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by al
Sun Jul 19, 2020 7:33 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: i am afraid he wants to move forward too fast
Replies: 1
Views: 307

Re: i am afraid he wants to move forward too fast

Hi there wildmarshmallow, and welcome to Scarleteen! Congrats on the new date! I'm sorry to hear that the things he's saying make you feel uncomfy. I think it's totally understandable that you're not quite ready to be sexual with him after just 5 days (or any amount of days - your own readiness and ...
by al
Sun Jul 05, 2020 8:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: How Old is Too Old?
Replies: 5
Views: 350

Re: How Old is Too Old?

Hi there girlplayer34, and welcome to Scarleteen! I'm so happy that you asked this question, because it has an easy answer: there is no age limit for having sex! There are lots of people who don't have sex until their 20s, and 30s, and beyond! There are even some people who choose not to have sex th...
by al
Sun Jun 21, 2020 8:56 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Brown discharge after losing virginity
Replies: 3
Views: 597

Re: Brown discharge after losing virginity

Hi cody2323, It sounds like the brown discharge started a few days before you were due to take your placebo pills. If so, you're most likely experiencing discharge earlier than expected before your period. Menstrual cycles don't run like clockwork - things like stress, missing a pill or taking it to...
by al
Sun Jun 21, 2020 8:39 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Withdrawal bleeding
Replies: 3
Views: 508

Re: Withdrawal bleeding

You're welcome! I'm glad to hear that you're backing up your BC with condoms just in case. That's about as effective as pregnancy prevention gets! In general, we like to recommend to folks to stay away from the internet if they're feeling anxious or worried about sexual health topics, because a lot ...
by al
Fri Jun 19, 2020 10:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: finding a boyfriend
Replies: 3
Views: 430

Re: finding a boyfriend

Hi there fivefootzero, I'm sorry to hear that masturbation has felt boring. Have you tried experimenting with different methods, or maybe tried fantasizing about something or looking at erotic media about something different than what you usually do? I also wanted to add in - this is a pretty common...
by al
Fri Jun 19, 2020 9:27 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Comfort during sex
Replies: 9
Views: 2318

Re: Comfort during sex

Hi pinkcities, I'm so glad to hear that!! The baby steps are so important, and communication makes all the difference. :) I wanted to add that the comfort with ourselves and our bodies' quirks that you're working towards is also something that we're constantly developing and growing with time, diffe...
by al
Fri Jun 19, 2020 9:18 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Scared to touch myself?
Replies: 1
Views: 591

Re: Scared to touch myself?

Hi there teeny18, and welcome to Scarleteen! Well first of all, I'm glad to hear that you haven't experienced anything traumatic that made you feel this way. To dig into it a bit more - what kinds of thoughts come up for you before you go to masturbate or as those gross feelings come up? Are you thi...
by al
Fri Jun 19, 2020 8:52 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Withdrawal bleeding
Replies: 3
Views: 508

Re: Withdrawal bleeding

Hi there Alester, and welcome to Scarleteen! Yep, you can be sure that if you have a period on the week that you're not taking pills (or taking the blank pills), that you're not pregnant! The lack of hormones created when your body becomes pregnant is the thing that starts period or withdrawal bleed...
by al
Fri Jun 19, 2020 8:41 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Diarrhea and birth control pill
Replies: 1
Views: 294

Re: Diarrhea and birth control pill

Hi there Meggyd18, Usually, irregularities in bowel movements aren't a significant factor that interferes with birth control unless they can be classified as diarrhea (essentially pooping out watery liquid) because that means that the body hasn't digested what was put into it properly. That's someth...
by al
Sun Jun 14, 2020 9:05 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Any ideas?
Replies: 4
Views: 870

Re: Any ideas?

Hi Cosmakat, If there's nothing else that feels off or fits the "abnormal" descriptors in that article, then it's possible what you're experiencing is just what your body feels it needs to keep itself healthy at the moment. The vagina really does have a pretty effective self-cleaning cycle...
by al
Sun Jun 14, 2020 8:06 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: First Time Fears
Replies: 9
Views: 964

Re: First Time Fears

Hi there Digdawg, Since you've taken your oral contraceptive consistently, and it seems like the condom was used correctly, your relative risk is indeed pretty low. You can compare the effectiveness rate with other BC combos over at The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Con...
by al
Thu Jun 11, 2020 9:03 pm
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Sexual Desire/Sensitivity Gone?
Replies: 9
Views: 990

Re: Sexual Desire/Sensitivity Gone?

Hi bananakate, I totally get feeling nervous about being vulnerable or talking about "serious" stuff when that isn't something that happens a lot. One thing that I find helpful is thinking through what I might say, which you're welcome to do here. What would it be like to ask him to talk f...
by al
Thu Jun 11, 2020 8:38 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: I'm kind of tired of being single
Replies: 7
Views: 961

Re: I'm kind of tired of being single

Hi KindaStrange, I'm glad to hear that you're focusing on friends first! That's usually the best thing for people feeling lonely or isolated from their peers - bonding over shared activities (like art!). How do you feel about the prospect of making new friends? Does that feel easy, or is it somethin...
by al
Thu Jun 11, 2020 7:42 pm
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Abortion
Replies: 22
Views: 4717

Re: Abortion

Hi there Letmebe, Thanks for checking in - I can't say for sure why you're experiencing the gastrointestinal distress (as I like to call it). But it's not an unusual experience for people who have gone through a surgical procedure to feel a little "off" during the weeks afterwards. Your bo...
by al
Sun Jun 07, 2020 9:22 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Female Orgasm ?
Replies: 13
Views: 1843

Re: Female Orgasm ?

Hi hann,

Have you ever tried using something other than your hands, like a vibrator or DIY sex toy?
by al
Fri Jun 05, 2020 8:47 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: A thread for non-Black allies
Replies: 8
Views: 1729

Re: A thread for non-Black allies

I loved the essays by those writers. Difficult on my heart to read, but so important. Has anyone been able to find anything specifically for non-Black people of color? I haven't quite had the time to look around for good ones that explore anti-Blackness in non-white communities.
by al
Thu Jun 04, 2020 11:21 pm
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Abortion
Replies: 22
Views: 4717

Re: Abortion

Hi Letmebe, I'm so, so glad that you had a positive experience with the clinic staff. Feeling like you're in charge of what happens with your body and that the providers are there to take care of you is something that you deserve every time you're in the office, but especially for abortion procedure...
by al
Sun May 31, 2020 9:27 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Support for Black users
Replies: 0
Views: 1062

Support for Black users

Due to the hyper-visibility of systemic and interpersonal violence against Black people that is being widely protested and debated across the nation, we want to offer a space for Black users to vent, reflect, and support each other here. We here at Scarleteen want to acknowledge the emotional burden...
by al
Sun May 31, 2020 9:27 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: A thread for non-Black allies
Replies: 8
Views: 1729

A thread for non-Black allies

This is a space where non-Black allies (including non-Black people of color) can discuss amongst each other ways that we can support and show up for the Black community during this time. Feel free to share article, book, or movie recommendations, resources on anti-racism, or stories about recognizin...
by al
Sun May 31, 2020 9:06 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: I’m so sick of racism
Replies: 8
Views: 1061

Re: I’m so sick of racism

Hi thewrit3r, I feel the same way (as much as I can, anyway, while being a non-Black person of color). If I feel outraged and heartbroken and exhausted, I can only imagine what it must feel like to have your own humanity debated across the news and social media. That your life matters should not be ...
by al
Sun May 31, 2020 8:44 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex and all the complications
Replies: 41
Views: 2602

Re: Sex and all the complications

Hi there ShadowSong, I'm so sorry to hear that your therapist wasn't all that helpful. Really, it's pretty irresponsible for her to turn it back on you and say that she can't help you. How have you been getting along in the past few days? Have you been able to journal at all, and if so, has it been ...
by al
Sun May 31, 2020 7:37 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Weird discharge after being fingered
Replies: 1
Views: 840

Re: Weird discharge after being fingered

Hi there owlbab, and welcome to Scarleteen! I can't say for sure what's going on, because I'm not a doctor, but in all likelihood what you're experiencing is normal. Did your boyfriend wash his hands beforehand, or use a glove? If not, that could be an explanation - introducing something else into t...
by al
Thu May 28, 2020 8:29 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Cranberry?
Replies: 4
Views: 368

Re: Cranberry?

It's not dumb - it's a pretty common fear or insecurity among people with vaginas and vulvas. There's a long history of advertising and popular media shaming or making jokes about bodies and fluids and their natural look/taste/smell, especially around vulvas and vaginas. In fact, there's a whole lin...
by al
Thu May 28, 2020 7:31 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Cranberry?
Replies: 4
Views: 368

Re: Cranberry?

Hi sky, There really isn't anything that has a guarantee to make sexual fluids or genitals smell or taste a certain way. There are some things that might have an effect on smell/taste, like regular bathing, wearing breathable clothing/underwear, limiting things like red meat/dairy/whatever, but they...
by al
Thu May 28, 2020 7:10 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Extremely bad sore throat. Need I say more?
Replies: 3
Views: 383

Re: Extremely bad sore throat. Need I say more?

Hi there Everglow, I think you're doing all the right things in terms of drinking liquids and hot beverages - sometimes cough drops or sore throat lozenges can help too. I think time and rest will be the most helpful. I hope it feels better soon. :/ I'm glad that you were able to recognize that it w...

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