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by bikinksterboy
Thu Apr 28, 2022 6:31 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: self karada tie?
Replies: 6
Views: 2690

Re: self karada tie?

oh gosh my partner and I are far too anxious to engage in any kind of even sex-adjacent thing with another person in that capacity, but I definitely would be interested in like, video tutorials, books, or blogs
by bikinksterboy
Wed Apr 27, 2022 5:13 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Two truths and a lie
Replies: 39
Views: 14754

Re: Two truths and a lie

only just now realizing 2 years later that you probably meant "you got me" on your lie, not on mine lol
by bikinksterboy
Wed Apr 27, 2022 4:30 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do you Practice Setting Boundaries?
Replies: 6
Views: 1895

Re: How do you Practice Setting Boundaries?

dammit I do the same thing! the "step one say yes" thing. also I think that kind of automatic speech is something in general I want to change. I often feel anxious in conversation so I just like laugh or say some pat response to my girlfriend or whoever it is when they say something automa...
by bikinksterboy
Sun Mar 13, 2022 8:25 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do you Practice Setting Boundaries?
Replies: 6
Views: 1895

Re: How do you Practice Setting Boundaries?

something I do a lot is try to set very firm boundaries around having personal time to be alone or to end a conversation with a family member. I cohabit with my family and sometimes it can feel like they want me to be available 24/7, so it's important for me to take my own space and time.
by bikinksterboy
Sun Mar 13, 2022 8:13 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: What is Something You're Looking Forward To?
Replies: 21
Views: 12882

Re: What is Something You're Looking Forward To?

(boyfriend is girlfriend now) currently the big hype thing for me is the concert I'm going to in a few days! small club venue, vax requirement. I'm gonna be seeing The Protomen live and it's so amazing! listened to every single track of theirs and they are just so perfect and it'll be my second live...
by bikinksterboy
Sun Mar 13, 2022 7:52 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
Replies: 10
Views: 17541

Re: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc

OMG it's by Tamsyn Muir and not NK Jemisin I'm so embarrassed sorry!
by bikinksterboy
Sun Mar 13, 2022 7:46 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
Replies: 10
Views: 17541

Re: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc

I've heard Gideon The Ninth by NK Jemisin is fairly queer but I may be confusing it with another book
by bikinksterboy
Sun Mar 13, 2022 6:05 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 24
Views: 20650

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

an update! I've since added to The Goth Outfit™ with an ankh choker and fishnet sleeves! still have yet to wear it outside because of extreme embarrassment and anxiety, plus COVID, but it looks cool as heck in the photos I took of myself in it!
by bikinksterboy
Thu Dec 16, 2021 5:46 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do you like to receive love/affection?
Replies: 13
Views: 4776

Re: How do you like to receive love/affection?

sameee. unprompted little signs of affection are great
by bikinksterboy
Thu Dec 16, 2021 5:09 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: ANNIVERSARY!
Replies: 18
Views: 10538

Re: ANNIVERSARY!

also boyfriend is now girlfriend and has been for some time. I think I mentioned this in another post
by bikinksterboy
Thu Dec 16, 2021 5:02 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: self karada tie?
Replies: 6
Views: 2690

Re: self karada tie?

ok so I tried it a while ago in a video call with my girlfriend and I could barely get past the point of even making a basic loop and finding where my sternum was! LOL
by bikinksterboy
Thu Dec 16, 2021 4:41 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: ANNIVERSARY!
Replies: 18
Views: 10538

Re: ANNIVERSARY!

in January it'll be 5 years damn! wow!
by bikinksterboy
Fri Jul 02, 2021 8:29 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 11
Views: 5652

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

She's in New Jersey but I appreciate the other 2 resources. I'm still on my own search and I'll keep looking. Thank you!
by bikinksterboy
Fri Jul 02, 2021 7:44 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 11
Views: 5652

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

continuing on this, and I think this may be better suited to its own thread, how *would* she even go about finding trans-literate therapist? her family relies on government assistance (which mostly ends up going to food and basic necessities) and their insurance only covers so much. There's also the...
by bikinksterboy
Fri Jun 11, 2021 7:25 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 24
Views: 20650

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

new favorite outfit! Way back in mid march I got a hold of a sick vinyl-and-lycra tight goth shirt from a goth store (It's like, wide strips of vinyl with thinner lycra strips in between. sleeveless, with a zip-up high collar) along with some authentic tall combat boots. combine those with a pair of...
by bikinksterboy
Fri Mar 12, 2021 8:37 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 11
Views: 5652

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

she isn't seeing anyone specifically for that, no, but she plans to talk about it with her therapist and wants to see a doctor soon. I doubt she'd be comfortable talking about it in relation to sex with her therapist because her current therapist is unequipped to deal with trans people, has repeated...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Mar 11, 2021 10:00 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 11
Views: 5652

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

For sure, and it is becoming increasingly viable for us to meet in person as circumstances change! my parents got their second vaccine shot a while ago, and my gf might be able to get vaccinated soon as well. I just don't know how far I'll be able to get with any sex conversations right now when she...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Mar 11, 2021 9:31 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 11
Views: 5652

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

I figured it'd be something to that effect. I agree that the whole "orgasm gap" framework isn't really that great to begin with for the reasons you mentioned. My girlfriend and I had already discussed her concerns a bit together, and a lot of it also ties into her personal anxieties and dy...
by bikinksterboy
Wed Mar 10, 2021 8:50 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 24
Views: 20650

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

my favorite as of now is probably my pink Steven Universe varsity jacket. it embodies my masculine core and bright pastel aspirations and comfort outside stereotypes of my gender. I feel super cool and self-assured when wearing it. I love the soft texture and the little white bands, and how it's lik...
by bikinksterboy
Wed Mar 10, 2021 5:29 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 11
Views: 5652

Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

is there any research or precedent to show that the so-called "orgasm gap" also happens among non-cishet couples? is there any discussion, discourse, what have you, about men and womens assumed and internalized sexual roles under patriarchy, when it's not about a cis man with a cis woman? ...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Jan 28, 2021 9:12 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: discreet storage and cleaning of sexy wear
Replies: 1
Views: 4563

discreet storage and cleaning of sexy wear

what's the best way to discreetly store and clean the panties and jockstrap and other clothes/gear I wear for crossdressing and sexy times, without them getting all dusty and gross? the only 100% private storage space I have in my parents home where I live is a tiny little cupboard under a wine clos...
by bikinksterboy
Mon Dec 28, 2020 7:29 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?
Replies: 13
Views: 7469

Re: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?

Hi, How is everyone? I hope you guys are doing well this Christmas. It's almost here and yet, some of us are still coping up trying to survive this pandemic by doing something productive every day. Tbh, I've been feeling anxious these past weeks and I want to reward myself for surviving this pandem...
by bikinksterboy
Fri Dec 18, 2020 7:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is the Scarleteen Staff Mad at Me?
Replies: 7
Views: 4528

Re: Is the Scarleteen Staff Mad at Me?

concern trolling is a tactic where someone on one side of a discussion pretends to be on the other side "just with some concerns." You (the general hypothetical you, not you specifically) present yourself as an ally or potential ally just with some reservations or questions that need to be...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Dec 17, 2020 6:26 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?
Replies: 13
Views: 7469

Re: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?

thanks! these dice are for Vampire: the Masquerade but I also have an ongoing D&D campaign and I dabble in lots of different systems. and I hope I do enjoy the dildo!~ the other kind of roleplay doesn't usually have dice since it's just freeform, but I suppose sexual TTRPGs have to exist somewhere
by bikinksterboy
Thu Dec 17, 2020 5:25 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?
Replies: 13
Views: 7469

Re: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?

I'm probably gonna get myself RPG dice, jewelry, and/or my first dildo. It's for Chanukah, not Christmas, though! :D

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