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by bikinksterboy
Mon Mar 18, 2024 9:01 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: masturbation double standards
Replies: 5
Views: 3699

Re: masturbation double standards

ok so, this whole thread came about from young me confusing the fact that mainstream porn intended for straight men naturally would not focus on male masturbation in the same way as with women, with some kind of general indication about culture, combined with general stigma about masturbation going ...
by bikinksterboy
Mon Mar 18, 2024 8:39 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: vent over the prevalence of creepy people online (tw)
Replies: 2
Views: 2710

Re: vent over the prevalence of creepy people online (tw)

I am far from properly educated on the subject, but if the person is transfem it's more than likely that it was a targeted smear campaign from a very small group who persistently do things like this. it's a fairly well-known phenomenon on tumblr to my knowledge
by bikinksterboy
Mon Mar 18, 2024 8:28 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Musings about recent "kink as a minor" advice page
Replies: 2
Views: 19

Re: Musings about recent "kink as a minor" advice page

not so much regret as embarrassment... not fully committed to ditching the handle yet
by bikinksterboy
Mon Mar 18, 2024 8:18 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Bodies Linklove
Replies: 2
Views: 3795

Re: Bodies Linklove

nope, that link is dead now too
by bikinksterboy
Mon Mar 18, 2024 7:49 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: feeling too skinny
Replies: 11
Views: 7394

Re: feeling too skinny

the above reply is basically just me channeling a mini panic attack into a post, so some of it is real some of it is complete nonsense. also only just now realizing I only partly responded to the actual question. I think part of it was spurred on by taking a lot of classes in which media analysis wa...
by bikinksterboy
Mon Mar 18, 2024 7:22 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: feeling too skinny
Replies: 11
Views: 7394

Re: feeling too skinny

super late reply and in some ways this thread is not relevant to me currently, but I guess, the not feeling queer enough thing is because I'm in a "straight" relationship with my (trans female) partner, and I"m not super stereotypically effeminate or androgynous in any meaningful way ...
by bikinksterboy
Mon Mar 18, 2024 7:14 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Musings about recent "kink as a minor" advice page
Replies: 2
Views: 19

Re: Musings about recent "kink as a minor" advice page

on the topic of kink, dang I really regret this username, is it possible to change it?
by bikinksterboy
Mon Mar 18, 2024 6:53 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Musings about recent "kink as a minor" advice page
Replies: 2
Views: 19

Musings about recent "kink as a minor" advice page

so I noticed, in one of the recent advice articles, you had someone asking about learning about kink as a minor, and while the response given was excellent for an all-around understanding, I feel like implicit in that question was some level of specific know how that literally is on mostly 18+ websi...
by bikinksterboy
Sat Nov 18, 2023 3:10 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: UTI from oral?
Replies: 2
Views: 5174

Re: UTI from oral?

I really should have said something to her right away but I was very much in the moment. She spent the next few minutes continuing with me til I orgasmed and only told her about the vomit after. She's very upset and feels I prioritized my pleasure over her health. I definitely should have said somet...
by bikinksterboy
Sat Nov 18, 2023 3:01 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: UTI from oral?
Replies: 2
Views: 5174

UTI from oral?

I accidentally threw up a tiny bit right at the end when giving my (long time of 6 years, tested) partner (Trans F) oral sex, right before she came. She's very concerned and upset that I could have given her a UTI. What is the risk here and what should we do?
by bikinksterboy
Fri Oct 07, 2022 4:00 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: feeling too skinny
Replies: 11
Views: 7394

Re: feeling too skinny

(I know that I have accepted my beard in another post, I often have confusing contradictory feelings)
by bikinksterboy
Thu Oct 06, 2022 6:37 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: feeling too skinny
Replies: 11
Views: 7394

Re: feeling too skinny

this is an old-ass thread, but reviving it now: this time the feels are again about the skinniness and thin arms, but 3 other new developments: 1) feeling less of a "man" in terms of maturity looking at my visible ribs and lankiness. Like, I know there's no way I'm supposed to look really ...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Oct 06, 2022 5:54 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How have you met your partners?
Replies: 13
Views: 9038

Re: How have you met your partners?

btw my partner is a woman now and goes by she/her
by bikinksterboy
Thu Oct 06, 2022 5:34 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: ddl/lg
Replies: 5
Views: 7446

Re: ddl/lg

apologies all, from current me, for my highly uninformed hot take way back when. I disavow the original post as it was full of shit and doesn't represent what I believe.
by bikinksterboy
Thu Oct 06, 2022 5:30 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my mom wants to control my life!
Replies: 4
Views: 4765

Re: my mom wants to control my life!

this situation changed a lot since I made the post and looking back I was extremely emotional and in a vulnerable place when making it. I ended up not going that time because it really was not safe. Back early pandemic we were all so naive about safety. Since then I've visited for extended stays a f...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Oct 06, 2022 4:56 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: What brings you euphoria? A question for all!
Replies: 10
Views: 11738

Re: What brings you euphoria? A question for all!

for me, my facial hair, jackets, and flannel shirts are very affirming to my masculinity. They're all cliches but I had my own personal journey of allowing myself to feel like I was "worthy" of them and it's like I don't need to be a hulking beefcake or a macho jackass to adopt these thing...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Oct 06, 2022 4:20 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: does a hemorrhoid mean no anal?
Replies: 1
Views: 2942

does a hemorrhoid mean no anal?

not much more to say, other than a couple weeks ago I went to my primary physician and confirmed my suspicion that I had a small hemorrhoid in my butt that will probably go away on its own with time. it's not painful and it doesn't really interfere with anything and I don't like bleed. All that bein...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Apr 28, 2022 6:31 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: self karada tie?
Replies: 6
Views: 4405

Re: self karada tie?

oh gosh my partner and I are far too anxious to engage in any kind of even sex-adjacent thing with another person in that capacity, but I definitely would be interested in like, video tutorials, books, or blogs
by bikinksterboy
Wed Apr 27, 2022 5:13 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Two truths and a lie
Replies: 40
Views: 21750

Re: Two truths and a lie

only just now realizing 2 years later that you probably meant "you got me" on your lie, not on mine lol
by bikinksterboy
Wed Apr 27, 2022 4:30 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do you Practice Setting Boundaries?
Replies: 6
Views: 4435

Re: How do you Practice Setting Boundaries?

dammit I do the same thing! the "step one say yes" thing. also I think that kind of automatic speech is something in general I want to change. I often feel anxious in conversation so I just like laugh or say some pat response to my girlfriend or whoever it is when they say something automa...
by bikinksterboy
Sun Mar 13, 2022 8:25 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do you Practice Setting Boundaries?
Replies: 6
Views: 4435

Re: How do you Practice Setting Boundaries?

something I do a lot is try to set very firm boundaries around having personal time to be alone or to end a conversation with a family member. I cohabit with my family and sometimes it can feel like they want me to be available 24/7, so it's important for me to take my own space and time.
by bikinksterboy
Sun Mar 13, 2022 8:13 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: What is Something You're Looking Forward To?
Replies: 21
Views: 18293

Re: What is Something You're Looking Forward To?

(boyfriend is girlfriend now) currently the big hype thing for me is the concert I'm going to in a few days! small club venue, vax requirement. I'm gonna be seeing The Protomen live and it's so amazing! listened to every single track of theirs and they are just so perfect and it'll be my second live...
by bikinksterboy
Sun Mar 13, 2022 7:52 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
Replies: 10
Views: 25026

Re: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc

OMG it's by Tamsyn Muir and not NK Jemisin I'm so embarrassed sorry!
by bikinksterboy
Sun Mar 13, 2022 7:46 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
Replies: 10
Views: 25026

Re: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc

I've heard Gideon The Ninth by NK Jemisin is fairly queer but I may be confusing it with another book
by bikinksterboy
Sun Mar 13, 2022 6:05 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 24
Views: 27381

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

an update! I've since added to The Goth Outfit™ with an ankh choker and fishnet sleeves! still have yet to wear it outside because of extreme embarrassment and anxiety, plus COVID, but it looks cool as heck in the photos I took of myself in it!

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