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by bikinksterboy
Fri Mar 12, 2021 8:37 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 7
Views: 513

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

she isn't seeing anyone specifically for that, no, but she plans to talk about it with her therapist and wants to see a doctor soon. I doubt she'd be comfortable talking about it in relation to sex with her therapist because her current therapist is unequipped to deal with trans people, has repeated...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Mar 11, 2021 10:00 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 7
Views: 513

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

For sure, and it is becoming increasingly viable for us to meet in person as circumstances change! my parents got their second vaccine shot a while ago, and my gf might be able to get vaccinated soon as well. I just don't know how far I'll be able to get with any sex conversations right now when she...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Mar 11, 2021 9:31 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 7
Views: 513

Re: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

I figured it'd be something to that effect. I agree that the whole "orgasm gap" framework isn't really that great to begin with for the reasons you mentioned. My girlfriend and I had already discussed her concerns a bit together, and a lot of it also ties into her personal anxieties and dy...
by bikinksterboy
Wed Mar 10, 2021 8:50 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What's your favorite outfit?
Replies: 19
Views: 6144

Re: What's your favorite outfit?

my favorite as of now is probably my pink Steven Universe varsity jacket. it embodies my masculine core and bright pastel aspirations and comfort outside stereotypes of my gender. I feel super cool and self-assured when wearing it. I love the soft texture and the little white bands, and how it's lik...
by bikinksterboy
Wed Mar 10, 2021 5:29 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering
Replies: 7
Views: 513

Orgasm Gap 2: The Queering

is there any research or precedent to show that the so-called "orgasm gap" also happens among non-cishet couples? is there any discussion, discourse, what have you, about men and womens assumed and internalized sexual roles under patriarchy, when it's not about a cis man with a cis woman? ...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Jan 28, 2021 9:12 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: discreet storage and cleaning of sexy wear
Replies: 1
Views: 509

discreet storage and cleaning of sexy wear

what's the best way to discreetly store and clean the panties and jockstrap and other clothes/gear I wear for crossdressing and sexy times, without them getting all dusty and gross? the only 100% private storage space I have in my parents home where I live is a tiny little cupboard under a wine clos...
by bikinksterboy
Mon Dec 28, 2020 7:29 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?
Replies: 13
Views: 1736

Re: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?

Hi, How is everyone? I hope you guys are doing well this Christmas. It's almost here and yet, some of us are still coping up trying to survive this pandemic by doing something productive every day. Tbh, I've been feeling anxious these past weeks and I want to reward myself for surviving this pandem...
by bikinksterboy
Fri Dec 18, 2020 7:42 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Is the Scarleteen Staff Mad at Me?
Replies: 7
Views: 797

Re: Is the Scarleteen Staff Mad at Me?

concern trolling is a tactic where someone on one side of a discussion pretends to be on the other side "just with some concerns." You (the general hypothetical you, not you specifically) present yourself as an ally or potential ally just with some reservations or questions that need to be...
by bikinksterboy
Thu Dec 17, 2020 6:26 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?
Replies: 13
Views: 1736

Re: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?

thanks! these dice are for Vampire: the Masquerade but I also have an ongoing D&D campaign and I dabble in lots of different systems. and I hope I do enjoy the dildo!~ the other kind of roleplay doesn't usually have dice since it's just freeform, but I suppose sexual TTRPGs have to exist somewhere
by bikinksterboy
Thu Dec 17, 2020 5:25 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?
Replies: 13
Views: 1736

Re: Do you have a gift for yourself this Christmas?

I'm probably gonna get myself RPG dice, jewelry, and/or my first dildo. It's for Chanukah, not Christmas, though! :D
by bikinksterboy
Mon Dec 14, 2020 7:51 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: happily partnered
Replies: 2
Views: 1062

Re: happily partnered

so: an update. partner is binary trans and currently identifies not fluid, goes by she/her now.
by bikinksterboy
Mon Dec 14, 2020 7:05 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: opening it up
Replies: 5
Views: 1244

Re: opening it up

just I guess as an FYI for peeps, this post is about my girlfriend who is trans and started her transition over the course of our relationship (uses she/her exclusively now). Can someone edit it? I feel like someone probably should, if possible. Probably for all my posts where I mention her from aro...
by bikinksterboy
Sat Dec 12, 2020 12:59 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Loneliness bites.
Replies: 9
Views: 1889

Re: Loneliness bites.

using video more in calls with my girlfriend has helped me a lot wrt feeling more connected to people, and I also try to care for my body when I can. Sometimes that bites back as it can become a procrastinating activity or a burden/compulsive, but it's been good generally. I want to be more regular ...
by bikinksterboy
Sat Dec 12, 2020 12:35 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Using Quarantine/Staying at Home To Explore Identity
Replies: 2
Views: 1646

Re: Using Quarantine/Staying at Home To Explore Identity

The lockdown has given me a lot of time to explore all the ins and outs of presentation, fro various levels of shaving, to even little things like my hair and allowing myself to try moving in a more stereotypically "feminine" way, etc. I haven't come to any revelations, but I'm trying out ...
by bikinksterboy
Sat Dec 12, 2020 12:28 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Just BDSM in general
Replies: 6
Views: 1616

Re: Just BDSM in general

idk if this is at all relevant, but there are ways to legally be sexual and explore BDSM with people without necessarily either going into a full relationship or doing anything in person! text roleplay, collaborative fiction writing, and sexting are all options! That sort of thing might be something...
by bikinksterboy
Sun Sep 13, 2020 9:51 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: nothing to talk about with gf. is this normal?
Replies: 2
Views: 1040

Re: nothing to talk about with gf. is this normal?

I talked about this and thought on it for a bit, and I've come to the conclusion that it's a thing where I'm probably afraid of being vulnerable by talking about her interests and engaging in our conversations because it opens up a can of worms of "What if I'll sound stupid?" "what if...
by bikinksterboy
Sun Sep 13, 2020 9:25 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: nothing to talk about with gf. is this normal?
Replies: 2
Views: 1040

nothing to talk about with gf. is this normal?

Today an issue came up in conversation with my girlfriend which has come up before in our 3-year relationship, which is that it seems like we don't have anything to talk about. our conversations recently and sometimes in the past are filled with lots of silence and long pauses. She feels like we don...
by bikinksterboy
Wed Aug 12, 2020 8:28 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: my mom wants to control my life!
Replies: 2
Views: 1140

my mom wants to control my life!

how do I convince my mom that she doesn't have the right to forbid me from sleeping over at my girlfriend's place because she doesn't believe in pre-engagement sex (which is itself really a cover for the fact that she just wants to control that aspect of my life as an extension of her general desire...
by bikinksterboy
Wed Aug 12, 2020 2:37 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: ddl/lg
Replies: 3
Views: 2843

Re: ddl/lg

umm, I started the thread linked, not Cassie. What is the "original thread" that's being referred to, then?
by bikinksterboy
Wed Aug 12, 2020 2:20 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: am I faking nipple sensitivity?
Replies: 2
Views: 1350

Re: am I faking nipple sensitivity?

this might not actually be the case, as it can change somewhat regularly for me. It might even be more complex, come to think of it. looking back on my experiences I think maybe like oral nipple stimulation does "physically' still feel good but just rubbing doesn't. it's hard to parse out eithe...
by bikinksterboy
Wed Aug 12, 2020 2:08 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: am I faking nipple sensitivity?
Replies: 2
Views: 1350

am I faking nipple sensitivity?

(cis guy btw) I used to find that my nipples were really sensitive sexually, and in the past few years have incorporated them a lot into sex and masturbation, But the thing is, recently I'm I think realizing that maybe they aren't physically as sensitive as they were/I thought? nipple stimulation st...
by bikinksterboy
Sun Jul 26, 2020 1:41 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: how to get my dad to stop opening my mail?
Replies: 8
Views: 1636

Re: how to get my dad to stop opening my mail?

seems like it worked!
by bikinksterboy
Sun Jul 12, 2020 11:01 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: How has your gender expression evolved?
Replies: 17
Views: 10536

Re: How has your gender expression evolved?

I've started my plan to shave with the seasons, as it were a while ago. It's really simple. I shave everything for the summer to cool down, and let it grow through autumn and winter as it gets colder. I'm kind of excited to see how this can give me new opportunities to play around with my presentati...
by bikinksterboy
Sun Jul 12, 2020 10:15 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: How is Everyone?
Replies: 9
Views: 2583

Re: How is Everyone?

I'm doing good! today is just a lazy chill day for me. gonna do some much-needed cleaning and prep for my upcoming Vampire: the Masquerade game some more
by bikinksterboy
Sun Jul 12, 2020 5:11 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: how to get my dad to stop opening my mail?
Replies: 8
Views: 1636

Re: how to get my dad to stop opening my mail?

I brought it up to my dad and he seemed receptive. Here's hoping it all works out!

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