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Hi suomi,

I think it might be helpful to express this fear - let them know that you don't want to pressure them into anything they don't want to do. Have you brought up anything that you'd like to do in the past? If so, what was the response like?

Hi lucy! I hope it's okay that I'm jumping in. Starting a conversation around this can be intimidating! One suggestion that the article gives is to write down what you're going to say. This could be really helpful to gather and sort your thoughts before approaching your mom. It also might be helpful...

Hi seuniemonki! I hope it's okay that I'm jumping in here. The symptoms you mentioned could be a combination of stress and your body adjusting to the pill. Endometriosis symptoms can also be at play here. They might go away as stress alleviates and your body adjusts. But I would also recommend that ...

Hi airiune, I understand that society does really inflict a certain standard on what is a normal time frame to start having certain experiences. I also want to say that you are definitely not alone, even though I know it can feel a little lonely when it's made to seem like everyone is having certain...

Hi iloveeveryone, My first recommendation is to make a doctor's appointment, especially if you're bleeding. I can't diagnose you but is it possible that you at one point fell and hurt that area? I once slightly fractured my tailbone and it's always felt a little tender and it's been years. I underst...

Hi dekuslilbb, Welcome to the boards! Something that I think doesn't get talked about enough is that bodies all develop in different ways. This includes hymens. I'm saying this because there isn't one right or normal way for something to be. Can I ask if this is causing you any physical pain? Is the...

Hi there -- just another clarifying question: has the behavior gotten better at all since the bf left? I'm so sorry that you are experiencing this. From what you have described, it sounds like gaslighting to me and I'm sure it's really hurtful to not get any accountability or an apology for what has...

Hi Nameless, Welcome to the boards! I just want to start out by saying that curiosity is very normal and that you are not weird for not having done certain things before. We all move at our own pace through life and that is totally healthy. You asked if you should be doing things - can I ask what th...

Hi dollparties, I hope it's okay that I'm jumping in here. Firstly, you mentioned suicidal thoughts and I want to share this helpline for you to contact when you are experiencing these thoughts, as your safety is the most important thing: https://talksuicide.ca/ You mention that your partner is insi...

Hi HaughtyBaker, Welcome to the boards! Thank you for sharing a little bit about how you're feeling. I just want to ask some clarifying questions - What are you scared of people finding out? You said you feel like a liability and that what people will find out can be used as proof against your ident...

Hi Melanie,

The morning after pill would be recommended if sex without a second barrier or contraceptive method happens. I know you said in your original post that you are unable to get the morning after pill so I would strongly recommend on using a second contraceptive method, like condoms.

Hi Melanie, Welcome to the boards! From what I've read on multiple websites, it seems that the grace period is anywhere from 12-24 hours. The most common grace period given is 12 hours and if it is more than that, then it's recommended to use an additional form of contraception (like condoms) for th...

Hi HereAndQueer, Welcome to the boards! From what I understand, you are looking for a toy for trying anal sex for the first time and that you've done the research on lube and other preparation. There are a couple of toys I would recommend right away, anal plugs and dildos. For dildos, I would recomm...

Hi naurmi008,

There's a small chance but it's not likely if you ate and drank after. Here is some more information about sperm here: https://www.scarleteen.com/blog/patrici ... perm_cells

Hi 55, With any new medication, the body does need to take time to adjust. I know that this is a concern for you and I'm wondering if this is just your body adjusting to the medication. Does it feel okay to wait another couple weeks and see if things have improved? Otherwise I would recommend talkin...

Hi there, I hope it's okay that I am jumping in. I think it's really great that you are thinking about your boundaries and limits before re-entering this again. I would definitely list those boundaries and limits for yourself. And I understand your concerns for potential abusive or scary interaction...

Hi Forri, I think that's really wonderful that your family is so supportive and I also understand how that feels to not be aligned with the name you have. I started using a new name at the beginning of the year. I knew the name I was given at birth wasn't feeling good anymore but at the time I didn'...

Hi Forri,

Can I ask what smooth skin means to you? Do you mean smooth as in soft skin or smooth as in hairless? I just wanted to clarify first since smooth skin can have different meanings.

Hi marylee, First, I just want to say that condoms don't really get micro-tears. When a condom rip, it's very noticeable. I hope this helps to alleviate any anxiety about condoms! Secondly, some birth control pills lose effectiveness if stored in higher temperatures. I would recommend storing the pi...

Hi raily, You are using multiple methods to prevent pregnancy and it seems like you are very diligent about taking your birth control pills and checking your period app. I don't think there is a thing as "too safe" so long as you feel comfortable with your methods and it's also helping to ...

Hi zeelow, Thank you for sharing what's going on. It takes a lot of vulnerability to share these things. You mentioned some genital repulsion and dysphoria. Would it be helpful to try a technique that doesn't require touching yourself with your hand? I understand how stressful it can be on the mind ...

I think making phone calls and communicating about tough topics (health definitely being one of them) is a pretty common thing that people struggle with. Speaking for myself, I really struggle with reaching out to doctors and making phone calls and I'm in my 30's. I usually have to give myself a lit...

Hi 55, I also struggle with anxiety and can see where you're coming from. From what I understand, it is not recommended to massage the injection site right after injection but twisting around should not affect the injection. What they are referring to is hard rubbing of the muscles at the injection ...

Hi FireFlerg, Welcome to the boards! I just want to start off by saying that everyone has different ways of experiencing pleasure. Something that might feel good for one person can be not good for another person. Sometimes you do have to try masturbation in a variety of different ways before figurin...

Hi Elly, I think it's important to listen to your intuition and what you feel is right with this. Getting into relationships just to be in a relationship could hurt the other person and break their trust. But it also wouldn't feel good for you either. You deserve to surround yourself with people you...