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by Firefly
Wed Oct 20, 2021 11:12 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: not sure what to do now
Replies: 4
Views: 385

Re: not sure what to do now

Thank you, I wasn't sure I was doing the right thing so I'm glad setting a boundary was positive.

I do want to resolve the tension with my dad, while standing by my actions. How do you think is best to open up that conversation?
by Firefly
Wed Oct 20, 2021 8:25 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: not sure what to do now
Replies: 4
Views: 385

not sure what to do now

My dad is normally quite chill and while he does snap occasionally he has never physically hit me since I was a kid (it was his generations way of discipline) But yesterday we were having a stupid fight over beans and he grabbed my wrist and it really, really hurt, so I hit him off me. I was really ...
by Firefly
Sat Sep 18, 2021 8:53 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: my mum won't stop victim blaming me
Replies: 3
Views: 385

Re: my mum won't stop victim blaming me

Thanks! I'm hoping I can get a job soon so I can save money for a flat until then! Leaving the conversation is hard, she usually forces herself into my room and stands by the door. I think I maybe need to work on just not letting her in, and also getting shoes on and maybe getting out of there the n...
by Firefly
Sat Sep 18, 2021 6:06 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: my mum won't stop victim blaming me
Replies: 3
Views: 385

my mum won't stop victim blaming me

this one is kind of long so i apologise I was sexually assaulted (groped) as a teen by my brother frequently over a period of six months. At the time I told my mother and she yelled at me for it. I repressed the incident for years until I went to uni and started hearing my friends etc talk about sex...
by Firefly
Thu Apr 16, 2020 8:46 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I Can't Find My Vagina
Replies: 5
Views: 2855

Re: I Can't Find My Vagina

Glad you enjoyed the pun lol Okay I tried those things but it didn’t work and I got kinda stressed and upser so I stopped With the first one, all I could see was the labia and stuff like () that and I had like two torches cause it’s so dark but I continued only being able to see a () and nothing els...
by Firefly
Thu Apr 16, 2020 5:39 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I Can't Find My Vagina
Replies: 5
Views: 2855

Re: I Can't Find My Vagina

That helps a bit! Sorry I thought I replied already! I have searched a bit for it right and I've been trying to do it once a week to just Normalise it BUT every time i look I find something different 1) Once I put my finger down into something but it stopped quite suddenly so idk if that was the vag...
by Firefly
Fri Feb 28, 2020 1:37 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I Can't Find My Vagina
Replies: 5
Views: 2855

I Can't Find My Vagina

/// please don't reply to this if you are a man, I'm sure you are a nice person but it would make me uncomfortable lol //// Context, for the Longest time I've had a phobia of touching anywhere down there in general, but after a Cyst forced me to touch my labia, and after I lowkey discovered masturba...
by Firefly
Sat Feb 15, 2020 8:23 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I Feel Gross When Men Like Me
Replies: 5
Views: 2303

Re: I Feel Gross When Men Like Me

Thank you so much for this! I think I replied but then got timed out so the reply didn't send, this was so helpful, and I'm feeling a little better! I also managed to talk to a friend a little about it cause i know she has a history of trauma and I wanted to see what she thought It absolutely helps ...
by Firefly
Thu Feb 06, 2020 9:19 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I Feel Gross When Men Like Me
Replies: 5
Views: 2303

Re: I Feel Gross When Men Like Me

Hi, I have contacted someone for counselling but it's a 6 month waiting list so it'll be a while before I can talk these feelings out with a real person. And I also spoke to my GP today about getting put on a wait-list for CBT so hopefully that's a little shorter! I think it does feel like if someon...
by Firefly
Thu Feb 06, 2020 2:57 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I Feel Gross When Men Like Me
Replies: 5
Views: 2303

I Feel Gross When Men Like Me

/// please don't reply to this if you are a man it would make me uncomfortable //// As a survivor of minor sexual trauma (i was groped without consent repeatedly for 6 months when I was 15/16) I've grown up thinking the worst in men. For the longest time I associated male sexual desire as a desire t...
by Firefly
Tue Feb 04, 2020 10:32 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Does Sex / Masturbation / arousal Smell
Replies: 3
Views: 3406

Re: Does Sex / Masturbation / arousal Smell

Haha thank you so much ! I hope none of my family members are secretly Witcher's in disguise Yeah I normally change out my underwear just because it gets /wet/ and feels kinda gross lol I'm so so glad there isn't a specific sex smell, and I have been washing the pillow occasionally (and obviously ke...
by Firefly
Mon Feb 03, 2020 3:24 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Does Sex / Masturbation / arousal Smell
Replies: 3
Views: 3406

Does Sex / Masturbation / arousal Smell

So to begin this very odd question I have to explain that I do not have a sense of smell. This obviously means I can't smell Anything. But I was recently watching The Witcher, and while the main character has many superhuman abilities, in one episode he said he could Smell there was Sex in a room an...
by Firefly
Fri Jan 17, 2020 2:29 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I’ve really hurt my labia and I’m very afria
Replies: 5
Views: 1450

Re: I’ve really hurt my labia and I’m very afria

Hi, sorry for the late reply a lot has happened and now I need help with something kind of minor I ended up telling my cousin (who is a GP about it) and they looked at me and saw I had a big old spot the size of a small marble (probably from an ingrown hair) I have SUCH a phobia of touching anything...
by Firefly
Wed Jan 15, 2020 12:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I’ve really hurt my labia and I’m very afria
Replies: 5
Views: 1450

Re: I’ve really hurt my labia and I’m very afria

Thanks for replying The pain is in the outer labia! But just the left side, it doesn’t look different to normal. It kinda hurts to spread my legs (and walk)! Pressing on it is painful in the way that it would be painful to press a bruise (although there is no bruising) None of the pain is internal b...
by Firefly
Wed Jan 15, 2020 5:22 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I’ve really hurt my labia and I’m very afria
Replies: 5
Views: 1450

I’ve really hurt my labia and I’m very afria

Hi, So I’m not sure how I managed it (I think it started after masterbating) but one side of my labia is in a great deal of pain! It happens when sitting or standing and sometimes it’s not there and sometimes it is It is a weird dull pain as if I’ve pulled a muscle and when I’m wiping myself it hurt...
by Firefly
Wed Oct 30, 2019 7:13 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Can I enjoy sex if I Masturbate wrong
Replies: 5
Views: 2141

Re: Can I enjoy sex if I Masturbate wrong

I'm sorry, I tried to reply to this when you posted but it crashed somehow and I was too tired to write a full reply out again

This is really reassuring to hear! As I've always felt very disconnected from my body, I'm always worried I'm going to hurt it.

Thanks,
by Firefly
Wed Oct 30, 2019 7:08 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I hate what my brother did to me but I feel as though I can tell no one
Replies: 6
Views: 2582

Re: I hate what my brother did to me but I feel as though I can tell no one

Thank you to you both! I'm sorry, I tried to reply to this when you posted but it crashed somehow I would love for you to connect me with some resources for sexual assault survivors that are based in Northern Ireland because I'm really struggling and I don't know where to go! I also find it difficul...
by Firefly
Fri Oct 18, 2019 12:37 pm
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I hate what my brother did to me but I feel as though I can tell no one
Replies: 6
Views: 2582

Re: I hate what my brother did to me but I feel as though I can tell no one

Thank you so much, this brings me so much validation and I appreciate it greatly! Even if its anonomously on the internet, talking about this has made something heavy lift of my chest! I would love to speak to someone like a counsellor or therapist, but I recently moved to Northern Ireland and I hav...
by Firefly
Fri Oct 18, 2019 12:33 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Can I enjoy sex if I Masturbate wrong
Replies: 5
Views: 2141

Re: Can I enjoy sex if I Masturbate wrong

Hi, Thank you this is really reassuring and makes me feel normal about what I've been doing I haven't had anything close to a boyfriend and even if i had I know that I'm not ready for that kind of relationship so it seems strange to be worrying about that now. But I just want to know I'll enjoy sex,...
by Firefly
Fri Oct 18, 2019 4:00 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: I hate what my brother did to me but I feel as though I can tell no one
Replies: 6
Views: 2582

I hate what my brother did to me but I feel as though I can tell no one

THIS IS SUCH A LONG POST IM VERY SORRY So to start things off I want to say that even writing this I feel as though people are going to scoff at it and to dismiss it as something really minor. This is a horrifying thought because I feel I've not being able to look at my body the same way since. When...
by Firefly
Fri Oct 18, 2019 3:27 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Can I enjoy sex if I Masturbate wrong
Replies: 5
Views: 2141

Can I enjoy sex if I Masturbate wrong

Hi, So first of all due to some Trauma as a teen I have a weird fear of my area down below. Recently I've discovered masturbation, and that some things I've been doing because they feel nice (squeezing legs together) can be considered stimulating. Last month I also realised it feels really good to p...
by Firefly
Sun Apr 12, 2015 3:53 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm really upset/scared, I find vaginas gross and today I..
Replies: 4
Views: 1242

Re: I'm really upset/scared, I find vaginas gross and today

Thanks for replying,

I'm not sure ? I don't feel this way about anything else in my body ? Sometimes my feet gross me out but I don't think that counts
by Firefly
Sun Apr 12, 2015 3:16 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I'm really upset/scared, I find vaginas gross and today I..
Replies: 4
Views: 1242

I'm really upset/scared, I find vaginas gross and today I..

Today I looked at my female genitals for the first time ever and It was super gross. I've always found genitals disgusting and the idea of something going up there (be it male genitals or tampons) REALLY grosses me out? For me its like nails on a chalkboard or a really disturbing scene from a movie ...

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