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by Sunshine
Tue Oct 11, 2022 2:06 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: What brings you euphoria? A question for all!
Replies: 10
Views: 11834

Re: What brings you euphoria? A question for all!

Interesting question, may I chime in? I don't know whether "euphoria" is the most accurate term to describe how I feel about my gender but I've always found great comfort in my femininity. No matter how many other issues I had with my body at any time during my life (I suffered from an eat...
by Sunshine
Wed Aug 31, 2022 2:11 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally
Replies: 16
Views: 4889

Re: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally

That sounds good, thanks Heather. I kind of expect the answer will be something along the lines of "I don't really know myself" and / or something defeatist about how there isn't anything anyone can do right now. But then at least I've put the awkwardness out there and maybe we can both la...
by Sunshine
Wed Aug 31, 2022 12:35 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally
Replies: 16
Views: 4889

Re: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally

Heather! Thanks for your reply! I'd actually love to address the awkwardness directly with my friend and I agree that having a direct conversation would probably be helpful. Ideally in person. I'm just unsure how to approach that without coming accross like "YOUR pain is making ME feel awkward ...
by Sunshine
Wed Aug 31, 2022 8:24 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally
Replies: 16
Views: 4889

Re: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally

Sigh... It was really fantastic, yeah, but now I'm back in the real world and because we don't live very near each other (any more) our communication is long distance again and here I am once more, feeling confused and uncertain. The thing is, the response to my message back then was basically "...
by Sunshine
Wed Aug 17, 2022 2:17 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Help me understand being non binary
Replies: 6
Views: 3037

Re: Help me understand being non binary

Hello Temeletjie, is it ok if I chime in here? I've been thinking a lot about gender issues lately and I find your thoughts very interesting. Like Mo, I've never been quite able to follow the "I'm just not attracted to people with certain genitals!" argument because I don't understand how ...
by Sunshine
Tue Aug 16, 2022 5:36 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally
Replies: 16
Views: 4889

Re: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally

Thanks Mo, it sure was! We were out in the middle of nowhere together for 3 days and I can't begin to express what a relief it can be to take a break from society like that... There was zero awkwardness, we just laughed 99% of the time even when we were having serious conversations because it was ju...
by Sunshine
Fri Aug 05, 2022 12:57 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally
Replies: 16
Views: 4889

Re: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally

So, quick update: I recently messaged them saying pretty much what Mo and Sam suggested. The response was a very sweet thank you for caring but no, I don't want to talk about this any further atm and I don't want you to change anything for now because it is indeed very stressful. Thanks so much for ...
by Sunshine
Wed Aug 03, 2022 5:40 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally
Replies: 16
Views: 4889

Re: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally

Thanks for your insight, Mo! Yeah, the last thing I want is to cause even more stress. I don't need to be the person shouting "you have to make changes!" from one side while the rest screams "you have to conform to our standards!" from the other. That would be incredibly hypocrit...
by Sunshine
Tue Aug 02, 2022 12:43 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally
Replies: 16
Views: 4889

Re: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally

That does make sense, yes, thanks Sam! And yeah, I do have this "something has to happen RIGHT NOW!" feeling. Totally. :) But I tell myself that it's not a right now issue, just one that I newly learned about. It's been there all these years, I just didn't know about it before. And what ne...
by Sunshine
Tue Aug 02, 2022 8:50 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally
Replies: 16
Views: 4889

Re: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally

Hey Mo! Thanks so much for the reply! Very much appreciated. It sounds like a good idea to explicitly refer back to the initial conversation and limit whatever I have to say to that. Just me adding something I didn't manage to say right then rather than invading their privacy. I have a million quest...
by Sunshine
Mon Aug 01, 2022 9:41 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally
Replies: 16
Views: 4889

Looking for advice on how to be the best possible friend and ally

Hello lovely people here at Scarleteen, I haven't been around for a long while, and certainly haven't gotten any younger since my last post. I'm in my mid-30s now, so if that's too old to be taking up time here, please feel free to ignore or tell me to go away. Something came up in my life recently ...
by Sunshine
Fri Jul 27, 2018 12:30 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: If You've Been Feeling Helpless or Disempowered Lately, What Things Have Helped You Feel Better?
Replies: 2
Views: 4755

Re: If You've Been Feeling Helpless or Disempowered Lately, What Things Have Helped You Feel Better?

Sam, I feel like you describe. Really worried and discouraged and afraid to look at the news. I live outside the US and even though I am lucky to be where I am compared to most alternatives, I am often overwhelmed by a sense of helplessness. Donating to organizations that do good work is a good stra...
by Sunshine
Thu May 03, 2018 8:56 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: how did they get pregnant if they didn’t want to get pregnant?
Replies: 5
Views: 24104

Re: how did they get pregnant if they didn’t want to get pregnant?

I don't know any statistics but in the cases I personally know of, the unplanned pregnancy happened because someone's hormonal birth control failed (missed pills, vomiting / diarrhea etc) and they weren't using a barrier. Or the pregnancy was created at a time when they were under the influence of a...
by Sunshine
Fri Apr 13, 2018 3:12 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Do people really forget the pain of pregnancy and birthing?
Replies: 5
Views: 13224

Re: Do people really forget the pain of pregnancy and birthing?

I vividly remember the entire night my child was born and all the many different sensations and emotions, both good and bad. I heard the "oh, you forget the pain" statement a lot from other mothers, so I suppose that for some people it's true to a degree but certainly not for everyone.
by Sunshine
Wed Dec 20, 2017 6:09 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Biological sex insecurity
Replies: 7
Views: 5330

Re: Biological sex insecurity

P.S.: I just realized I made it sound as if I had a child with my own father - that's not the case, of course. I was talking about two different men. Duh, but just wanted to make that very clear! :D
by Sunshine
Wed Dec 20, 2017 6:02 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Biological sex insecurity
Replies: 7
Views: 5330

Re: Biological sex insecurity

Hey there, I said I wouldn't engage much around here these days because I am beyond my twenties now, but I feel like I want to say a few things in response here. Please tell me to back off if I am being inappropriate or unhelpful. Cityofthedead, you sound very unhappy and frustrated. The thoughts an...
by Sunshine
Mon May 29, 2017 2:38 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Many thanks from a new mom
Replies: 1
Views: 7404

Many thanks from a new mom

Dear Scarleteen staff and community, this is to say a big fat THANK YOU to everybody around here who has been so helpful to me in the past with sympathy, advice and support. My life has taken a huge turn for the better over the last year and my health, emotional stability, relationship and job and l...
by Sunshine
Wed Jan 11, 2017 10:48 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: My brain won't stop...
Replies: 19
Views: 9726

Re: My brain won't stop...

I can relate to that... the anxiety-related guilt you describe, I mean. Don't know if this is useful to you, but sometimes, I feel like all I can do about my own anxiety is just label it as such and wait it out. There are moments where I can't do much either, where it seems hard work to just breathe...
by Sunshine
Tue Dec 13, 2016 10:52 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Trying to stay calm in a scary world
Replies: 8
Views: 6633

Re: Trying to stay calm in a scary world

Thanks for posting those links! I read both "Rebel Well" and "Rebel Well wherever you are" and found both very helpful.
by Sunshine
Mon Nov 21, 2016 2:21 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Yay for gender-neutral washrooms!
Replies: 7
Views: 6802

Re: Yay for gender-neutral washrooms!

I have had a similar experience in several women's bathrooms at restaurants: Artistic but very sexualized photos of men hanging in the stalls. It creeps me out because I don't like people staring at me when I pee. I don't even go to the toilet in front of my partner. Have no idea why people think th...
by Sunshine
Mon Nov 14, 2016 11:06 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Trying to stay calm in a scary world
Replies: 8
Views: 6633

Re: Trying to stay calm in a scary world

It's actually a pretty big something, if you ask me. Still, I am so, so sorry for all that you and your friends are going through. I think I have overcome the shock phase by now. I am astonished and more than a bit alarmed by the rapidity with which many media have begun to try and normalize the sit...
by Sunshine
Sun Nov 13, 2016 3:17 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: LGBT books/movies that don't end in tragedy
Replies: 25
Views: 29095

Re: LGBT books/movies that don't end in tragedy

Certainly not Brokeback Mountain (sniff)... But I love that movie anyway... Since we're all more or less in need of cheering up these days, though: GBF: Basically a teen / highschool comedy, but with a twist. And one of my favorite endings ever when it comes to the central relationship. Breakfast on...
by Sunshine
Fri Nov 11, 2016 12:58 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Trying to stay calm in a scary world
Replies: 8
Views: 6633

Re: Trying to stay calm in a scary world

Thank you for replying! It feels really good to know that I am not alone. Unfortunately, most people around me treat the election and its results as a big joke. They think it doesn't have anything to do with them because it's happening "over there". Well, I have family "over there&quo...
by Sunshine
Thu Nov 10, 2016 1:51 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Trying to stay calm in a scary world
Replies: 8
Views: 6633

Trying to stay calm in a scary world

Hello everybody. First of all: I am so, so, so sorry for everybody affected by this election. I did expect this outcome, but that's not really helping me personally right now and I can imagine many of you may feel the same. I don't live in the USA, but I am still convinced that this will affect me a...
by Sunshine
Sat Oct 22, 2016 3:18 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: 17th on my 17th
Replies: 8
Views: 4088

Re: 17th on my 17th

Hey there, I can't speak for anybody else of course, but I really don't think anybody on here hates you and I certainly don't. There's a big difference between disapproving of something a person did and disapproving of the person themselves. As for your friends saying what you did was okay and staff...

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