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by Sunshine
Fri Jul 27, 2018 12:30 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: If You've Been Feeling Helpless or Disempowered Lately, What Things Have Helped You Feel Better?
Replies: 2
Views: 3124

Re: If You've Been Feeling Helpless or Disempowered Lately, What Things Have Helped You Feel Better?

Sam, I feel like you describe. Really worried and discouraged and afraid to look at the news. I live outside the US and even though I am lucky to be where I am compared to most alternatives, I am often overwhelmed by a sense of helplessness. Donating to organizations that do good work is a good stra...
by Sunshine
Thu May 03, 2018 8:56 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: how did they get pregnant if they didn’t want to get pregnant?
Replies: 5
Views: 12645

Re: how did they get pregnant if they didn’t want to get pregnant?

I don't know any statistics but in the cases I personally know of, the unplanned pregnancy happened because someone's hormonal birth control failed (missed pills, vomiting / diarrhea etc) and they weren't using a barrier. Or the pregnancy was created at a time when they were under the influence of a...
by Sunshine
Fri Apr 13, 2018 3:12 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Do people really forget the pain of pregnancy and birthing?
Replies: 5
Views: 5279

Re: Do people really forget the pain of pregnancy and birthing?

I vividly remember the entire night my child was born and all the many different sensations and emotions, both good and bad. I heard the "oh, you forget the pain" statement a lot from other mothers, so I suppose that for some people it's true to a degree but certainly not for everyone.
by Sunshine
Wed Dec 20, 2017 6:09 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Biological sex insecurity
Replies: 7
Views: 3058

Re: Biological sex insecurity

P.S.: I just realized I made it sound as if I had a child with my own father - that's not the case, of course. I was talking about two different men. Duh, but just wanted to make that very clear! :D
by Sunshine
Wed Dec 20, 2017 6:02 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Biological sex insecurity
Replies: 7
Views: 3058

Re: Biological sex insecurity

Hey there, I said I wouldn't engage much around here these days because I am beyond my twenties now, but I feel like I want to say a few things in response here. Please tell me to back off if I am being inappropriate or unhelpful. Cityofthedead, you sound very unhappy and frustrated. The thoughts an...
by Sunshine
Mon May 29, 2017 2:38 am
Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
Topic: Many thanks from a new mom
Replies: 1
Views: 5732

Many thanks from a new mom

Dear Scarleteen staff and community, this is to say a big fat THANK YOU to everybody around here who has been so helpful to me in the past with sympathy, advice and support. My life has taken a huge turn for the better over the last year and my health, emotional stability, relationship and job and l...
by Sunshine
Wed Jan 11, 2017 10:48 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: My brain won't stop...
Replies: 19
Views: 5085

Re: My brain won't stop...

I can relate to that... the anxiety-related guilt you describe, I mean. Don't know if this is useful to you, but sometimes, I feel like all I can do about my own anxiety is just label it as such and wait it out. There are moments where I can't do much either, where it seems hard work to just breathe...
by Sunshine
Tue Dec 13, 2016 10:52 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Trying to stay calm in a scary world
Replies: 8
Views: 3860

Re: Trying to stay calm in a scary world

Thanks for posting those links! I read both "Rebel Well" and "Rebel Well wherever you are" and found both very helpful.
by Sunshine
Mon Nov 21, 2016 2:21 pm
Forum: Gender
Topic: Yay for gender-neutral washrooms!
Replies: 7
Views: 4415

Re: Yay for gender-neutral washrooms!

I have had a similar experience in several women's bathrooms at restaurants: Artistic but very sexualized photos of men hanging in the stalls. It creeps me out because I don't like people staring at me when I pee. I don't even go to the toilet in front of my partner. Have no idea why people think th...
by Sunshine
Mon Nov 14, 2016 11:06 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Trying to stay calm in a scary world
Replies: 8
Views: 3860

Re: Trying to stay calm in a scary world

It's actually a pretty big something, if you ask me. Still, I am so, so sorry for all that you and your friends are going through. I think I have overcome the shock phase by now. I am astonished and more than a bit alarmed by the rapidity with which many media have begun to try and normalize the sit...
by Sunshine
Sun Nov 13, 2016 3:17 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: LGBT books/movies that don't end in tragedy
Replies: 25
Views: 12311

Re: LGBT books/movies that don't end in tragedy

Certainly not Brokeback Mountain (sniff)... But I love that movie anyway... Since we're all more or less in need of cheering up these days, though: GBF: Basically a teen / highschool comedy, but with a twist. And one of my favorite endings ever when it comes to the central relationship. Breakfast on...
by Sunshine
Fri Nov 11, 2016 12:58 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Trying to stay calm in a scary world
Replies: 8
Views: 3860

Re: Trying to stay calm in a scary world

Thank you for replying! It feels really good to know that I am not alone. Unfortunately, most people around me treat the election and its results as a big joke. They think it doesn't have anything to do with them because it's happening "over there". Well, I have family "over there&quo...
by Sunshine
Thu Nov 10, 2016 1:51 pm
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: Trying to stay calm in a scary world
Replies: 8
Views: 3860

Trying to stay calm in a scary world

Hello everybody. First of all: I am so, so, so sorry for everybody affected by this election. I did expect this outcome, but that's not really helping me personally right now and I can imagine many of you may feel the same. I don't live in the USA, but I am still convinced that this will affect me a...
by Sunshine
Sat Oct 22, 2016 3:18 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: 17th on my 17th
Replies: 8
Views: 2097

Re: 17th on my 17th

Hey there, I can't speak for anybody else of course, but I really don't think anybody on here hates you and I certainly don't. There's a big difference between disapproving of something a person did and disapproving of the person themselves. As for your friends saying what you did was okay and staff...
by Sunshine
Sat Oct 22, 2016 2:44 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Impermanence in relationships, how/if we prepare for it.
Replies: 6
Views: 1633

Re: Impermanence in relationships, how/if we prepare for it.

When I first knew my partner, I did not expect the relationship to last. Not because I thought we were incompatible or too young or too anything, really, just because it seemed statistically so unlikely. We didn't have a real discussion about this, though. I remember I said openly that it was improb...
by Sunshine
Wed Oct 19, 2016 11:47 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: Abuse in the healthcare field
Replies: 9
Views: 4050

Re: Abuse in the healthcare field

Oh Atonement, that's terrible. Talking to your boss sounds like a good idea, certainly. Perhaps you might want to look up the legal situation where you live around matters like these - I know that in my country, no one is required to risk their own safety, not even at the cost of a patients' life . ...
by Sunshine
Tue Jul 19, 2016 2:30 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: How prepared did you feel for getting your first period?
Replies: 9
Views: 4248

Re: How prepared did you feel for getting your first period?

When I got my first period, I was very relieved. I was comparatively old when it happened, and I had been beginning to fear that there was something wrong with me. I was pretty well prepared, I think. My family was very relaxed about nudity and body functions, so I knew what I had to expect. Strange...
by Sunshine
Thu Jun 23, 2016 2:40 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Zero support being Bi
Replies: 17
Views: 3805

Re: Zero support being Bi

Hello Tigger, first of all, I would like to say I admire you hugely. From what you've written here, you have gone through an awful lot and yet you still come across as strong and fighting, even positive. I find your posts incredibly helpful for me personally to read. So thank you for that. You asked...
by Sunshine
Fri Jun 17, 2016 12:26 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Relationship and anxiety
Replies: 5
Views: 1519

Re: Relationship and anxiety

Hey there, man, I am so sorry. It sounds to me as if you had sex you might not have wanted for the sex itself but just because you were hoping it would help your relationship. Did I get that right? Was it your idea / your decision or did you feel pressured to do it? Do you have any idea where your f...
by Sunshine
Fri Jun 17, 2016 11:24 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Talking about sex when he's religious
Replies: 7
Views: 1562

Re: Talking about sex when he's religious

Hey there, do you think it might make you feel more at ease if you began with getting his thoughts and feelings on the matter - or just on sexuality in general? Just a thought, because I'm getting the impression that you're very unsure what his views really are. Perhaps you two are more on the same ...
by Sunshine
Tue Jun 14, 2016 12:39 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Orlando
Replies: 14
Views: 2937

Re: Orlando

Just posting again to make this thread be the most recent one and show up right away when anybody comes to the board. Also to say I am very sorry, didn't want to imply people with mental illness are more violent than anybody else (which they really aren't, folks. That's a common misconception). I gu...
by Sunshine
Tue Jun 14, 2016 12:29 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Being closeted - sort of
Replies: 11
Views: 2908

Re: Being closeted - sort of

Per the second option above - seeking out more queer folk and/or communities - I've suggested that a couple of times, and I notice you not seeming to really take that up. Of course, that's completely up to you, whether you feel like it's something you want to do or can do or not. I just want to che...
by Sunshine
Tue Jun 14, 2016 9:17 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Orlando
Replies: 14
Views: 2937

Re: Orlando

I feel as if I should be angry, but lack the strength. Or the hope. I just feel very sad and helpless. I don't understand, I cannot understand, how a human being can commit such a crime. What could he possibly gain by this? It makes no sense, no sense at all. I also feel very scared for the people I...
by Sunshine
Tue Jun 14, 2016 9:08 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Being closeted - sort of
Replies: 11
Views: 2908

Re: Being closeted - sort of

Thanks, I'm fine with broadening the topic. Am I happy with how I live my queer self? For the most part, yes. I am happy in my relationship. I love my partner. I honestly and fully accept the fact that I am attracted to people of every gender. More than that, I like it, I think it makes my life rich...
by Sunshine
Mon Jun 13, 2016 1:53 pm
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Orlando
Replies: 14
Views: 2937

Re: Orlando

I'd really like to say something, anything, to express sympathy (that's too weak a word, but I can't think of any better right now) with the victims and their families. But I don't know what to say. I don't have words that are adequate for something so horrific. It's times like these where I wish I ...

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