation goes (since you now know that she's still interested in contacting you). yeah, i was thinking on do...
by avaiara
Fri Oct 04, 2019 11:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week
Replies: 16
Views: 3511

Re: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week

That's a totally understandable worry, especially since this is kind of new situation for the two of you. But, since you two are close friends, I think the chances are good that you'll be able to work this out, even if there are some awkward or rough bits while you do so. i actually have an update,...
by avaiara
Fri Oct 04, 2019 11:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week
Replies: 16
Views: 3511

Re: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week

Okay, I just wanted to ask in case there was a chance this fight was the culmination of something else that had been going on, but it doesn't sound like it. I think checking in on her gently or indirectly to see how she's doing, and then following up in the way that feels best, is a sound plan. Is ...
by avaiara
Fri Oct 04, 2019 10:31 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week
Replies: 16
Views: 3511

Re: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week

Got it, I imagine not having had a conflict like this before is part of why this feels so loaded in some ways. Being in that uncharted territory can be stressful. Since it sounds like you're leaning towards texting her, what if beforehand you thought about (or even wrote out) how you'll respond to ...
by avaiara
Fri Oct 04, 2019 10:10 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week
Replies: 16
Views: 3511

Re: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week

What if, then, you texted her a variation of what you just said to me: that you want to resolve things between the two of you and you're not angry with her, but that you feel like things sort of blew up in a weird way between you? Too, have you and she had conflicts before? If so, how did those usu...
by avaiara
Fri Oct 04, 2019 9:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week
Replies: 16
Views: 3511

Re: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week

I agree that texting her a week later still angry probably isn't the sound call in this instance. One thing that may help is to think about what you want from texting her, whether that's reconnecting because you miss talking to her, feeling like things got confusing in the middle of the fight and w...
by avaiara
Fri Oct 04, 2019 8:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week
Replies: 16
Views: 3511

Re: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week

Hi avaiara, This sounds like a pretty tangled up situation (and like your co-worker may have deliberately misrepresented the conversation with you). With your friend, did either of you make it clear to the other why you were angry (was she purely upset about you "ruining" a secret that it...
by avaiara
Fri Oct 04, 2019 8:54 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week
Replies: 16
Views: 3511

Re: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week

Hi avaiara, This sounds like a pretty tangled up situation (and like your co-worker may have deliberately misrepresented the conversation with you). With your friend, did either of you make it clear to the other why you were angry (was she purely upset about you "ruining" a secret that it...
by avaiara
Fri Oct 04, 2019 8:33 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week
Replies: 16
Views: 3511

haven’t talked to my best friend in almost a week

it was a petty, stupid argument but i’ll give you the rundown so you understand friday the 13th, my shop was having a flash sale on tattoos that lasted the whole day. my friend went in and got one without me, which i thought was a bit weird considering we had been talking about going together but i ...
by avaiara
Sun Aug 11, 2019 3:43 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: am i being selfish?
Replies: 1
Views: 1785

am i being selfish?

hi! so my best friend and i have been close for as long as i can remember. always looking out for each other, etc. as best friends do. well, lately, i’ve been in a bit of a money crunch and despite that, i still am able to set aside $10 or $20 to go out with her. i sometimes will buy her food or a d...
by avaiara
Tue Jul 30, 2019 11:37 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: my ex’s friend
Replies: 1
Views: 2688

my ex’s friend

hi, okay so i’m in a bit of a dilemma. i was dating my ex for a few months, and the other day i told him that we should go on a break and stop seeing each other for a bit. i basically told him i needed/wanted space, but that i want things to work out. ive noticed lately that i’m attracted to his fri...
by avaiara
Sat Jun 22, 2019 12:23 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: a weird, new friendship that i’m unsure about
Replies: 1
Views: 1228

a weird, new friendship that i’m unsure about

i’ve been dating my boyfriend now for about two months. there was some drama with his ex, and to make a long story short, his “ex” who was texting me off of fake phone numbers ended up being someone trying to impersonate her to cause problems in both of our lives. since finding out it wasn’t her who...
by avaiara
Sun May 05, 2019 7:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: my best friend
Replies: 4
Views: 2775

Re: my best friend

millstreet - this is a thoughtful response. This is the user-to-staff section though, please make sure you stick to the user-to-user forums unless you're asking us a question yourself - thanks! avaiara, If this is bothering you then millstreet is right, a conversation with your friend is probably t...
by avaiara
Sat May 04, 2019 2:48 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: my best friend
Replies: 4
Views: 2775

my best friend

i need help regarding my best friend i’ll make a long story short: she introduced me (sort of) to her boyfriends best friend, and after some time talking and getting to know each other we started dating. things are going good, but the only problem i’ve had so far is with his ex. she has been non sto...
by avaiara
Sat Jun 30, 2018 7:22 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: weird anxiety
Replies: 3
Views: 2687

Re: weird anxiety

Hi avaiara! I don't think it's weird, I think a lot of us feel different kinds of nerves mixed in with other things with people we're interested in. Let's look at this a bit more closely though. When you say you're just out of a breakup, I'm guessing from your other thread that you mean in the last...
by avaiara
Fri Jun 29, 2018 11:35 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: weird anxiety
Replies: 3
Views: 2687

weird anxiety

is it weird of me to be anxious of the boy i like to become interested in someone else? i just got out of a breakup, i think i like him and i’m not ready for a new relationship quite yet, but i’m nervous of him possibly liking another and forgetting about me. he’s been helping me through this and he...